Co-Sleeping Mummies..how?

[Leanne&Bump..x]

I have co-slept with Karl since day one. Although LOTS of people have said to me its a bad habbit to start etc, it worked for me and karl, and in the end was the only way either of us were going to get any sleep.

Now though, Karl will only fall asleep if he is in MY bed and i am lying beside him. If im lying beside him but not cuddling him, he cries, so i have to put my face near his..hes also started to stroke my face....sooo did any of you successfuly get your lo sleeping in their own cot? How old were they and How did you do it?

 

[Becky]

I co-slept with Jacob until he was 3 months the only way I could break it was to let him cry it out in his cot going in every 10 minutes to give him a kiss say good night and tuck him up again, Im not going to lie it was awful to hear him crying like that and I had to be so strong not to give in but after about 5 days he was fine and now doesnt make a noise when I put him in his cot at night! x

 

[PeanutBean]

This isn't very helpful but we're still cosleeping. This week I'm trying to get his day sleeps on the bed out of our arms as for a while now he'll only sleep when held. Once we've got that sorted we'll get him out of our arms at night then begin working on cot sleeps during the day.

 

[Pyrrhic]

We started by putting her down on the own, in her own room for naps.

We also put lullaby music on each time she goes down. with a little light show which seems to help.

It only took us a couple of nights. I wouldn't let he CIO, but any little mummers or whimpers and I wouldn't go upstairs unless I knew she needed me.

 

[Ema]

i managed it when jacob was 4 1/2 months i just put him in and refused to let him back in with me. it did help jacob could self settle anyway so i just put him in and he fell asleep like normal then when he got up in the night instead of putting him in beside me i put him back in cot also helped i have always put him in cot for naps and he self settled so he was used to his cot xxxx

 

[Chel]

Jasper half cot sleeps half co sleeps.

He doesn't seem to sleep any better or worse in either location - I'm the one who decides whether I want to cuddle him or whether to put him to bed.

He really doesn't mind.

I'm not sure if that helps at all... I guess Jasper is used to being put down in his cot and made to CIO. Although, if he fusses or cries in bed with me, he gets put in his cot to see if he'll settle.... and sometimes if he wont settle in his cot I put him in bed and he falls asleep.

I like my relaxed approach!

I dont know if that helps at all... I just felt like sharing

 

[Leanne&Bump..x]

This is my problem, Karl cant self-settle, infact he wont settle with anyone other than me, not even his dad. On a night i have to cuddle him to sleep, otherwise he will just stay awake.

Ive tried cuddling him, swaddling him then putting him down but he just wakes straight back up, like wide awake!..

And thanks chel, any input really does help.. I appriciate all replies

 

[Sparkleyone]

Instead of cuddling him to sleep, try patting his back and saying Shhhh at the same time. Eventually you will be able to cut back on this, and your little boy may start to self soothe. He is still so young though. Eventually he will start to settle for you this way in his own cot or on the sofa etc, or with someone else. Babies go through alsorts of different phases etc. I can recommend the No Cry Sleep Solution book by Elizabeth Pantley (look on eBay or in your local library) its full of invaluable tips and advice to help your LO sleep without your help. Xx

 

[Blob]

I still co-sleep am hoping to move her in a few months But she will sleep anywhere during the day so i hope its not going to be tooo bad (wishful thinking perhaps) but in preperation i now have a routine, like we feed, bath, play a bit, milk then she falls asleep hen i'm feeding her and i put her in our bed. Only in the past week she's finally kept on sleeping when i put her down...so i hope she'll grow out of needing me there
Also i sing to her and as soon as i do she sleeps now

 

[AC81]

i was a cosleeper up until about 6 weeks ago. erin would only go to sleep and stay asleep in my arms - i had to cuddle her all night long! but i got her to settle in her cot by doing pick up put down because i didnt want to let her cry it out. it took about 5 long, tiring nights but now she goes down on her own at 7pm and has just started sleeping through now until 7 in the morning. it can be done! x

 

[vicwick]

We started by putting her down on the own, in her own room for naps.

We also put lullaby music on each time she goes down. with a little light show which seems to help.

It only took us a couple of nights. I wouldn't let he CIO, but any little mummers or whimpers and I wouldn't go upstairs unless I knew she needed me.

I did similar, would put Alfie down in his cot for naps and on a night he falls asleep whilst on the boob and i take him up and put him in his cot. He just all of a sudden started liking his cot. I also bought a white noise CD which helped him drift off to sleep

I still have to bring him inot bed with me durin growth spurts or if he's unwell just so we can get some sleep.

I have never let Alfie CIO cos i can't bare hearing him cry and i read it can make them overheat which panicked me.