CBFM (thread/statistics) graduates TTC,BUMPS & BABIES 2011/2012

[lilrojo]

I love my son to pieces.. he is seriously the best ever.. I have a daughter already so i wanted a boy but i never found out so didnt care either way.. i just wanted my baby after two mc's ...

Really trixie are you going to reset the cbfm.. i have used mine since march..

 

[trixie79]

Yeah in really thinking of it... I'd rather have another one now and then I'll be done!! Mite wait to see if I get a ring at Xmas but doubt that really!!

 

[lilrojo]

LOL would that change things.. yay another possible ttcer.. thats what were doing.. going to start trying the end of next month.. not hard yet till feb when bryce turns one.. but i want to be done too.. im in school for ultrasonography and want to focus on that.. selfish maybe but im ready..

 

[StranjeGirl]

HI Ladies!
Congrats hispirits for team blue!!!!!!! That is so exciting. I was so saddened to hear of what you found on google regarding gender disappointment. Gosh I feel so lucky to be able to have a child that I could never imagine being that disappointed. I will say it was a bit of a shock to hear that giada was a girl. I had a gut feeling she was a girl and then when the dr said the scan looked like a boy I was a bit shocked and it took me a while to give up the vision of a girl I had. THen I got super excited about boy and then when they said girl I got a bit saddened again to have to give up my vision of having a boy. Of course that only lasted shortly and we turned super excited to have a girl again. I guess I can see people having to mourn a loss of the gender that they thought they were having if they had to go through the whole pregnancy planning for one and then having another, but you'd think they would still be excited for the gender and baby that they did get. I just think that some people don't realize how fortunate they are to have a baby period.

How is conor feeling trixie? I hope he is better. I think giada might be getting another tooth as she seems to toss and turn at night and has a bit of diarrhea during the day. Her diaper rash has come back with the diarrhea and it just won't go away! She only gets it with diarrhea and I believe it is yeasty so I put yeast cream on it and we change her constantly. I hate rashes!

Well I am still recovering but am a bit sad as I went to the dr on tuesday for my one week post op and he informed that they when they went in to do my knee I did not have the problem that the MRI showed which was a torn meniscus. A mesinscus fix is fairly easy in the sense that you don't need all of it so recovery is very good and I should have been back to normal in a couple months. Unfotunately the cartilage between my knee joint was all torn up. He smoothed it out but we need that cartilage and he can't replace it. Unfortunately I won't have a full recovery. I wont be able to bend my leg all the way back - like when you sit down on your heel (which I havne't been able to do the past 8 months without excruciating pain) and I won't be able to do anything that impact the joint like running and jumping. He said he was very disheartened to see that during surgery given my age. The worst part is that even though he *hopes* surgery will make me feel a little better than how I was before surgery, it will only last temporarily. He said we will probably need to go back in in 3-5 years and in 10 years I will need a knee replacement. That is the part that really upsets me. I don't mind doing a scope again but I really don't want a knee replacement before I am 50!!! I have done a ton of research on supplements so I am going to try to do my best to take natural things to reduce arthritis pain and preserve the joint and I am just going to pray that since I am starting early maybe I will have a better recovery and prognosis, and maybe by the time I need a knee replacement they will have come up with a new treatment. What worries me too is the pain that leads up to a knee replacement. It's not like you feel fine and then next year you get your knee replaced. I really don't want to have so much pain and not be able to walk in my early 40's. Oh well, I guess I should get through this surgery first and see how I feel. I'm hoping I will feel better than expected.

I hope everyone else is doing well! I'm mad because I had responded to some other posts and then I lost it! So sorry for those I have missed. I'm too lazy to go back right now lol!!

 

[trixie79]

Ah Stranje that's awful I hope the pain will ease for you and they come up with a better cure if you like in a few years. You never know, medical research is advancing.

 

[_dreamer_]

I'd have loved to have had either girl or boy. In an ideal world, I would like to have at least one of each just because I can see how lovely it is to have a girl and share girlie things with her, I would love for my partner to experience that with a boy. But if that didn't happen, its not a problem and I certainly wouldn't be disappointed with another girl. And nor would my oh.

