Celebrating Our Daughter

[Ginger_Bee]

Hello, all! I was just interested in your feedback/ideas.
I'm currently nearly 23 weeks pregnant with our son. Last year on October 28th we found out that we'd lost our baby through a MMC. (No heartbeat.)

I'd always felt that our baby was a girl, so we named her Nessa!

We decided that the 28th would be her birthday, as the D&C (Nov 4th)was a cold, scary experience for both myself, and my husband.

So! We're having a celebration of spirit/life/energy for her "birthday" on the 28th. We're having a soup/sandwich lunch at our home, with a mini-bonfire, and some simple crafties. And cupcakes, of course!

I'm not sure who, besides some of the people from our miscarriage support group (and my best friend) will show up. . . I invited my whole family, but I know most of them are unable to make it due to living 2-4 hours away in all directions.

I guess, the feedback/advice I need is: Have any of you done anything like this? OR can you offer any advice or suggestions so that I am not constantly worrying about whether everyone ELSE is "okay". . . (aka not bored, uncomfortable, or thinking I'm a loon) ?

I just want to build good memories for my daughter, and a tradition to honor her (and the fact that she made my husband and I a family).

Thanks for reading this LONG post, too!

 

[nicksi27]

Just wanted to tell you that i think thats a lovely idea. I want to do something like that for my LOs birthday in february xx

 

[Bumpblessing4]

I haven't heard of this, so I can't say how people will act at the party, but I do love the idea. Goodluck and good for you.

 

[Ginger_Bee]

We had the perfect amount of people come to her party/honor celebration.

We received some utterly beautiful gifts and enjoyed our company's genuine heartfelt support!

We're keeping a candle lit everyday for a week. From the day of the ultrasound through the day of the D & C.

It was perfect. Thank you to the two ladies who cared enough to show support. I wish you well, everyday.