Cautiously Pregnant & New to this Section

[xobabyhopes]

Hi ladies, we just got our on Nov 2 & 3. i must admit that i i really nervous about this pregnancy as we lost out little on in February earlier this year at 11w almost 12w. I have had some cramping this time around and its just random and feels like pressure in my pelvis if that makes sense. I know its prob just implantation pain as of now but im sure you guys know how after a loss you pay attention to EVERY LITTLE TWINGE. praying for a sticky this time

 

[Tournesol]

I really hope your bean is extra sticky this time.
Try to be as positive as you can

 

[Little Tulip]

Hi there,
I'm new to this as well but am busy reading lots on the net in the hope of easing my concerns.
My story briefly:-
I had a miscarriage in August 2012. (The Little Tulip did get a HB but only developed to 6w1d. I required D & C)
I am now pregnant again and things have not gone smootly.
My first HCG came back quite low and it was suggested I would miscarry and require D & C.
I KNEW 100% THAT I OVULATED VERY LATE AND HOPED THAT WAS THE REASON.
I continued to have bloods taken at about 3/4 day intervals and levels did increase accordingly every time. Dr still said they were too low given my LMP!
Today I went to see GP/OB to get a better idea of whats going on.
She said either I'm just not as far along as I thought or possibly ectopic pregnancy and sent me straight off for ultrasound.
By LMP today was 7w1d.
Ultrasound showed little one with HB measuring 5w3d. (No chance of ectopic)
I am praying that it is just a result of late ovulation.
Was told to try and relax and not worry and to return for another scan in 7-10 days to see if things develop as planned.

Like you I am feeling every little niggle and a little cramping too!

Where are you at, have you had any HCG testing or scans?

 

[xobabyhopes]

nope, no testing or anything yet. first appt Nov 20

 

[Charlee]

Just to let you know ladies, I went through the same thing, My first pregnancy ended in a mc at 11 weeks, I got pregnant a year later and worried the whole time. I'm currently sat with my 7 week old baby in my arms. Honestly, enjoy it, I wasted so much time worrying. Thoughts and hopes are with you xx

 

[xobabyhopes]

thanks so much charlee and im glad you have your rainbow he looks absolutely adorable.

little tulip- sorry for the short reply, i was at work and my boss walked in lol i am really hoping that you just o'ed late and this little one is ok. ill be praying for you

 

[mackjess]

Tulip - this is why you hear so often about a due date from your prego friends, then the due date changes. I'm almost certain it's the OV date being off. I just found out last month using OPKs that I OV much later than I thought I did. I have such a normal 28 day you could set a calendar to it cycle, that I assumed I OV'd when I was supposed to. Noooope! I have a very short luteal phase! Fingers crossed for a great scan next week.

xobabyhopes - I'm glad you started this thread. I was just getting ready to start one of my own and you had already said exactly what I wanted to!!

Here's my story-
I'm 35, married for 4 years and DH thought we never wanted kids. Very recently we started thinking 'maybe' we did. I'd been on the pill almost 15 years, and they say if you are on it that long it can take 6 months or longer before you can get pregnant. I had just quit taking it in June, thinking we could decide after the 1st of the year what we wanted to do. I got pregnant in August, so they were wrong about it taking awhile to start functioning in my case! LOL.

I had a natural m/c on Sept 15, no D&C needed because my HCG was at a 3 soon after. I did ovulate again on 10/2 but I was using the OPK to not try yet. I wasn't ready emotionally. We weren't even trying to begin with so it was quite a shock, then losing the baby only 48 hours after getting used to the idea was unbelievable.

I started using OPKs and Pre-seed and taking baby asprin. OV'd again the end of October and went for it!! Got BFPs Thursday and Friday. Went to the lab at my OB and they drew blood to check my HCG and progesterone. I guess they did bloodwork during my m/c and my progesterone was really low, probably because I'm so new off of the pill.