Stranj I'm sorry to hear about your knee, that was quite disappointing news to hear, but like trix said, keep hopeful that they come up with a better cure. And sorry to hear about giadas bottom

We're on night 1 of controlled crying tonight. Started off schedule as we were late getting back, was thinking solids at 5, milk feed at 6, then bath and put down awake. She had some solids at 6, tried to start nursing her at 6.30 but she would only take a few minutes. She had trapped wind so played with her til my oh got back from work at 7.30. Managed to get the wind up, and started feed at 8. She fell asleep even though I was trying to keep her awake. She finished feeding at 8.45 so woke her up and burped her. Bathed her, read a story, she was almost falling asleep in my arms so put her in her cot. The crying started. We went in at 2, 5, 10 mins then I noticed she'd pooped from the bad smell, so we changed her and put her back without giving her any fuss, she was crying which was soooo hard. Went in at 5, 10 and 15 min and she fell asleep!!! Only took 45 mins! It was hard but not as hard as we were expecting. I think we'd psyched ourselves up to do it for so long. I'm going to give a dream feed shortly, as she usually wakes for a feed a few hours after going to sleep. Trying not to send mixed messages at the moment (that she can't feed to sleep for bed but can in the night) so will continue controlled crying if she wakes but want to give her some food so I know she's not hungry.

Ooo and she's now lifting her arms when we say all up high. And she's pulling herself to her feet with help if we hold her hands. Starting to strengthen those legs as she hasn't liked standing until now. And she's crawling like a pro lol. Got a cute xmas outfit today will post a pic when she wears it

 

[_dreamer_]

So I gave a dream feed at 11.30 no probs. She slept til 5 when she started moaning. I was si glad my oh was there cos it was harder in the night. While she was just moaning, we put the lullabies on via our baby monitor remote. The crying started ramping up so after 15 minutes went in there just shhh and patted her then left. It took another 15 mins, went in again, then about 10 mins after she went to sleep! Couldn't believe it. I woke her up at 7.15 to try get her to go to bed earlier tonight. just feeding her now. And she was all smiles which we were worried about but she was fine this morning.

Fingers crossed for tonight

 

[Claire1]

Thats fantastic news Dreamer, I hope it continues for you.

Stranje, Im so sorry to hear your news, I really hope your knee has improved with the op and doesn't give you any bother. Good idea on taking the vits, that could help wonders Like the others said, by the time you need more surgery things might have been discovered and you wont need a knee replacment. Though, dont let that worry you as I know someone who had one and wish they had done it sooner, but everyone is different.

Well ladies, 1st of december is here! When are you all putting your decorations up? Anyone have a good idea of how to keep our crawling babies from pulling down the tree?

 

[_dreamer_]

We aren't putting the tree til next weekend as we get a real one. Our only idea is to block it off, where we usually put it our table is on front so hoping that will deter little hands. Or if its small enough raise it up on a stand or table? Oh bought me and Erin advent calendars so we've had those (oh ate Erins Winnie the pooh one lol, did offer a taste to Erin but she pushed it away!). And she's all dressed in a christmassy outfit today x

Ps naptime was amazing, she cried less than 15 mins and slept 2 hours, my oh had to wake her! she's never slept that long even when tired. And I got some more sleep too

 

[Hispirits]

oh strang i'm so sorry you poor thing.
trix has a good point, you never know what they will discover next! chin up!

i'm getting a private gender scan on saturday to confirm its a boy i hope it is,(not in a gender disappointment way, lol) i just brought loads of boy stuff, i couldn't resist! i have kept all the reciepts tho so if we turn pink i can return or swap it all. But i think if you look at the scan pick babies arms were up over his head, and inbetween his legs i can see the balls! They were much more visible on the live feed.

Your all going to have to educate me on this controlled crying next year! sounds like it does the trick. i wondered if you had tried prince lionheart the slumber bear? its on my 'to buy list', its meant to be great at getting babes back to sleep. it plays womb sounds among other things. If you've tried it and its rubbish i'll cross it off the list

 

[_dreamer_]

Cute scan pics hispirits! I can't see balls but no idea where I'm looking and I'm also on my phone lol. Bet you can't wait for the private scan. Controlled crying isn't for everyone, and is quite controversial as you'll find in baby club when you head over there!. I've struggled with the idea of leaving her crying which is why I'm only doing it now at 10 months lol. Thy recommend not before 6m. But its got to the point where I didn't know what else to do, and couldn't carry on like this when I go back to work, and its not good for her not being able to self settle. They say try to put them down drowsy early on so thy learn to self settle but just didn't work for us, and it was easier to nurse to sleep. seems to be going well so far, wil update again tomorrow.

