Mervs Mum
Doula & Mum of 3!
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I probably shouldnt be worrying about this just yet....
I am going back to work part time in July for a couple of weeks then I break up for the summer hols (cheeky I know!) and in September I'll be back working 3 days a week (mon, tue, wed).
We have registered Hebe with a lovely local independant nursery / school so we have a guaranteed full time place but closer to the time we can decde exactly when she will be going.
My MIL said ages ago she'd like to help us with child care which is lovely of her. We'd said Hebe would probably go to nursery mon and tues and with ther Grandma weds but I'm already a teeny bit concerned about it.
The nursery is local and convienient and my MIL lives past the nursery and my work so the journey wouldnt be exactly easy BUT the nursery is £50 per day so its a decent enough amount to be saving each month for us have to think seriously about it.
MIL is 68. She's a young and fairly fit 68 yr old. She's on her own since FIL died 18 months ago. My SIL and her fell out (SIL is an enormous bitch) so she rarely sees her other grandchildren so I know how much this time with Hebe would mean to her.
We had her over for Christmas and I'm starting to worry that it's going to be too much for her. She sometimes seems all fingers and thumbs with her - I know she's still pretty small but in some ways she's gonna be harder work as she stops staying in one place and starts to want to move around etc. My Mum is 56 and she said she would find having her every week quite tiring but she cant anyway coz she still works.
I dont know. Am I being a typically over concerned Mummy or what? I know I like things doing a certain way and she'd learn but I watched her feeding her (so I could have a couple yesterday )and it was like pulling teeth. Then when she winded her I had to ask her to not bang her back so hard - she wasnt hurting her but even my hubby was .... She's proper old school - I know she thinks I feed her too much or at the wrong times coz she's BF on demand. She thinks I feed her everytime she whinges, which is technically true as she only winges when she needs feeding, but in her day you BF every 4 hrs for ten mins, winded, ten mins other side then let them cry - that aint what I do!!! I cant be doing too bad a job coz she's slept thru since 3 weeks and she's gaining weight exactly as she should be....
God this turned into a rant.....sorry if you got this far and have now lost the will to live...
What do I do - I LOVE my MIL. She's so good to us and I know she very much cares but I dont know if I can leave Hebe with her for a full day every week....
I am going back to work part time in July for a couple of weeks then I break up for the summer hols (cheeky I know!) and in September I'll be back working 3 days a week (mon, tue, wed).
We have registered Hebe with a lovely local independant nursery / school so we have a guaranteed full time place but closer to the time we can decde exactly when she will be going.
My MIL said ages ago she'd like to help us with child care which is lovely of her. We'd said Hebe would probably go to nursery mon and tues and with ther Grandma weds but I'm already a teeny bit concerned about it.
The nursery is local and convienient and my MIL lives past the nursery and my work so the journey wouldnt be exactly easy BUT the nursery is £50 per day so its a decent enough amount to be saving each month for us have to think seriously about it.
MIL is 68. She's a young and fairly fit 68 yr old. She's on her own since FIL died 18 months ago. My SIL and her fell out (SIL is an enormous bitch) so she rarely sees her other grandchildren so I know how much this time with Hebe would mean to her.
We had her over for Christmas and I'm starting to worry that it's going to be too much for her. She sometimes seems all fingers and thumbs with her - I know she's still pretty small but in some ways she's gonna be harder work as she stops staying in one place and starts to want to move around etc. My Mum is 56 and she said she would find having her every week quite tiring but she cant anyway coz she still works.
I dont know. Am I being a typically over concerned Mummy or what? I know I like things doing a certain way and she'd learn but I watched her feeding her (so I could have a couple yesterday )and it was like pulling teeth. Then when she winded her I had to ask her to not bang her back so hard - she wasnt hurting her but even my hubby was .... She's proper old school - I know she thinks I feed her too much or at the wrong times coz she's BF on demand. She thinks I feed her everytime she whinges, which is technically true as she only winges when she needs feeding, but in her day you BF every 4 hrs for ten mins, winded, ten mins other side then let them cry - that aint what I do!!! I cant be doing too bad a job coz she's slept thru since 3 weeks and she's gaining weight exactly as she should be....
God this turned into a rant.....sorry if you got this far and have now lost the will to live...
What do I do - I LOVE my MIL. She's so good to us and I know she very much cares but I dont know if I can leave Hebe with her for a full day every week....