Now, I'm just waiting super impatiently for bloodwork results Monday. I think they can tell early on if it's a chemical pregnancy. I get scared every time I go pee that I might see blood. Almost panicked this morning because I had cramps when I woke up at 6am. (I usually sleep til about 9 on weekends, the cramps woke me up) Realized after I was a bit more alert that it wasn't cramps, I WAS HUNGRY. LOL. I'm a dork.

I'd really like to be excited to be pregnant. But I just can't get there yet. Maybe if I stay prego longer than 48 hours this time I will believe it.

And thank you Charlee for the encouragement.

 

[xobabyhopes]

Tulip - this is why you hear so often about a due date from your prego friends, then the due date changes. I'm almost certain it's the OV date being off. I just found out last month using OPKs that I OV much later than I thought I did. I have such a normal 28 day you could set a calendar to it cycle, that I assumed I OV'd when I was supposed to. Noooope! I have a very short luteal phase! Fingers crossed for a great scan next week.

xobabyhopes - I'm glad you started this thread. I was just getting ready to start one of my own and you had already said exactly what I wanted to!!

Here's my story-
I'm 35, married for 4 years and DH thought we never wanted kids. Very recently we started thinking 'maybe' we did. I'd been on the pill almost 15 years, and they say if you are on it that long it can take 6 months or longer before you can get pregnant. I had just quit taking it in June, thinking we could decide after the 1st of the year what we wanted to do. I got pregnant in August, so they were wrong about it taking awhile to start functioning in my case! LOL.

I had a natural m/c on Sept 15, no D&C needed because my HCG was at a 3 soon after. I did ovulate again on 10/2 but I was using the OPK to not try yet. I wasn't ready emotionally. We weren't even trying to begin with so it was quite a shock, then losing the baby only 48 hours after getting used to the idea was unbelievable.

I started using OPKs and Pre-seed and taking baby asprin. OV'd again the end of October and went for it!! Got BFPs Thursday and Friday. Went to the lab at my OB and they drew blood to check my HCG and progesterone. I guess they did bloodwork during my m/c and my progesterone was really low, probably because I'm so new off of the pill.

Now, I'm just waiting super impatiently for bloodwork results Monday. I think they can tell early on if it's a chemical pregnancy. I get scared every time I go pee that I might see blood. Almost panicked this morning because I had cramps when I woke up at 6am. (I usually sleep til about 9 on weekends, the cramps woke me up) Realized after I was a bit more alert that it wasn't cramps, I WAS HUNGRY. LOL. I'm a dork.

I'd really like to be excited to be pregnant. But I just can't get there yet. Maybe if I stay prego longer than 48 hours this time I will believe it.

And thank you Charlee for the encouragement.

first i am so sorry for your loss but i am also very excited for your new journey.

-see when we lost our LO i technically MC just 4 days prior, just shy of 12w, but my body wasnt reacting how it should have been. no bleeding, cervix closed everything was fine just i had these double me over, cant breath or walk cramps. for that entire week i was a hot mess, i didnt get off the couch or bed unless it was for potty breaks or food. i didnt talk to anyone beside my husband i became like obsessed with reading up on MC and the future pregnancies since our "dumb luck" affected our baby with a severe trisomy with little survival rate, not hereditary but still enought ofreak me out. Not having kids wasnt an option for us lol when i was little and people asked me what i wanted to be when i grew up i always said mom, i was that little girl. ha so we started NTNP as soon as possible, the first few months were hard when i would test everymonth and see that negative but it became easier the more i realized the less i stressed the easier it would come.

-now we are just in the waiting game for our first appt that is now this tuesday since i had a little cramping at work, i panicked and called my dr. he is awesome and knew i was on the verge of tears so he moved us up, god love him. i am def in the same boat as you though, every time i pee im like checking for blood anything.

i too wish i could be excited but until i have that baby in my arms alive, healthy and all in one piece i will not be excited ha

 

[mackjess]

first i am so sorry for your loss but i am also very excited for your new journey.

