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Mummy to Gabriella
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Firstly do you know where I could read more about co-sleeping safely?
My little one is 3 weeks old and I'm having major issues with her sleeping in her Moses Basket. At the moment she's only sleeping in it for spells of about 45 minutes, and I'm getting exhausted! I know she can easily sleep for longer than this because when I wear her in a Moby wrap she can go 2 or 3 hours without waking up, she just doesn't seem to sleep well on her own
Secondly, how do you deal with unsupportive family?
Today I had my mother in law (who FF) suggest that maybe I wasn't making enough milk (and has been suggesting all along that perhaps my milk just isn't any good because Gabriella wants to nurse all the time), and I had my sister in law (who FF) suggest that I give my 3 week old baby some baby food or some custard! I honestly couldn't believe my SIL when she said give her some custard!
My baby put on 1.5 oz last week, and 1 oz this week. My HV said as long as she's putting on weight she's moving in the right direction and she wasn't worried about it, but apparently that's not enough of a gain to satisfy my in-laws
I also had a lecture today about how Gabriella will never learn to sleep on her own, and how I'm "making a rod for my own back" and "ruining that baby" by wearing her in a Moby wrap for a couple of hours each day so that I can get stuff done around the house!
But I don't know how to explain that baby wearing isn't going to do my baby any harm... The HV said if anything it'll make her feel more secure and make her a more well adjusted child, but my hubby keeps being told by the girls he works with that baby wearing is the wrong thing to do, and then we're both getting it from my in-laws...
I'm tired, and she's tired, and the only way she seems willing to rest during the day is either in the wrap or laying on my husband's chest, or my chest. He's gone back to work now, and I'd get nothing done in the day if she was laying on top of me...
My MIL already raised controlled crying, she didn't call it that, but did suggest I feed her (and don't pet her while feeding as I was playing with Gabriella's hair while I nursed her ) and put her straight down in her moses basket without hugging her, and just leave her to cry for a few minutes...
I'm fortunate that my HV and my own mum are being really supportive, but as first time parents it is really hard for my husband and I to know if what we're doing is for the best, and because my hubby is being told that what I'm doing is wrong from most of the people he talks to I can feel a bit unsupported by him half the time
My little one is 3 weeks old and I'm having major issues with her sleeping in her Moses Basket. At the moment she's only sleeping in it for spells of about 45 minutes, and I'm getting exhausted! I know she can easily sleep for longer than this because when I wear her in a Moby wrap she can go 2 or 3 hours without waking up, she just doesn't seem to sleep well on her own
Secondly, how do you deal with unsupportive family?
Today I had my mother in law (who FF) suggest that maybe I wasn't making enough milk (and has been suggesting all along that perhaps my milk just isn't any good because Gabriella wants to nurse all the time), and I had my sister in law (who FF) suggest that I give my 3 week old baby some baby food or some custard! I honestly couldn't believe my SIL when she said give her some custard!
My baby put on 1.5 oz last week, and 1 oz this week. My HV said as long as she's putting on weight she's moving in the right direction and she wasn't worried about it, but apparently that's not enough of a gain to satisfy my in-laws
I also had a lecture today about how Gabriella will never learn to sleep on her own, and how I'm "making a rod for my own back" and "ruining that baby" by wearing her in a Moby wrap for a couple of hours each day so that I can get stuff done around the house!
But I don't know how to explain that baby wearing isn't going to do my baby any harm... The HV said if anything it'll make her feel more secure and make her a more well adjusted child, but my hubby keeps being told by the girls he works with that baby wearing is the wrong thing to do, and then we're both getting it from my in-laws...
I'm tired, and she's tired, and the only way she seems willing to rest during the day is either in the wrap or laying on my husband's chest, or my chest. He's gone back to work now, and I'd get nothing done in the day if she was laying on top of me...
My MIL already raised controlled crying, she didn't call it that, but did suggest I feed her (and don't pet her while feeding as I was playing with Gabriella's hair while I nursed her ) and put her straight down in her moses basket without hugging her, and just leave her to cry for a few minutes...
I'm fortunate that my HV and my own mum are being really supportive, but as first time parents it is really hard for my husband and I to know if what we're doing is for the best, and because my hubby is being told that what I'm doing is wrong from most of the people he talks to I can feel a bit unsupported by him half the time