Confused...

[seekingkiddos]

So I lost my baby on 03-10-14. It was the biggest shock of my life. I had been told by multiple doctors it wasn't going to happen naturally with my pcos and the state it was in. I had been missing periods, but for me that was natural. Very natural actually. Though it hadn't happened in a few years it was far from surprising. Due to this fact I never knew I was pregnant until it was too late. I had no symptoms at the time. I was just kinda tired, but with pcos exhaustion is common. By the time I started suspecting it it was too late. I had started spotting. I asked for a pregnancy test at my doctor and was told I didn't need one. Three days later I miscarried naturally. They told me this was common even in women that don't have pcos, to lose the first one completely symptomless, but the guilt, it's bad. I wish I knew what to do to make it hurt less, but it hurts everyday. I think about my baby everyday (I decided since the child was young to run with science and dub her a girl, named Aurora.) I feel guilty about having my AF right now. Also my AF is confusing me.

I want to try again. I told my bf what happened and he stuck to the rhythm method rather than sending any baby dust my way knowing how I feel about wanting to try after this AF as I was told to wait one, yea he's not into that but won't inconvenience himself to wear a rubber. Granted he isn't very smart with the rhythm method, and I know a few have made it in. Now during this AF though I have felt what I was reading was normal for pregnancy. Breast pain, back pain, headaches all the time, heating issues etc. still no sickness though. I am currently ending not a spotty but not too bad AF. It was four days including today, most days there wasn't enough to get to the pad. One day it had enough. Since I am open to ttc even now (not my first choice with what the dr. said but I would be thrilled) is this a normal post MC AF or should I go get a test? I don't remember this much blood with my last baby, only one reg. day day with some bloody leftovers that barely touched the pad for another two, but I also didn't have any of these symptoms so very very confused. I appreciate any and all help.

 

[Button#]

It could just be hormones after the mc. My first AF after mc I had sore boobs which I don't normally. If I were you if get some home pregnancy tests and see what they say.

 

[seekingkiddos]

Ty. I have been very confused with all this. I really don't even know much about this since I wasn't supposed to be able to do this. A lot of me is very confused, especially since now I feel more preg. than I did preg. I really wanted to wait one af to make sure everything was healthy.