-see when we lost our LO i technically MC just 4 days prior, just shy of 12w, but my body wasnt reacting how it should have been. no bleeding, cervix closed everything was fine just i had these double me over, cant breath or walk cramps. for that entire week i was a hot mess, i didnt get off the couch or bed unless it was for potty breaks or food. i didnt talk to anyone beside my husband i became like obsessed with reading up on MC and the future pregnancies since our "dumb luck" affected our baby with a severe trisomy with little survival rate, not hereditary but still enought ofreak me out. Not having kids wasnt an option for us lol when i was little and people asked me what i wanted to be when i grew up i always said mom, i was that little girl. ha so we started NTNP as soon as possible, the first few months were hard when i would test everymonth and see that negative but it became easier the more i realized the less i stressed the easier it would come.

-now we are just in the waiting game for our first appt that is now this tuesday since i had a little cramping at work, i panicked and called my dr. he is awesome and knew i was on the verge of tears so he moved us up, god love him. i am def in the same boat as you though, every time i pee im like checking for blood anything.

i too wish i could be excited but until i have that baby in my arms alive, healthy and all in one piece i will not be excited ha

You poor thing! I know that feeling weird twinges and cramps when pregnant is very normal, but I will totally freak out if/when that happens to me!! What you went through must have been so hard, but it gives me faith that our bodies know what they are doing. Praying that we got it right this time.

Today I've had a bit of food cravings and queasiness and my boobs already feel huge and hurt. They are already huge and look silly on me because I'm little and 5ft tall, so if they keep getting bigger by the minute this is really going to be ridiculous! LOL

I've gotten a little more excited today. Last time I was 9 days late before I got a weak positive and didn't have symptoms until then. This time my period isn't even due until Monday, I got positive tests 2 days ago and already have symptoms. NO WAY this can be a chemical again.

Praying for 12 weeks to get here. I will be at 11.5 weeks at Xmas. Since I'm 35 I also have to do extra genetic testing. They don't do most of the tests til 13 weeks, but there is a pre-screening scan they can do at weeks 11-13 that points to any additional tests I might need. I'm going to beg and plead my OB to do that at 11 weeks so we can tell everyone at Christmas if it comes back normal. I think she will. Like your OB she knows I am anxious. Usually you don't get an appt with her until you are 8 weeks (I got referred to one of the best OBs in my area at handling high risk because I am 35, was on the pill FOREVER and have a few auto-immune disorders that will have to be monitored) but I can get phone calls from her very knowledgeable nurses any hour of any day and she put a standing order in for me at their walk-in lab to check my HCG and progesterone. I really want to tell everyone since my family lives all over the place. We all get together on xmas eve, and it would just be awesome.

Heck, if I even make it to 6 weeks I will be excited. I only knew for a day and half I was pregnant before I m/c before. I'm already breaking that record! As tough as it is after a loss, I know we will appreciate every little milestone we get. I will always miss the angel I never got to see, and that must be why our Rainbow babies are so very special.

 

[xobabyhopes]

You poor thing! I know that feeling weird twinges and cramps when pregnant is very normal, but I will totally freak out if/when that happens to me!! What you went through must have been so hard, but it gives me faith that our bodies know what they are doing. Praying that we got it right this time.

Today I've had a bit of food cravings and queasiness and my boobs already feel huge and hurt. They are already huge and look silly on me because I'm little and 5ft tall, so if they keep getting bigger by the minute this is really going to be ridiculous! LOL

I've gotten a little more excited today. Last time I was 9 days late before I got a weak positive and didn't have symptoms until then. This time my period isn't even due until Monday, I got positive tests 2 days ago and already have symptoms. NO WAY this can be a chemical again.

