Definitely Chell...are we sending everything to you? I'll get a card for her from me and send you a money order for flowers and postage if you want to PM me your address. Also for the UKers, maybe you can write a note and we can print it out and add it the package? Can we say the dead line may be next Friday?
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Or us in the UK could Paypal some money towards the flowers if any if you USers have Paypal? X
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hey guys I am sorry I am weird or something but I don't know about a dress! I dont want to get anything for the baby it seems too sad. She already has so much stuff for kinley that is sitting in her house that might not get used. I feel weird disagreeing with you - you all really think it won't break her heart to get a little dress?
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Yes it did enter my head too Casey- that it might be heartbreaking- but then when Chell said that she was going to say it was to represent hope I thought it sounded like a nice thing! But now you've just said that about her having loads of stuff already for Kinley that she can't use I think I agree with you! It might just break her heart 
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Hi girls,
Just popping over from the Aphrodite thread where Britt was a member. I see you are all discussing gifts and I've been thinking a lot what I would aprecciate in such an awful situation. The best I could think of was to set up a collection (we have loads of websites in the uk that do it, not sure about the US). I would imagine even with the best insurance there will be excess medical bills and perhaps legal or other bills. The money would maybe reduce some worries so they can focus all their energy on Kinley.
I've just always been one for practical gifts. If it were me I'd want help with the means to fight and wouldn't want pity. From experience, dealing with dozens of flower arrangements as they start to decompose becomes a chore in itself. But then again I don't even see the point of birthday cards, sad eh?
You are all so lovely and she's lucky to have so many friends on here.
If you do set something up, please let me know as I'd love to contribute.
Just popping over from the Aphrodite thread where Britt was a member. I see you are all discussing gifts and I've been thinking a lot what I would aprecciate in such an awful situation. The best I could think of was to set up a collection (we have loads of websites in the uk that do it, not sure about the US). I would imagine even with the best insurance there will be excess medical bills and perhaps legal or other bills. The money would maybe reduce some worries so they can focus all their energy on Kinley.
I've just always been one for practical gifts. If it were me I'd want help with the means to fight and wouldn't want pity. From experience, dealing with dozens of flower arrangements as they start to decompose becomes a chore in itself. But then again I don't even see the point of birthday cards, sad eh?
You are all so lovely and she's lucky to have so many friends on here.
If you do set something up, please let me know as I'd love to contribute.
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Oh my...thank you for forwarding it ladies. So horrible what they did to her & Kinley. I will be praying daily for them both. Please let me know who to send money too to help but maybe we should just send money directly to her to help cover expenses...
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I think that's a fantastic idea 2016 
Hi girls :wave:
Just to chime in... I'm not sure Cat is in a fit state to receive any gifts... I think flowers says that we care but doesn't need her to think about anything else.... So that may be an option, but as 2016 says she has probably got loads.
I think we should keep it really simple. Chell the dress is such a lovely idea. I just don't know if this is all going to be too much for her to deal with.
I like the thought of a collection, to help with expenses. We could all paypal a gift payment to one person to pass on.
Sorry, this is really hard, just my 2 cents worth....
Just don't want to overwhelm her I guess...
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Just to chime in... I'm not sure Cat is in a fit state to receive any gifts... I think flowers says that we care but doesn't need her to think about anything else.... So that may be an option, but as 2016 says she has probably got loads.
I think we should keep it really simple. Chell the dress is such a lovely idea. I just don't know if this is all going to be too much for her to deal with.
I like the thought of a collection, to help with expenses. We could all paypal a gift payment to one person to pass on.
Sorry, this is really hard, just my 2 cents worth....
Just don't want to overwhelm her I guess...
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Looks like the Just giving website works for the US too...
https://www.justgiving.com/?gclid=CNWZkrbGtqoCFRRC4Qod_lsi5A
You set up a page in her honour and anyone can donate anonymously or leave a message and name. Then at a certain point the money is transferred to Cath and her family.
https://www.justgiving.com/?gclid=CNWZkrbGtqoCFRRC4Qod_lsi5A
You set up a page in her honour and anyone can donate anonymously or leave a message and name. Then at a certain point the money is transferred to Cath and her family.
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I agree Suz. I think too many cards and gifts would be far too much for her to deal with I love the idea of a collection to help with expenses- seems like we'd be helping in a practical way then x
I love the idea of a collection to help with expenses- seems like we'd be helping in a practical way then x
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I don't know if there are medical expenses with public healthcare in Canada and I'm not sure if she can persue legal action.
From what I've read, with a precarious NICU situation, it can be hurtful to not give the baby a gift just because of the possible negative outcomes.
I agree about the flowers and them decaying and being a hassle. Also don't want to overwhelm her with stuff.
From what I've read, with a precarious NICU situation, it can be hurtful to not give the baby a gift just because of the possible negative outcomes.
I agree about the flowers and them decaying and being a hassle. Also don't want to overwhelm her with stuff.
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There will still be massive expenses though Lisa. Petrol (gas) to and from the hospital, loss of wages if it goes on for a long time, buying food at hospital etc... I know just the seven days Ben was in NICU cost us a fortune
It's a bit of a catch 22, we don't want to not acknowledge Kinley and buy her a gift 'just in case', but also don't want to buy her a gift in case Cat finds it too upsetting.
I dont know what to do for the best.
I agree there will still be lots of costs even if insurance covers most things.
X x x
I dont know what to do for the best.
I agree there will still be lots of costs even if insurance covers most things.
X x x
sounds like it will be?, good idea!
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True lisaf, I don't know how the Canadian healthcare system works, although I know people can and have sued the government healthcare here in the UK for negligence. If not for that, the money could be used to buy cleaning services others mentioned, a gift for Kinley, something to help with her care, a holiday in the future when the time is right, costs of travel to and from the hospital...I guess the list is pretty endless. Where there's money there are options. Money can also be seen as a bit cold and hard though so I am sure it's not for everyone. I thought of trinkets, poems, books, flowers, baby items and just couldn't settle on any of them. Who knows what is right in this situation - I certainly have never known anyone suffer such a tragedy as this in my life. 
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On Paypal you can send money using an e-mail addy - I know Caths is posted on FB. The only thing with that is it's perhaps less sentimental than setting up a Just Giving page...
eta: Darn it looks like Justgiving has to be linked to a nominated charity...trying to find a website that you can just collect money on. Maybe Paypal is the best though Cat will receive dozens of e-mails as we all go on and donate.
eta: Darn it looks like Justgiving has to be linked to a nominated charity...trying to find a website that you can just collect money on. Maybe Paypal is the best though Cat will receive dozens of e-mails as we all go on and donate.
