[CLOSED GROUP] TTC to 1st diaper - Welcome Freya! Congrats to fezzle!

[txbiscuit]

I'm so sorry lamago. TTC can be so soul-crushing after a while. Have you guys talked about next steps with your doctor?

 

[lamago]

No. I'm taking a cycle off and switching doctors. My current doctor recommended taking injectinles next but it's about 3k. Too much for now so it's the end of the road for us.

 

[Ameli]

I'm truly sorry, Lamago. I don't blame you for taking a break to reevaluate things.

 

[MIZZYD]

I am so sorry lamago.

 

[ClandestineTX]

No. I'm taking a cycle off and switching doctors. My current doctor recommended taking injectinles next but it's about 3k. Too much for now so it's the end of the road for us.

Forgive my tragically bad memory (plus you are harder to remember details without a journal to refer back to) - what have you tried so far that led to the IUI before a full year?

I agree TTC is soul crushing after awhile, and I am honestly starting to see the value in taking a break when it feels that way. Have you thought about taking a break on purpose - not just because of the expense of the injections, but to give yourself a time to regroup? I think we all get in this mindset that if we keep trying "just one more" cycle that it will be IT. I no longer subscribe to that, as I had 6 "just one more" cycles before really just being crushed by the weight of STC (struggling to conceive, what happens when TTC starts to suck for you).

ma'am.

 

[Mrs. JJ]

No lamago!!! Sucks!!

 

[lamago]

I did 3 months of clomid and 3 months of clomid + iui. I'm 36 years old so I only had to wait 6 months instead of a year. I'm tried to take two months off in July and August but really it was just off from opks as I don't do tempting. But it was nerve racking not to know when I ovulate especially since my DH isn't took keen on too much bd. He's probably has issues with testosterone!

 

[ClandestineTX]

I get perplexed by the way different doctors do things, did they say why they didn't test full hormone panels for both of you? A testosterone issue would be a major factor for fertility, and it seems crazy to me (the researcher, not a doctor) that they would put you on Clomid and do an IUI without making sure both of your hormone profiles are OK, first. Were you on hormonal BC before you started TTC? What I have been finding is that despite what we're all told, it takes a lot longer for a lot of people to regulate than expected. I've also been accidentally encountering people who tried for years and eventually went on to be successful. I don't have the time to go digging it up now, but there was a study that made the news recently that showed couples who were unsuccessful after 12 months, most of them did conceive in the second year of trying without intervention. I know it sucks (cycle #14 here), but try to keep some hope alive. I think it just takes some of us longer to get with the program, but I wouldn't interpret a lack of success so far as an indication that it's not possible for you.

 

[lamago]

Well, they did test his SA and he has low motility sometimes and low morphology sometimes. He has done three SA. The FS did day 3 blood tests for me and she said everything looked good. She didnt' really say what it was for or what tests they were. But IUI was recommended bc of husband's low sperm.

I know there is always some chance, but at this point i'm all out of hope.

 

[txbiscuit]

Man lamago, I'm so sorry. I'm really just gutted for you. I don't know what to say, but We're all here to listen if you need to talk.

 

[lamago]

Thanks txbiscuit. As for birth control, I used an IUD for 1 year until Nov. 2011 then we used condoms for 1 year before TTC. I used the copper IUD.

 

[ClandestineTX]

There are no hormones in that type of IUD, so it sounds like it's most likely just getting the sperm in the right place at the right time. I know it's not cheap, but IVF might be better if the IUI doesn't work.

I would directly ask the new doctor about hormone testing for your husband - if his SA results are the effect of a hormone issue or vitamin deficiency, the easiest thing would be to treat the problem directly (versus trying to compensate by doing fertility treatments). It still sucks to have to wait (for what I'm sure feels like forever). It doesn't sound impossible, though, not at all. Just a hurdle, but not one that you can't get over sooner or later (hopefully SOONER).

 

[ClandestineTX]

PS. I have to say I can't believe how quickly a year passes... this month a year ago was the first time I ordered OPKs and bought my BBT thermometer. I was so excited (and so naive)... I really can't believe it's been a year since I started all of that, after getting frustrated and impatient a mere 2 cycles into trying... For many of us, I hope the second year of trying works in our favor. I don't want to see ANY of us on TTC boards this time next year!

 

[LillyTame]

PS. I have to say I can't believe how quickly a year passes... this month a year ago was the first time I ordered OPKs and bought my BBT thermometer. I was so excited (and so naive)... I really can't believe it's been a year since I started all of that, after getting frustrated and impatient a mere 2 cycles into trying... For many of us, I hope the second year of trying works in our favor. I don't want to see ANY of us on TTC boards this time next year!

Hear, hear! I could have wrote this myself

 

[Pirate]

PS. I have to say I can't believe how quickly a year passes... this month a year ago was the first time I ordered OPKs and bought my BBT thermometer. I was so excited (and so naive)... I really can't believe it's been a year since I started all of that, after getting frustrated and impatient a mere 2 cycles into trying... For many of us, I hope the second year of trying works in our favor. I don't want to see ANY of us on TTC boards this time next year!

Hear, hear! I could have wrote this myself

This!

 

[lamago]

I keep trying to imagine what getting a bfp might feel like but I used to be able to pretend but know its been so long ttc I can't even imagine.

 

[LillyTame]

I keep trying to imagine what getting a bfp might feel like but I used to be able to pretend but know its been so long ttc I can't even imagine.

I don't know why but this last cycle I looked at a test as the strip was getting wet and I THOUGHT there was going to be a line in the right spot! My heart jumped...it was a nice feeling even though it only lasted 5secs

 

[Pirate]

I keep trying to imagine what getting a bfp might feel like but I used to be able to pretend but know its been so long ttc I can't even imagine.

I don't even let myself imagine anymore. It just hurts too bad. Over the last couple of months I have transitioned (without even realizing it) from saying "when I get pregnant" to "if I ever get pregnant."

 

[Fezzle]

to everyone!

 

[lamago]

Hugs! I should be ov dec 31st. Not sure if I want to do opks but am worried about dh low motility. Do not sure. I also started acupuncture and I'm going on a diet for reals this time. In 190lbs right now and been watching the biggest loser. There is a lady on there ttc too.