Praying for 12 weeks to get here. I will be at 11.5 weeks at Xmas. Since I'm 35 I also have to do extra genetic testing. They don't do most of the tests til 13 weeks, but there is a pre-screening scan they can do at weeks 11-13 that points to any additional tests I might need. I'm going to beg and plead my OB to do that at 11 weeks so we can tell everyone at Christmas if it comes back normal. I think she will. Like your OB she knows I am anxious. Usually you don't get an appt with her until you are 8 weeks (I got referred to one of the best OBs in my area at handling high risk because I am 35, was on the pill FOREVER and have a few auto-immune disorders that will have to be monitored) but I can get phone calls from her very knowledgeable nurses any hour of any day and she put a standing order in for me at their walk-in lab to check my HCG and progesterone. I really want to tell everyone since my family lives all over the place. We all get together on xmas eve, and it would just be awesome.

Heck, if I even make it to 6 weeks I will be excited. I only knew for a day and half I was pregnant before I m/c before. I'm already breaking that record! As tough as it is after a loss, I know we will appreciate every little milestone we get. I will always miss the angel I never got to see, and that must be why our Rainbow babies are so very special.

oh my goodness ill be that far along at that time too i believe, my second tri start on the first day of the new year! how awesome that is

i also have to get the genetic testing done since we both have a few family members on each side of our families that have a form of mental ******ation. we are both healthy though, aside from sinus problems, thank god. thats awesome that your OB is being so understanding too, especially putting in standing orders for bloodwork and all that.

im hoping to tell more immediate family after christmas and then everyone else when we find out what we are having. i made the mistake of telling everyone at 7w last time and then had to tell them a month later that we had an angel. So we will not being doing that again until we are "out of the woods" for the most part.

Found this poem the other day and its so beautiful:
"Rainbow Babies" is the understanding that the beauty of a rainbow does not negate the ravages of the storm. When a rainbow appears, it doesn't mean the storm never happened or that the family is not still dealing with its aftermath. What it means is that something beautiful and full of light has appeared in the midst of the darkness and clouds. Storm clouds may still hover but the rainbow provides a counterbalance of color, energy and hope.

 

[mackjess]

yea she isn't super available for appointments but at least other resources are there for me. I love the poem, thank you for sharing.

 

[mackjess]

little paranoid. slight spotting this morning. only when I wipe after I pee, not enough to get in my undies. No cramps. kinda brown, mucusy. sorry for all the tmi. had a darker line on my frer this morning so that's good, and my boobs still feel very sore. af would start tomorrow so I don't know if could be implantation. skeered!

 

[xobabyhopes]

ah i hope everything is ok with LO & im sure its just implantation.

-not having the best day either, hubby decided he has a headache and isnt going to help clean up. of course we ending up yelling and arguing with eachother. i dont understand why men are so lazy when they dont feel good bu they expect us to do it all, its ridiculous

 

[xobabyhopes]

oh and brown blood is old blood, i was told that with my last pregnancy. so crossing my fingers for you & saying a prayer

 

[donna noble]

I like that poem especially since the named the baby I lost storm.

My husband is totally the same way when he is sick! Yet gets mad at me for not helping when I'm sick or tired now.

 

[mackjess]

thanks, it seemed to stop for awhile. took a nap and then a teensy bit more spotting after I woke up. still brown and not enough to show on my liner so I think I'm ok. No cramping. I was even good and didn't call the ob. She will be calling me in the morning with my bloodwork from Friday anyway. hoping she will have me come in again to see if the hcg has gone up

 

[Jox]

Congratulations on ur bfp x

Once ur holding ur rainbow in ur arms all this stress & pain becomes worth it x

 

[xobabyhopes]

thanks jox!

mackjess- good im glad that there is no cramping and its just a teensy bit. good for you that you didnt even call the OB lol

my first appt is tomorrow at 10:45, i am beyond excited but kinda nervous too since i had a little bit of cramping the other night at work. like i said its gone now, just a gassy feeling. honestly this is tmi but its kind of like when you have to have a BM. ill keep y'all posted tomorrow

 

[mackjess]

I can't wait for your appointment tomorrow!

 

[xobabyhopes]

i know, i will try to post a picture of our LO when i get home from work hopw you get good news about your bloodwork today!

-gotta run, have to get hubby ready for work lol