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[LadyL]

Well, I ended up replying back. I wasn't going to, but someone had the nerve to say she felt sorry for my kid. And why did I even bother having kids if I was going to be bothered with having to wake up at night to feed him!! Wow! I couldn't just sit there and read such harsh comments without defending myself and the love I have for my son!!

 

[StranjeGirl]

I had to respond to that thread because it just boils my blood. THat whole forum should be shut down...they are such a bunch of judgmental bitches (excuse my language, but I couldn't think of a nicer word) I wonder what they would think of the fact that I have let my baby cry in her swing while I took a shower. I'm sure that would be child abuse in their eyes. Sorry you had to deal with that ladyL. I'm interested in hearing how the rice cereal goes! Even an extra hour can be very helpful!

 

[trixie79]

my god lady wat cows!!!.......im a health visitor and would recommend no sleeping in beds and no early feeding....but OMG when you have your own baby all that theory goes out the window!!!!!!!!!ill be feeding conor earlier to get rid of the reflux!!!!!!!!!!
and as for bed i take him in with me in the mornings!!!!!
i must be a crap health visitor!!!!

anywho.....conor slept ALL night!!!!!7.30 AND ITS NOW 8AM AND IS SLEEPING STILL WITH DADDY UPSTAIRS!!!! i took him in when he woke at 6.30am..
OMG its bliss!

stranje i have been reading conors cues now too and some days are better than others........i have ordered a love u zoo jumperoo cause he is a little goer!!
the swing is ok but he wont sit in the bouncer anymore and we use the pram for naps at the minute!

every baby is different and we do wat we need to do to make life easier....so lady you feed him if you want and dont listen to those judgemental cows who's lives and babies are bloody perfect! xxx

 

[Fizzio]

Those replies to your post have brought out of lurking Lady! I am incensed by it. You know your baby better than anyone and you are an intelligent and loving Mum and will do what you feel is right for your baby. I know my Mum gave me and brother baby rice at 3 months. I can't help with how much you should give him but as for the routine, I have my Amber in a routine for feeds (FF) and it works for her and me. I feel sorry for all those ladies on that thread who are so judgmental plus the one who had a 7 month old that fed every 2 hours - that would drive me insane. I definitely subscribe to the happy, less stressed Mum will help lead to happy baby. (Although I have a happy baby and I am a not so happy Mum due to PND but I'm getting there!) xx

 

[baby2310]

Take no notice lady. Those stupid cows don't know what they re talkin about. You know your child best. Don't let anyone make you doubt that. It really pisses me off when people reply to judge. I wish they wouldn't bother replying if they got nothing useful to say grrrr!!!!

 

[LadyL]

Thanks ladies!! I feel the love!! I did give him a touch of cereal last night (1 tbsp to 6 oz BM)....and guess what!! He's still ALIVE!! OMG!! Haha!

But really, it didn't do much as far as helping him sleep longer. Still woke at 1, but he tolerated it well. No gas or tummy issues, and no crazy diaper explosions or anything. I'm sure since I gave him such a minuscule amount, I'm sure it didn't hurt anything.

Stranje, I have had to let Jack scream sometimes while I do some things too. He always tends to wake and start crying as soon as I hook myself up to the breast pump, and it's nearly impossible for me to pick him up to console him. My doctor said no baby has ever died from crying too long!

Trixie, that is such awesome news that Conor slept for so long!! Hopefully Jack will be following along his footsteps soon enough.

Fizzio, I'm glad to hear things are getting better for you. Please don't hesitate coming to us with anything. Unlike some of the other forums on here, we are all here to help each other and not pass judgment on others. And things will get better for you with time. I think everyone goes through a touch of PND, some just more than others. I never really believed that before having Jack, but I totally understand now.

 

[StranjeGirl]

So glad you got your thread closed lady...I honestly hate that forum. I think people didn't realize that it wasn't about the advice given, it was about HOW it was given. I was even surprised at the moderator. Oh well, sorry to hear you didn't get any extra sleep. Will she take more than her normal amt before bed? Maybe if she eats more then she will sleep longer?

I came to the realization today that I am just not going to figure giada out. She is a baby and every day is different lol. Just when I think I have everything under control, I realize I do not! The things I did yesterday that worked so well, didn't work at all today. ALthoguh she was pretty good today so no complaints. I fed her extra during the day to see if she will go longer tonight. She usually goes down at 9pm and she fell asleep at like 6:45pm, so I woke her up at 8:45 to feed her and put her back down. Not sure if that late sleeping will mess her up, but she only slept an hour and a half earlier in the day.

So glad conor did so well trixie!!! DId you do anything differently that you can think of?

