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[LillyTame]

Did a little editing to our 1st post.

Anyone NOT planning on finding out the sex of baby?

I can't make up my mind! lol I want to go team yellow but I think I'll break! If we got pregnant this cycle (or any time before xmas or new years) I was thinking I'd get the tech to put the answer in an envelope and then save it to open on the holiday...OH said no lol. He said he would find out just to have something over me and tease lol

 

[MIZZYD]

Once I get prego, I soooooooooooo want to know, lol. There are so many cute things I can make before baby is born.

 

[Snackimals]

Lil, your man is hilarious!

You know I am devoted Team Yellow!
I will NOT break!
I think it comes down to 'why' you wanna hold out, or know ahead of time. Some people really want to choose a color scheme, or have really gender specific shopping to do...
I guess if you're not in to those things, like me, it doesn't matter in the slightest 'what' it is.

Question are:
What reasons you got to know? And, what reasons do you got not to know?

 

[ClandestineTX]

Good questions, Snackimals!

I feel like it's a surprise whether it's at the 20 week scan or when it's born... now I'm wondering if I could keep such a surprise from myself... imaging myself not finding out at the scan, then running back into the office a week later because the suspense was killing me, begging the receptionist to puleeeeze tell me.

 

[Ameli]

Good questions, Snackimals!

I feel like it's a surprise whether it's at the 20 week scan or when it's born... now I'm wondering if I could keep such a surprise from myself... imaging myself not finding out at the scan, then running back into the office a week later because the suspense was killing me, begging the receptionist to puleeeeze tell me.

^ Agree! I've got to find out as soon as I can. I don't even want to focus on baby names until I know the gender. I'm just an impatient person.

 

[Snackimals]

true that...
Im just old-school. I wanna 'meet' the baby when the baby wants to meet me... no peeking, no extra details. It's how my mom went about me, and my siblings, so I wanna stay true to that. But, thats totally just me To each his/her own.

One of my colleagues surprised me when he and his wife chose not to find out the gender... He is so anal, an attorney, so has to know everything... He said, "there are such few real surprises left in this world. i want to have at least this one..." I liked that.

 

[Ameli]

I totally get that too. It's kind of cool to have the option.

 

[LillyTame]

I don't have a real reason either way I don't mind going neutral with colors and such...and would actually prefer that after baby is born as well...I don't want to be one of those parents that's pink/blue everything (even though blue IS my fav color ) I just think it would be fun to wait and let it be a last minute surprise.

 

[txbiscuit]

I like the first post updates Lil! (We have 4 BFPs now... I can't even believe it!)

OH really wanted to find out, and I did too. I am not a huge fan of surprises in general. I also wasn't sure if I had a gender preference (as it turned out, I didn't), but I wanted to have time to get over any gender disappointment before the baby got here. Honestly, it was never really a question for us whether or not we'd find out ahead of time.

 

[MIZZYD]

I am also not a pink person, Red is actually my fave color. I already told my family that if they throw me a babyshower I don't want pink nor blue, lol.

 

[Snackimals]

added note: By the time my mom had my sister, we had already moved to the states. So, she did get her prenatal docs visits here. She says the doctor just told her, she didn't even ask. She was kinda shocked he just told her, but took the info and ran with it. He told her it was a BOY. No doubt, 100%... he showed her 'his twinkie'...

everyone, EVERYONE, gave her boy's stuff... i recall so much blue! my mom had two boys named picked out. (Joshua and/or Emmanuel). we were set.

my sis was born. and i didnt know she was a girl till i walked in to the hospital... truth: i was so sad... i lost my throne that day, and i never saw it coming (i was 5 1/2)

she got the most random-ass girl name... and her favorite color to date is, wait for it.... BLUE!

 

[txbiscuit]

My favorite color is green, but it was hot pink for so long that I'm 100% sure I'll end up with tons of pink stuff given to me for La Biscuette. My sister and her girls all love pink, so we will also have boxes of pink hand-me-downs, and pink secondhand furniture/baby gear. I think I'm more cheap than I am concerned about avoiding gender stereotypes.

The baby's room is painted blue, though, and we have no plans to change that.

 

[Snackimals]

well. believe it or not: I LOVE pink...
dont care what i have, it WILL wear pink and leopard print -not together! of course.

i like our style Texas!

