Childless and unhappy

[Isis730]

Hi everyone,
This is all new to me but I thought I would try after my friends' encouragement as I have no one else in my life going through this same experience to share with. My hubby and I have been TTC for almost 4 yrs now with no success. I was diagnosed with PCOS in 2010 and have taken the naturopathic route, losing weight, eating better etc. I seem to be doing better however, my hubby works nights and we are almost in our mid 30's so needless to say, him working nights have also taken a toll on TTC. He's not able to "finish" no matter where, when and how we have sex. The dr has told him he's stressed about TTC and to relax but nothing seems to help and he has to "finish" himself each time. He doesn't want to go see anyone about his issue and I'm at my wits end. I feel like we are going to end up childless and I just want to know if anyone has tips on foods, ideas, suggestions on how to help him "finish" without his own help? Any help would be greatly appreciated!

 

[Moet]

Have you thought of having him finish on his own but somehow put it in a soft cup for you? At least that way out might still catch his swimmers? As for the problem itself, stress is a real thing for sure. Maybe make sure he doesnt know when your ovulating if possible so there's less pressure?

 

[DosPinkies]

Agree with above. If he's able to finish on his own, have some fantastic no-pressure sex and then have him finish in a softcup. That's how a lot of at-home inseminators are doing it these days, and it seems to work. My husband doesn't always have that problem but he does fairly often, and that's what we've talked about trying.

 

[mrshan]

Have you taken any breaks TTC? It's possible that not only is the stress keeping him from finishing, but it could be keeping a little bean from sticking when things do go as planned.

Maybe try a cycle or two of just enjoying each other. Just track BD and AF, and let everything else slide. It'll be really difficult, especially if you're not feeling particularly loving when you're unhappy, but worth it if he can relax and get things back to something productive. Do you help him "finish"? If not, then maybe start doing that. A little oral might just be all he needs to feel like he's still important as a lover and not just a sperm provider. I think guys get sensitive about that sometimes. If you can get him to BD when you O, then the TWW can be all about him.

 

[ready4number1]

Hi there,

My DH and I both take Maca. It is a plant from peru. We use the Maca Magic brand. They come in pills, powder, and a tincture. I take the tincture. The flavor isn't bad, just mix it with a little water and drink it down like a shot.

It is great for PCOS, as I have it myself. The reason I suggested it to you guys is because it gives you energy and also boosts your libido like you wouldn't believe. I feel he will definitely finish after about a week of taking it consistently.

I take one dose of the Maca tincture a day. I weigh 111 and I am about 5'6 so that is enough for me. You guys should start off with the 1 dose for a few days and slowly increase to the maximum dosage for him.

So maybe, 1 dose (two dropper fuels) for one week, then 2 doses (4 dropper fuels) for one week. Take a break for like two days and depending on how he feels he can increase it to a total of 8 droppers filled a day.

When you get it you will see what I mean. It says take 40 to 80 drops once or twice a day. I consider one dose to be 40 drops.

I say take your time and move up slowly because it is a new food being introduced to the body and too much too soon can mess up your digestive system temporairily. TRUST MEEEEEEE! I didn't listen and learned the hard way. If you move slow you shouldn't have any problems. It also can keep you up if you take it too late at night.

But, his libido should shoot right on up!!! Good luck!! What are you taking for your PCOS? Any herbs? Mine is under control, I can share with you if you want. Feel free to private message me.

 

[WaitWhat]

I don't get how he can finish himself off instead.... Stress often makes them not even be able to keep it up.

 

[DosPinkies]

Hi there,

My DH and I both take Maca. It is a plant from peru. We use the Maca Magic brand. They come in pills, powder, and a tincture. I take the tincture. The flavor isn't bad, just mix it with a little water and drink it down like a shot.

It is great for PCOS, as I have it myself. The reason I suggested it to you guys is because it gives you energy and also boosts your libido like you wouldn't believe. I feel he will definitely finish after about a week of taking it consistently.

I take one dose of the Maca tincture a day. I weigh 111 and I am about 5'6 so that is enough for me. You guys should start off with the 1 dose for a few days and slowly increase to the maximum dosage for him.

So maybe, 1 dose (two dropper fuels) for one week, then 2 doses (4 dropper fuels) for one week. Take a break for like two days and depending on how he feels he can increase it to a total of 8 droppers filled a day.

When you get it you will see what I mean. It says take 40 to 80 drops once or twice a day. I consider one dose to be 40 drops.

I say take your time and move up slowly because it is a new food being introduced to the body and too much too soon can mess up your digestive system temporairily. TRUST MEEEEEEE! I didn't listen and learned the hard way. If you move slow you shouldn't have any problems. It also can keep you up if you take it too late at night.

But, his libido should shoot right on up!!! Good luck!! What are you taking for your PCOS? Any herbs? Mine is under control, I can share with you if you want. Feel free to private message me.

Where do you get the maca? I've looked for it but can't find it. I haven't checked a health food store yet though...that was going to be my next try.

 

[ready4number1]

That is exactly where you get it, the health food store. I have only tried the Maca Magic brand and I know for sure that works. A lot of post on google say take thousands of miligrams of it. When I used the pills I took one a day and that is all I needed. I can't remember if I mentioned it in my post but I weigh 111 so that may have something to do with why I needed only one. I would take 2 at the most. Some women were taking like 5 a day. Start slow and see what works for you.

You can also order it offline

 

[Isis730]

Hi everyone,
Thanks for all the advice and ideas. This is the first time I am hearing about the soft cup which I will definitely look into and ready4number1, I appreciate the detail info regarding maca. That will also be on my to buy list!

 

[ready4number1]

Yaaaay! Good luck Isis!!!

 

[MissN8]

perhaps taking a wee break away some weekend will help in relax. sometimes I find different surroundings and away from everyday life helps in that area?