Does anyone else feel that DH or OH just doesn't understand what it is like to take care of a baby all day? Dh and I got into an argument tonight and I am really upset. I know he is very stressed and tired and probably just taking it out on me, and I am very tired too. ALthough we have talked about it and he says he understands how difficult it is to care for a child, sometimes, like tonight when we were arguing, he makes comments like "you sit around all day and take care of the baby" and he said it in a way that made it seem like it wasn't a very difficult job. I get so offended at this because I feel like he really doesn't understand. When he has to take care of the baby he realizes it is very demanding, but I also get everything prepared for him, and that is all he has to do. At that time he is not having to take care of the house, pay the bills, go to the grocery store, continue unpacking since we've moved, do the babies laundry, order diapers and formula etc. I feel like even understanding men dont REALLY understand. And especially that first month when everything is so painful. I don't know it just really bothers me. Does anyone else feel this way?

Well happy Easter to everyone celebrating! I hope you are feeling a bit better Fizzio. I know it takes a little time, but hang in there!

 

[LadyL]

Thanks Stranje, I'm glad to have that stupid thread closed too! I know, I don't think anyone was understanding that I didn't have a problem with them trying to explain the risks to me (which I was already aware of), it was how they were saying. And some were just downright mean!! And I also thought the moderator was a bit biased against me too, but perhaps she only read the last post I wrote (which was kinda mean, but I had had enough!!), but all the others I wrote, I felt were classy and not nearly as mean as what the others had written. But oh well, that's behind me, and I won't be going back into that forum again!!

Sorry Giada turned the tables again on you. I think the only predictable thing about babies, is that they are unpredictable!! Ha! One day, they are the most placid, sweet little things, and the next they can be screaming monsters! Ha. We just have to take it day by day.

And yes, I know what you mean about husbands not fully understanding how taxing it can be taking care of a baby all day. My husband is really helpful and he will even get up at night to feed Jack while I pump. I'm really lucky to have him help, but I feel like sometimes he'll come in from work and wonder why the house isn't clean or why I haven't had a chance to cook supper. It's like, the baby has been crying all day, won't take a nap, and I haven't even had a chance to take a shower!!! Even when the baby is having a good day, it's still hard. It's like your brain always has to be "on". It can be very tiring. And not to mention our hormones are still trying to balance themselves out.

I can't remember, are you going back to work? I'm hoping some of these things will be better once I go back to work, and DH and I will be on similar footing then. But still, like you said, I'll be the one getting all of Jack's things ready for the nanny and bathing him and things like that, so it will still be a bit harder on me I guess. Oh well, I guess that's why we're called "mama"!!

Happy Easter to everyone! I'm off to my parent's for the afternoon to celebrate and eat yummy food!!

 

[LadyL]

Oh, forgot to say, I gave the cereal bottle again last night, and Jack slept an hour longer than he normally does!! He woke up at 3, and then he only took half the amount of his bottle than normal, and went right back to sleep, then he slept til 6, and only took 3 oz then too. So, I don't know if it was the cereal or not, but I am one happy mama!! I hope he continues this new sleep/eat pattern.

 

[Claire1]

Sorry to hear about the other thread lady, I dont tend to go on much else now as I got fed up of people being rude and judgemental on threads. I'm sticking with you gals!!
great news about the cereal doing its job, might give it a go myself! Darcey still tends to do a 5hr stretch and then back to 3hrs so might be worth it.

I agree with you Straje, you cant read babies..well I cant read mine. Every day is different for us but we get by.

Hope you're feeling rested Trixie, hope it contiues for you.

Glad your feeling a bit better Fizzio. x

 

[Tobaira]

hey girls - have been crazy busy lately, my in-laws left after 2.5 mos and I am super busy all the time now. Hope everyone is doing well, sorry I don't have time to read through the posts. Just wanted to let you all know that it turns out the girls are identical - we had a genetics/dna test done to check since the doctor's said they were fraternal but they look so much alike. Turns out the docs were wrong!

hope everyone had a wonderful Easter, we took the girls to my parents to see the family - first time the cousins got to meet them so that was cool. I'll try to get on later this week and catch up. my sister-in-law will be with us this next week so hopefully I'll have a moment or two free!

 

[trixie79]

That's great Tobaira glad you and the girls are well...

Conor is back to waking at 3 am but that's ok cause at least it's a regular thing!!! The sleeping through that nite was obviously a fluck!!! Ah well!

He still cries a lot during the day but at least when he goes to bed at 8 he will stay ther till 3 then have 6 oz and then sleep till 7! Can't complain abt that!
The only thing is that he refuses to finish at least 2 of his feeds... Only the past week! He drools a lot so I know the teeth are a comin!!! Great! Wonder is that why he not eating as much???