 

[txbiscuit]

My former coworker who is living in Mexico City right now gets weekly ultrasounds at her doctor visits (I'm so jealous. She found out the gender four weeks earlier than she'd find out here. Fortunately for her, she and her doctors have seen Mr. Winky so often by this point that they're pretty sure her baby's really a boy.) My friend in Switzerland gets extra ultrasounds too. Maybe since in the US, UK and Canada we know we'll only get the one chance at 20 weeks to find out, people end up being pressured who would otherwise wait for the surprise?

I like our style too Snackimals! (Although if you knew how often I wear pink and green together, you might refuse to associate with me.)

 

[ClandestineTX]

I like the first post updates Lil! (We have 4 BFPs now... I can't even believe it!)

OH really wanted to find out, and I did too. I am not a huge fan of surprises in general. I also wasn't sure if I had a gender preference (as it turned out, I didn't), but I wanted to have time to get over any gender disappointment before the baby got here. Honestly, it was never really a question for us whether or not we'd find out ahead of time.

Surprises and I also don't get along! I don't understand gender disappointment. I prefer boys, but if I have a girl we will happily cover her in fake tattoos, zombie and skull things, etc. I'm not super girly and my mom isn't (she was US Army, communications specialist, M-16 qualified... and I shit you not, she has taken out an alligator off her dock with a handgun (single-handed), in a house coat, while holding a cup of coffee in her other hand). And she totally looks just like everyone else's mom on the outside, but this one is mine (muah-ha-ha). Even after she got out of the army, would hang with the men-folk talking guns and explosives while the ladies would gather in kitchens and discuss Tupperware at parties. Don't get me wrong, the woman still wears pumps and skirt suits to work every day... but not at all girly!

true that...
Im just old-school. I wanna 'meet' the baby when the baby wants to meet me... no peeking, no extra details. It's how my mom went about me, and my siblings, so I wanna stay true to that. But, thats totally just me To each his/her own.

One of my colleagues surprised me when he and his wife chose not to find out the gender... He is so anal, an attorney, so has to know everything... He said, "there are such few real surprises left in this world. i want to have at least this one..." I liked that.

I LOVE this idea. I just don't think I could handle knowing that I could know and not know. Whether or not Hubster and I tell anyone else, or what names we've decided on... those are entirely separate issues!

added note: By the time my mom had my sister, we had already moved to the states. So, she did get her prenatal docs visits here. She says the doctor just told her, she didn't even ask. She was kinda shocked he just told her, but took the info and ran with it. He told her it was a BOY. No doubt, 100%... he showed her 'his twinkie'...

everyone, EVERYONE, gave her boy's stuff... i recall so much blue! my mom had two boys named picked out. (Joshua and/or Emmanuel). we were set.

my sis was born. and i didnt know she was a girl till i walked in to the hospital... truth: i was so sad... i lost my throne that day, and i never saw it coming (i was 5 1/2)

she got the most random-ass girl name... and her favorite color to date is, wait for it.... BLUE!

I'm not real big on the super-gendering (all girls stuff must be pink, all boys must be blue). I actually prefer the yellow/ orange/ purple/ green/ gray stuff anyway. Though, I do own my share of hot pink items/ accessories (just wait for shoe day on the photo challenge).

 

[ClandestineTX]

For those of you not following my journal (and dying for some line eye), you can vote on my crazy tests here: https://www.countdowntopregnancy.com/pregnancy-test-gallery/image.php?galleryid=148823

 

[LillyTame]

I think I see lines!

 

[lamago]

I vote yes too!

 

[Mrs. JJ]

Lines!!!!

But on the subject of gender, I totally want to know. No, I HAVE to know. I'm a planner by nature. I have to know so I can decide on the name and buy cute outfits and day dream.

 

[Twag]

30C in the UK is HOT and the UK is not really set up for such heat do not get me wrong I am by nature like a lizard on holiday etc I can handle that heat and lay sunning myself and loving it but since being pregnant I don't know why but I feel the heat quicker and it is just not fun (I hope once the baby is out I can go back to my sun loving days )

OK so finding out the sex - we are finding out reasons:
* DH needs time to prepare himself if it is a boy - he really wants a girl and although it is not gender disappointment for him he just needs to mentally prepare himself - although I would like a girl and would be happy either way
* We do not like surprises
* When we find out we have not decided if we will tell anyone else
* We are not doing a gender specific room as you all know but we will get a few items blanket/clothes but I love babies in white rompers when little
* None of my family found out the gender we would be the 1st
* It will be nice to know the gender so I can bond with baby more I think it would help

I think that is it