Just wondering how people's health care providers have spoken to them through out the miscarriage process and what your preference would be. Have they been sensitive or straight forward, pussy footed about or been a complete insensitive prat?
Initially the scan tech tried to be a bit subtle and cryptic. He was meant to scan me and then sent me up. I just asked him straight out, "so what are we seeing here". He still seemed very uncomfortable in conveying bad news.
The nurse was much more up front and was completely straight forward with her language. I got the impression she could adapt to whatever the communication needs of her client. I went in and was very matter of fact about things, so she was too.
I don't think I find it very helpful when HCP's are overly nice. I just want facts from them. And I don't want them to be too nice as that would leave me emotionally vulnerable. I'd rather be emotional at home and just deal with the practicalities when face to face with a HCP. And in order to deal with certain practicalities they need to be blunt.
But.....I do reckon that the upfront approach I would find most helpful would also feel cold and insensitive to someone else. Just as a more sensitive approach someone else would find comforting would annoy me and leave me feeling patronised.
So I was just wondering what other peoples experiences of communication from health care providers was like. Too cold? Insensitive? Too fluffy?
Initially the scan tech tried to be a bit subtle and cryptic. He was meant to scan me and then sent me up. I just asked him straight out, "so what are we seeing here". He still seemed very uncomfortable in conveying bad news.
The nurse was much more up front and was completely straight forward with her language. I got the impression she could adapt to whatever the communication needs of her client. I went in and was very matter of fact about things, so she was too.
I don't think I find it very helpful when HCP's are overly nice. I just want facts from them. And I don't want them to be too nice as that would leave me emotionally vulnerable. I'd rather be emotional at home and just deal with the practicalities when face to face with a HCP. And in order to deal with certain practicalities they need to be blunt.
But.....I do reckon that the upfront approach I would find most helpful would also feel cold and insensitive to someone else. Just as a more sensitive approach someone else would find comforting would annoy me and leave me feeling patronised.
So I was just wondering what other peoples experiences of communication from health care providers was like. Too cold? Insensitive? Too fluffy?