I agree wit OH not having a clue but mine had been at home a lot and I can even see him frustrated wit Conor sometimes so I know he knows it's hard work. I gave out to him abt the housework though.... He would sit and watch me do it!!!!! Men!

The sex life has gone down the swanny though... Any one else???

 

[baby2310]

Hey ladies hope you all had a fab easter!

We have had a few unsettled days, Callum has been awake most of the day and night for the past 3 days! Looks like he's had his growth spurt as midwife weighed him today and he is now 8 lbs 10 ozs! He has put on 13 ozs in a week!
Today is the first day he has started to settle again so guessing the growth spurt is what was causing it.
He's a very good baby, only seems to cry when he is hungry and even at 12 days seems to have a sort of routine, feeding every 3 hours or so. Feel very blessed at the moment, although will be lovely when he starts sleeping for longer at night
Glad the girls are doing well Tobaira.
Sorry the through the night sleep was a fluke trixie, at least he has a routine though. Hope the teething period isn't too stressful for you. My sil is trying to using the teething powder to settle her 6 month old and it goes everywhere, think they're going to swap back to bonjela. Also she has some teething rings which you can put in the fridge for him to chew on.

 

[trixie79]

Yeah I give him Aston and parson powder and embasol as well on his dummy!

He is 12 weeks today!!! Doesn't time fly!

 

[baby2310]

Can't believe how old the babies are, i still remember most of you ladies getting your Its amazing how quick the time has passed!

 

[lilrojo]

Love your avatar pic baby so cute..

Happy to hear everyone is doing well..

Bryce is doing great.. growing so fast.. have his 2 month appt this upcoming monday.. he's sleeping a good 5 hours at night too so thats been great.. also my dd is potty trained so only one diaper to change for now.. she is almost 3.. time is going so fast..

 

[StranjeGirl]

So glad everyone is doing well!

Trixie I swear our babies are twins! Giada slept for almost 10 hours 2 nights in a row, sunday and monday, and then last night she woke up at 3:30 after only 6 hours. I don't understand. I can see varying by an hour or so, but 4 hours?? ANd she is hungry when she gets up too. She ate 8 oz. Oh well, Like you I am not complaining because she eats and then goes back to sleep. Unfortunately it takes her an hour to eat the 8 oz but at least there is no fussing or anything.

Oh no, she is waking up! I haven't even taken a shower yet!!! Hope everyone is feeling well!!

 

[Claire1]

Darcey is the same Lilrojo, she does 5hrs then every 3hrs. Though last night was weird, she only did 2hrs after she went down then 4hrs, I dont know...we seem to be all over the place sometimes.

Ladies with sleeping babies, would you say they sleep better if they've eaten more during the day?? I only ask because she is nearly 9 weeks old and on a maximum of 5oz, but she can take anything from 3-5oz during the day every 3-4 hrs. I wonder if I try and harder to get her to take more she might sleep better?? Wishful thinking!!

 

[StranjeGirl]

Claire I haven't been able to totally figure it out, but I do think taking more during the day really helps. Sometimes it doesn't, but I think that may be when she needs even more for growing. Giada eats a lot right before bed. I do bottle then bed, and if she starts to fall asleep while eating, I change her diaper to make sure she gets as much as she needs before going to bed. She usually just naturally eats more at that feeding. You could give it a try trying to feed her a bit more, especially before bed, and see if it helps. I wish babies were easier to understand!

 

[Claire1]

Erugh, I know. I dont understand mine at all

Well, last night was the same. She fed at 10 took about 5oz and slept till 12am, then fed and up at 4am and been awake since then...its now nearly 8am!!! I'm soooo tired Why is she going backwards, thought they were supposed to get easier around 8 weeks ha ha.

Ive een thinking today if this continues till sunday, then I might try and get onto a routine. Ive been pretty much led by her, but it doesnt seem to be doing much!

All though, do you think they can sleep too much during the day? She loves her swing and its the only place she will nap properly apart from the pram. Shes been taking a long nap in the afternoon. She only ever cat napped before we got the swing, she would wake as soon as we put her down. How long do your lo's nap for? I might have to try and start putting her down somewhere for a proper sleep, because at the moment its pretty much where ever she drops off to sleep, normally her swing. It could be difficult to start with because hubby works nights and she would probably cry for the first few days.

I'm really am at a loose end, Ive the contented baby book and 12hrs sleep by 12 weeks books, but ive always been reluctant to do a strict routine because sometimes they're not very flexible and too regimented. Im also out lots during the day and im not sure how it would work when im out and about...its my fault because I find it really hard to stay in. The days seem harder to me if im in all day...selfish isn't it! Making a rod for my own back!!

I really hope this routine doesnt continue!