Circumcision?

[aliss]

Justagirl!! You are my bump buddy!

Anyways, no, mine wouldn't be done - neither is my other son. I don't really get the alzheimer's story either - I can think of times where boys have had mistakes done during circ's as well. There are bad stories on either side of the fence. Billions of boys are circumcised, and billions of boys are not. Proper healthy care for BOTH, imo, will lead to everything being just fine. To each their own, for me, on this subject.

 

[sunbaby777]

I have mixed feelings about it. I hate the idea of cutting my baby down there. But it IS the norm here in the U.S., and girls are generally grossed out by boys who aren't circumsized (sorry if that offends anyone), not to mention the teasing he might get in the locker room from other boys. My hubby is adamant about having it done. I wish it was more healthy and socially acceptable to just leave it alone.

Actually in the US it is NOT the norm anymore. Only about 30% roughly are Circed in the US. And the woman of their generation will not find it disgusting, because it will be the norm. And really the locker room debate is just silly. When you were in highschool, and changed for gym did you all walk around naked pointing and looking at each other gentils?? Nope, and neither do men. And it is more healthy. Baby boys actually die of getting circed. I think I will take the chance of my son being laughed at then at him bleeding to death, which is a very rare occurence, but still not one I am willing to take. As far as your DH of course he is adamant, his generation it was the norm, but your DS will be the odd man out in the locker room in his generation.

I think the baby would have a greater chance of getting an infection from not being circumsized than bleeding to death from the procedure. - But your comment about things being different for our kids' generation is something to consider. I'll have to look into the statistics and tell my hubby. We wouldn't be doing it for religious reasons (we're agnostic). It would be strictly for social acceptance and cleanliness. If I can find enough evidence to refute those reasons and convince my hubby, enough said.

 

[JessPape]

I'm from Canada, however my husband is from europe and well uncut. I don't even need to ask him. We would NOT cut our son if and when we have one. It's not nessasarry, learn to properly clean, and look after. It will not decrease the risk of hiv, that comes with education. It is just a bunch of unnesasary pain to put ur child in. I have never had issues with my husbands, noro any of my exs that werre uncut. The skin is their for a reason!

 

[kirakirabosu]

My husband is European too, he gets very angry even with the mention of it, he considers it a mutilation against the will of the child. Well, his rhetorics are a bit dramatic (we are artists), but I don't care either way, so we will not if it's a boy.

 

[sunbaby777]

As a follow up to previous posts - there are a ton of articles out there. I never realized that the U.S. was pretty much the only country that does it for non-religious reasons. Why do we do it??? Amazing how we just go along with things without really thinking about it. Customs just get passed down from generation to generation. I definitely need to have a talk with my hubby.

"In 1999, the American Academy of Pediatrics declared that there was not enough data to recommend the routine circumcision of baby boys. They reaffirmed their position in 2005."

Read more: https://healthland.time.com/2011/09/02/cdc-why-are-u-s-circumcision-rates-declining/#ixzz1arg67uvi

 

[sunbaby777]

Another good article with lots of facts and references:

https://www.cirp.org/library/general/wallerstein/

Circumcision: The Uniquely American Medical Enigma

Edward Wallerstein*

 

[princessellie]

yes if i have a boy he will be getting circumcised, not at birth though unless its medically necessary, we'll be waiting till he's about 6 and he'll get big party etc x

 

[JessPape]

That's a lot of pain for a 6 year old, but to each their own.

 

[yumosh]

It's in my culture to do it too but hubby is British.

Never had with problems with his P!! Men have said they find sex more intense circumcised! But I'm sure my hubby enjoys the sessions )

Therefore, whether you do or don't really is no issue. The only reason I won't is it's not medically necessary. If it were, there'd be an international health regulation etc. There isn't!! It comes down to parents' traditions etc.

Americans do it because of the large Jewish and Muslim community. So it might have become normal.

You have no right to operate on a human without their consent for religious cultural reasons. That seems so wrong.

Give your boys a choice.

 

[littlemamana]

I don't really understand the women in this thread who say their husband gets to make the choice because he's the one with the penis... That seems really sexist to me. You have your own views and ideals that should be expressed and taken into consideration in this decision as well. If you think circumcision is harmful, you will still bend to your husband's wishes on the subject just because he has a penis? That seems wrong. Stand up for what you believe in and make the decision as an educated COUPLE.

ETA: I'm very pleased to see that the No's are winning.

 

[littlemamana]

I thought some of you might be interested in this video of Jewish mother talking about circumcision. https://www.drmomma.org/2010/08/jewish-mother-on-circumcision.html

I love drmomma.org! Everyone should check this video out. Very insightful. There's a ton of other stuff on that website as well that will help you make educated choices.