 

[trixie79]

That's great dreamer, I have to admit I can't leave him crying for that long I could only manage 2/3 mins!!!! But in fairness he only cried for the first few nites.... The worst was at 3 an for those 2 hours but we stayed with him which prob made it worse!!!!

So nite time now is generally great at settling if I get the timing right and he is sleeping to 6 ish but the naps are a nite mare but I usually put in the polar express and sit with him then put him in the pram.... He slept for 2 1/2 hours yesterday afternoon !!! Even though he didn't self settle!!

His... I got ewen the dream sheep and I find it great! More so now to help with the self settling!! But as long as you put the baby down awake at nite you won't need to do the controlled crying!..... I should know this really considering Im a health visitor!!lol

So dreamer if I have my health visiting head on my advice to you next is no dream feed as she should be getting enough calories during the day at 10 months!!!!!lol!!!!hard isn't it..... Why isn't there warning signs on condoms abt lack of sleep!!

 

[_dreamer_]

Haha yeah there should be. I said to my health visitor babies should come with an instruction manual but she pointed out that it wouldn't work cos no 2 babies are the same!

It was hard but 15 minutes before going in is the longest gap and its been worthwhile so far. We considered staying with her but when we tried it, its just makes her worse. Last night was an improvement again. 30mins total to get to sleep, asleep before 8. Gave a dream feed at 10, there was a few whimpers at about 4am then she fell back to sleep. Got up at 7.30am. So that was fantastic, I havent had to get up with her in the night for such a long time. Definitely need to drop the dream feed as you say trix, just doing it for my peace of mind at the mo, as she's used to it, don't want her waking hungry crying for that and me ignoring it. In the next few days I'll prob half it, then get rid.

That's great conor had a good nap. What's a polar express?

Hispirits we didn't use a toy, we have lullabies on our baby monitor that we can use remotely which is good. At about 8 or 9 months we did buy the sleep seahorse which lights up and plays lullabies but Erin doesn't seem bothered by it, not sure if we waited to long to introduce it. I give her a bunny and a muslin which I've slept with so she has something that smells of me but again she doesn't really 'use' them.

Doing a big Christmas roast with my girl friends (and Erin), we did it last year too, was very nice so looking forward to today.

Hope you're all having nice weekends x

Ps. At naptime, 5 minutes crying and she was asleep! Can't believe it!

 

[trixie79]

The polar express the movie!!! Omg watch it with Erin she will love it!

Need to be stricter with naps me thinks! Will start again tomorrow!

My niece has the seahorse and adores it! Conor wouldn't be bothered if he didn't have the sheep but think its really for my piece of mind that he's not alone when we walk outta the room!!!!

 

[_dreamer_]

Ahhh I get you lol I read you put in the polar express as you put him in the polar express, thought it was some kind of rocking train to get him sleepy! I don't think I've seen all of that film, will have to get it.

Had a lovely afternoon with the girls. Really cold and wintry here at the mo, its lovely

 

[Claire1]

Im so pleased to hear the controlled crying is going well for you both Trix and Dreamer. I hope you are both feeling great with all this extra sleep.

Your afternoon sounds lovely Dreamer, Im doing something similar with the mums that I met when Darcey was born. We all still keep in touch and have become very good friends. We're having a xmas get together with mulled wine and nibbles. We're also getting the babies dressed up and getting some pics of them all together.

Our tree is up, and so far so good. Darcey hasn't shown any interest in it. Im feeling very festive now, xmas candles on, lights on the tree glowing, and a cup of hot choc whilst Darcey sleeps...lovely Oh and Darcey started pulling herself up today and sort of cruising, but not quite.

Hope everyone is well and had a good weekend x

 

[trixie79]

Conor took his first steps!!!! Whoo hoo! Now the fun begins......

 

[Claire1]

Aww, yay!! Just in time for xmas. You wont be sitting down enjoying a baileys this year!

 

[trixie79]

I know.... Ah the wee pet, he only been cruising properly for a week or so.... This child has no fear! He has stood 2 days ago and kind of forgets that he isn't holding on.... But today he walking at least 2/3 steps...
I have corner sofa and he was leaping from one side to another and missing!!! But today he kinda walked it .... Well ran it, it was that quick I didn't catch it one video so camera at the ready tomorrow!!!!

 

[_dreamer_]

So cute! Congrats on conors first steps trix, and darcey cruising Claire! Sounds lovely with your friends too x