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Good mroning girls. What a short weekend! We took Jackson to see Santa and he hated it. LoL. I got a nice massage yesterday with my friend and on Saturday we had our neighborhood Christmas party. It was a lot of fun. Now I'm nervous because our counseling session is in about 30 minutes. I don't know why I'm nervous though! How is everyone?
 
Hi marg I hope the session goes well. Hugs

I love all u girls but I am sorry i won't be on very much anymore.
I still stalk but I can't keep up! Too busy with the toddler and life. hugs to u all and Thanks for being there for me. Love u guys :). happy holidays and happy new year to u all! Imagine cute fun smiley icons here->
 
Aw, Casey I'll miss you!! Hugs to Jimmy! Happy holidays!

The session was okay. We have to keep going but she thinks we can resolve a lot of our issues. We'll probably keep going most likely. It's daunting because we have a lot of work ahead of us!
 
:( Sorry Casey, very sad to hear that! Come on whenever you have the time. If facebook is easier for you, post there, k? I'll miss you for sure, esp since you're usually on at the same times as me!

Marg - good luck at counseling! :hugs:


Suz/V - The butterfly definitely doesn't reverse. But I've found that DH never wants to wear Daniel anyway even though he said he would when I bought the carrier... SIGH
 
Casey what?! Why?! Don't leave us!

So marg you think you're going to work it out? :hugs:

X x x
 
Lisa Danny only started wearing Sammuel fairly recently, after much nagging :haha: but now he loves it!!

X x x
 
I don't know Suz...I want to for Jackson's sake but I also know that I can be a single mom as well. But I want to try it and see.
 
I guess there's no harm at all in trying. As long as he pulls his weight and works hard at it too... If you can't make it work, you tried and you know you're ok on your own...

X x x
 
Errr Casey!! WTF!? https://www.runemasterstudios.com/graemlins/images/grumbledance.gif Where you going? You're not allowed! Has something upset you?
 
aww casey, I hope you pop back every now and then!
Oliver has carried his nephew in the carrier so i expect he will do it with his child too :)
Marg - it's great the councillor thinks you can work on some of the issue. I guess it depends how committed you both really are but only time will tell. Daunting but worth a shot! all crossed you make some progress soon x
 
Had an absolute nervous breakdown last night....
We talked about our wedding during the dinner at Oliver's mum and everyone seemed to question anything French I wanted to add to the day.... "people won't understand" "people might find it offending".... i just didn't even realised how the pressure was boiling and when I got home OH had put all the christmas card on top of all the painting, photo frames in the house... just like his mum does... (in France, we are really not fussed about cards and we get them read them, then throw them away, there is no hanging them or anything).
Anyway.... i saw the cards and just completely lost it, i still cannot understand how i managed to get myself in such a state, but I flew into a rage, teared up the cards, was crying hysterically.
Then I started realising I do not want a big white wedding, i do not want to stress about it, I want a nice relaxing day.
OH was really pissed off about the cards and I apologised and we got talking... i think we will do a small wedding in a venue with a license and a dinner with parents/brothers/sisters... i know my parents will not mind and hopefully Oliver's mum will warm to the idea.
in the end it also is a question of budget, even though my parents want to pay for most of it, their budget is nowhere what you would need for a full blown London wedding. In the end, they always said they would spend the same money on us than they did with my brothers and sisters, so it means if we are under budget that we might even have some money to put on a saving account to start us on a deposit for our next house.
Anyway... I feel shit as a result today... i always in a daze when i cry... i feel like i have fog instead of brain... painful fog that is... and i just feel completely drained out.
I am still not sure what to do about the wedding and what will happen... but in think we have both realised it won't be the big wedding everyone is expecting us to lay on!
 
V- I was just like that when I was pregnant! I didn't have any sickness or anything but the emotions and rage were hell!! You want my advice? It's easy to underestimate how much being pregnant affects you- I wouldn't make any major decisions until after the baby's here!

Plus we planned on getting married after Ben arrived but I couldn't have planned or had a wedding during this first year! You will be so tired and so busy soon x
 
Thanks... it's funny cause it all happened just as I was saying that i my mood did not seem to have suffered from the pregnancy :haha:
One of the reason we are slowly going against the big white wedding is actually the baby... we know how exhausted and how life changing this is going to be, so a small do, maybe even before the baby arrives might be much easier!
We just want to be married to each other, we don't really have any need or even dream of a big wedding. I think we will carefully think about it over the christmas holiday and make a calm decision.
I am all over the place today.... but thankfully the new car has finally arrived and will be delivered to us today! Just in time as we set off to France tomorrow.

how are you? did you manage to go out this morning as planned?
 
No unfortunately not. Ben didn't go to sleep until 5am :-( Then he was up at 8!! :shock: He's just fell asleep on a walk now but wakes up if I stop moving so I'm pushing him backwards and forwards in the garden!! :rolleyes: Once Xmas is out the way we are going to have to do something! :-(
 
god i don't know how you manage... really amazes me... it might be worth trying a few things... not sure what... is there such thing as a baby sleep specialist of something... someone that could come to your house for a few night to guide you through the process and see for themselves?
has he started being weaned? does he eats other food than milk? maybe if you up those meals, you could start spacing the breast feeding, even if you have to refuse it to him sometime (it's a bit like you would have to refuse him to eat chocolate all day...)
I don't know... i might be talking utter rubbish, i just wish there was a solution, but i am sure you thought about it!
 
He's on 3 full meals a day and snacks V. He doesn't wake because he's hungry- he just doesn't know how to sleep! :-(

People said he'd get better once on solids but he didn't, then people said he'd be better once he was mobile and tiring himself out but it's made no difference! I'm not willing to do cry-it-out and unfortunately that's all I get recommended from HV's and the like! We're either going to give pick-up-put-down another try or go full on and let him cry but sit next to the cot so he's not left! We'll have to see if any work...
 
:( it is so hard to see them when they are distressed, but it might be 3-4 really hard nights and then that's it. you will all be so much happier if you all get more sleep :hugs:
 
It's very hard Lou. We did CIO with Jackson and the first night I was a mess. Now, CIO doesn't mean leave him to cry until he goes to sleep....we went back in every few minutes to reassure him that it was okay and pat his back. You can do whatever you like though, maybe sing to him. Now, if he is truly hysterical I will go in there and pick him up and talk to him and rock or walk with him. He usually settles right back down and I put him back in his crib and he goes off to sleep. But the first night or two were terrible on me, but I knew we would both be happier if everyone was getting some sleep. It's very hard and I give you so much kudos for being as patient and caring as you are with such little sleep.
 
V sorry you had an attack of rage! It's totally normal though so don't be hard on yourself. What date are you planning to marry?

Lou sorry you couldn't go cos you got no sleep :(

X x x
 
I don't think I ever had rage... I had hysterical sobbing though, lol... there was the time I was trying to sneak up on DH and scare him but he scared me instead.... sobbed for 20 minutes. Then there was the 30 minute sob-fest over how I 'ruined' Halloween by putting pumpkin guts down the disposal and clogging everything up :rofl:

I mentioned your sleep issues to a woman at my gym, Lou. She's a child development expert, used to be a nurse for the state doing home visits... now she teaches baby development classes etc. She was really adamant that you not stop asking for help until you get answers. Its not normal :hugs:
 
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