 

[Marley12389]

My son is three years old and he was not cic'd. He was definitely scheduled to be the day he went home from the hospital but due to other, more serious, medical issues that arose the day we were to go home, he was not able to get it done. By time I wanted to have it rescheduled, his pediatrician wouldn't do it because she only did birth to one year and he was too old by then. BUT I haven't worried about it since. He isn't having any isuues with it. I am not having any issues with it BUT I know it hurts worse as they get older. So once again I am considering having it done because my son, for whatever reason, doesn't feel pain the way typical people do. So maybe it won't affect him that much now if I go ahead and do it. Plus I will most likely have to care for him forever and I don't know how comofotable I'm going to be as he gets much older. If my next baby, due in MAY!, is a boy, I am going to have him circ'd no matter what issue may arise because I don't want to be going back and forth with the issue in later years

 

[libbylou]

If we have a boy, I will not allow him to be circumsized unless there is a medically necessary reason to do so.
DH is circumsized, but I refuse to unnecessarily mutilate my child just so he looks like his dad or fits a social norm.
I know a lot of men and little boys who are not circumsized and have never heard of any of them having a health issue with it., they just need to know how to properly take care of it.

If my son decides he wants it done when he's older, then he can make his own call on that.

Everyone should do their own proper research and make their own educated decision based on that.

 

[Laura617]

Well I don't mean to offend you but this is fact not fear mongering. This was personal experience and absolutely heartbreaking thing that could have been avoided. As I said I respect a parents right to choose but whether you hear these stories or not believe me this happens. I will continue to share my experience.

I respect every parents right to choose what they want here but I do want to share a story.

I work in nursing, specifically with alzheimers patients. I had one gentleman who had to have the majority of his penis removed because he wasn't circumcised. He had been cared for by family before I met him and when they took him to wash they assumed he cleaned everywhere. It didn't occur to them that he simply no longer knew that he was supposed to clean down there or even how to. So he got a very serious infection.

So while I hope no one ever has to deal with this I just like to remind people that just because a boy properly cleans doesn't mean there aren't situations where a circumcision would prevent a lot of pain.

I am sorry, but I really, really hate stories like this. This is fear mongering at its best. And if you look at the results, you will see that the majority of Americans are having it done, were Europeans dont, it is funny you dont hear these stories in the UK often. Oh, and I am an American. do what you like, but it is unneeded unless there are medical conditions in which it is needed. Everyone should make an informed decision, do your research and then come to the conclusion that is best for you and your family. But dont let fear rule you. GL!

 

[CountryDarlin]

If we have a boy, I will not allow him to be circumsized unless there is a medically necessary reason to do so.
DH is circumsized, but I refuse to unnecessarily mutilate my child just so he looks like his dad or fits a social norm.
I know a lot of men and little boys who are not circumsized and have never heard of any of them having a health issue with it., they just need to know how to properly take care of it.

If my son decides he wants it done when he's older, then he can make his own call on that.

Everyone should do their own proper research and make their own educated decision based on that.

This is exactly what I told my DH! He finally said if it matters more to me than him, then that's fine, but I have to show our son how to clean it...which I agreed to.

 

[libbylou]

If we have a boy, I will not allow him to be circumsized unless there is a medically necessary reason to do so.
DH is circumsized, but I refuse to unnecessarily mutilate my child just so he looks like his dad or fits a social norm.
I know a lot of men and little boys who are not circumsized and have never heard of any of them having a health issue with it., they just need to know how to properly take care of it.

If my son decides he wants it done when he's older, then he can make his own call on that.

Everyone should do their own proper research and make their own educated decision based on that.

This is exactly what I told my DH! He finally said if it matters more to me than him, then that's fine, but I have to show our son how to clean it...which I agreed to.

DH and I haven't talked about it yet, but I can't see him raising a huge stink about it.
I am the researcher in the family, so I usually do my research, present my opnion/findings and he generally tends to trust my decisions

We have a friend who's DH insisted that their son be circumsized "because daddy and son should look the same". My friend backed down and agreed to it and was absolutely sick about it afterward. She was the one who had to take care of the wound too.

 

[luckybreak]

I see people say to others everybody has their own opinions and should choose what's right for them but then they use the word "mutilation" "barbaric" and other rude names to explain the procedure..others explain why its necessary and are called "fear mongers" but your words are ok to described other people's choices but whatever.

 

[Drazic<3]

Absolutely not for any other reason than medical necessity.

 

[Meredith2010]

Nope no never. Luckily it just isn't the norm here in the UK, in fact I don't believe it is really the norm anywhere other than the US.

I'm pretty sure that the UK doesn't have a massive issue with uncircumcised men having problems throughout life with their willies; in fact I'm pretty convinced that the "hygenic" reasoning behind having it done is just non existant.

I'm glad it isn't the norm here, and it quite frankly worries me that in the US so many people just get it done because everyone else does. If I was expected to cut off a part of my babies body at a young age then I certainly wouldn't just go along with it without question, and surely anyone who does research into it can see that it just isn't necessary?

 

[NuKe]

never in a million years, unless for medical reasons.

i dont understand why some women are letting their husband make the decision? just because he has a penis too?? wtf. IT'S YOUR BABY TOO.

the cleanliness thing is a total myth. ive never heard of anyone getting an infection from being uncut.

and those rare unique stories of "oh this person nearly died from not being circed" etc, I'm sure I can find a few stories of how someone wearing a seatbelt caused injury. this doesn't mean seatbelts are dangerous, these are freak occurances.