Well, I tested at 9dpo, 10dpo, and 11dpo...and got BFP on all three!
After the events of last time, we're being cautiously positive. Surprisingly, I'm not nearly as anxious as I was last time, though we're not telling very many people. We've decided to discuss things in terms of "when the pregnancy is successful" and "when the baby is born," as opposed to "if the pregnancy is successful," and I have firmly forbidden myself to make any appointments with Dr. Google.
I'm feeling surprisingly relaxed and calm about this pregnancy. I don't have any of the anxiety of the last time, and I don't feel the need to obsessively test. We bought another set of FRERs today just because I think it's fun to get the darker positives, but I don't have any fear that it's going to be gone like I did last time. Hubs and I discussed it today - we're not sure if it's because last time I just KNEW something was wrong from the get go, or if this time, it's just hard to fear the worst if you've already suffered it. I don't know. All I really know is that this time, the only reason I'm anxious and scared is because we're going to be PARENTS, not because I'm worried something will go wrong. So I'm just enjoying it, which is something I didn't do last time.
We haven't told our families yet - I've told a couple of people at work (two of which have also miscarried and have been here for me through all of the turmoil, and my supervisor, who was such a crazy source of support that she probably single handedly kept me from jumping off a bridge), and we're debating when to tell the families. Probably later rather than sooner for his parents, and sooner rather than later for mine. Right now, we're pretty happy just letting it be our thing.
So, anyway. We're doing really well!