[CLOSED GROUP] TTC to 1st diaper - Welcome Freya! Congrats to fezzle!

[Fezzle]

Glad you're back, Clandie (even though I was away for most of when you were away!). Fx it's still going to happen this cycle- last month there were some signs around CD18 that didn't last so maybe things will happen around then this month but work!

 

[MIZZYD]

Fezzle: looks like a lot of fun actually.

 

[ClandestineTX]

I have faith in your body Fezzle! The first month off BC was asking for a lot!

 

[Fezzle]

This is true- before I got off BCPs, I had it in my mind that the first 3 cycles were going to just be practice ones, was expecting not to get any sort of period for a couple months or more, and if anything else happened it was a bonus- now here I am in cycle 2 already impatient!

 

[Twag]

I was off BCP for over a year before TTC and it still took 9 months for a sticky BFP Don't give up hope at cycle 2 you will get it just have fun with it and do not let TTC take over your world

 

[Fezzle]

Thanks for the advice, Twaggers! I think once I know I can O, I'll relax- though it'll probably just make me obsessed with waiting for a BFP once that happens!

 

[Twag]

I am sorry to say that the whole TTC process and then the being pregnant process is just a WHOLE LOT OF WAITING

I am sure your ovulating it may just take a little while after coming off the BCP for your body to regulate

 

[Pirate]

I love Twag's advice! Now to figure out how to not let TTC take over my world.

 

[Twag]

It is hard tbh and I think it genuinely depends on your OH I mean if they are all for the TTC then it isn't so much of an issue as they don't get the whole pressure thing!
but also the constant POAS of OPK & HPT's especially HPT's as long as you are able to handle seeing a BFN time after time until that elusive +ve shows up then you are good
I would never test unless I was late for AF and then on month 9 I was like sod it I am going to enjoy this cycle fully take TTC on and I am testing from 8DPO (not expecting anything) to just enjoy the circus that is TTC and to my surprise 11DPO I got my BFP I wasn't expecting it I fully expected to move onto cycle 10 - So I guess I just mean try to enjoy it and not let it bring you down too much although ultimately we all at some point or another just have a melt down (I let BnB more than once to clear my head)

Also continue to live your life don't put off things because of TTC still go out have fun

 

[Pirate]

Believe it or not, my husband is actually far more broody then me. If he had his way we would have started trying right after we got married in May 2011. He was a bit skeptical of the opks (and made fun of me when I bought them) but then was really excited when I got a positive one. He loves seeing the hearts on my tracking app.

I usually refuse to test until I am late and I manage the urge by not having any tests in the house. The urge will be harder not to give into this cycle because the opks I bout came with 10 hpts.

 

[Twag]

I did find it easier not to have HPT's in the house it takes away the temptation

My DH liked to see my chart and see what the temps were doing lol

 

[Fezzle]

My OH is very broody and also well into TTC. He's a big charter generally so likes to see my chart and is very motivated to put hearts on it! The only thing he doesn't seem fond of is the OPKs as he seems a bit grossed out at the fact that there are sticks with my urine on it that I'm keeping and the cups in the bin.

So far it's been really exciting more than frustrating for me, so hopefully that will continue. Last cycle I was sure I didn't ovulate, so I haven't had a HPT test yet or been tempted to do one. I am planning not to do one unless I'm late for AF but we'll see!

We're still trying to make the most of our pre-children time since we haven't been together long, so it's still be fun. The only thing I've really put on hold is buying clothes as I don't really need more so the thought of buying more and then not being able to wear them stops me.

I think once the academic year starts, it'll be better too as I'll have more distractions. I think I'll be ok until Dec/Jan because that was supposed to be our real time to start with timings for various things. After that though I imagine I'll start feeling more stressed- not just because it'll be longer that I've been TTC, but it'll mean I won't conceive number 1 until I'm 38 at the earliest which makes me more worried about TTC number 2.

 

[Pirate]

I go through phases of excitement and phases of being frustrated by TTC. Right now I'm in an excited/hopeful phase, but I think that has to do with using OPKS for the first time and the fact that a mid May EDD would be perfect in terms of schedule/maternity leave/etc.

I'm not sure about TTC #2.....I kind of feel like I may be a one and done girl. Hubs wants two but since I'm the one who has to grow the child and push it out of my body, I get the final say.

 

[Fezzle]

May starts the ideal time for me to have a baby regarding maternity leave. Sept is my most ideal month though I'd be happy with any month!

 

[Pirate]

I'd be happy with any month!

Truth!

 

[ClandestineTX]

I have to say, sitting here at cycle 11... I'm over the early testing, you get enough BFNs, it's not exciting anymore, just depressing. Definitely waiting until I'm at least due, if not late. If the day she-who-should-not-be-named arrives and my temp is still up, I'll test. If that day passes and she's not here, I'll test. Otherwise, letting nature take it's course.

As much as I did not want any part of a third trimester is TX summer weather - I've decided I want this NOW. I want to have a baby next summer to maximize my ability to spend time with our LO. And REALLY hoping the change in meds and vitamins gets this done. TTC is just not fun anymore!

 

[Fezzle]

That is one good thing about England- even in the summer there are overall cool temperatures here. We did have a bit of heat wave in July but it's nothing compared to the oppressively humid summers in North Carolina where I'm from.

 

[ClandestineTX]

NC is pretty bad. I spent a bit of years in the SE US and the humidity will kill you if the heat doesn't first!

 

[MIZZYD]

Weather right now in here in Southern Cali is horrible. I only go outside to take the dogs to do their business, then come back inside running, lol.

 

[Mrs. JJ]

My area of Southern Cali has been super mild actually. Overcast almost everyday in the 60s and sometimes we get lucky and the sun peeks out for a couple hours. Today is one of the lucky days with sun. YAY! Not that I get to enjoy it cause I'm working *grumble gurmble* but at least I can open up the doors and windows and air the place out.