Considering at-home insemination with donor sperm...?

[RubyRainbows]

if you aren't comfortable meeting at your house, another good option is to rent a hotel room, meet in the lobby - give him the room key to collect a sample in the room and leave sample up there, he comes down when finished and hands off the key. Then you can use the room to inseminate.

I think this is how i plan to arrange things -- at least in the beginning! I like to be super-cautious!!!!! I don't even really like guys, in general... so the less time i have to spend with him... the better. Lol... hhmm... that sounds awful!

I had asked Luna how she changed her name, bc i had been wanting to for awhile. All you need to do is contact one of the mods & explain why you want it changed & what you would like it to be. The person i contacted was very nice & helpful -- she changed it by the next day!

 

[kns]

ours was a little different.
we have a camper van so we arranged to meet near his local cmapsite the biggest in area so it didnt look too dodgy. even though it was the biggest site in the area didnt mean there was anyone there!
anyway we were nervous to say the least and we got everything prepared, 10 ml syringe, music, diary etc.
he met us at our van had a chat for awhile then he went to produce his sample in the campsites facilities, whilst waiting it felt so sereal, we had been using a fertility monitor for 2 months and using a basal thermometer for 6 months and this was d day.
he came back to the van dropped his sample and left us to it, we inseminated well tried as partner a little nervous and too rense for it to work properly, then we did the whole legs in air raised pelvis etc.
he donated the next morning too but this went very well and we were hopeful.
2 weeks later we took a test then another to make sure and yes we were pregnant and still are.
midwife appointment on wednesday for 16.5 weeks!!!!
4 weeks tomorrow gender scan and in no time she will be giving birth.
our donor we cant thank enough so professional.
x

 

[kezza78]

This is a so TMI question but I was wondering if when inseminating using a syringe does any of the stuff come out the sides? I know it's a TMI but feel we may be doing it wrong.

 

[DaisyDoodles]

You don't lose any of it if you insert it slowly Kezza!!

 

[kezza78]

Thought we we're doing it slowly, just not slowly enough thank Daisy.

 

[DaisyDoodles]

Are you doing it with a pillow already under you?? In theory, if your hips are tilted you shouldn't lose any!!

 

[kezza78]

Maybe that's it, usually put the pillow under after the insem!!! Thanks for the advice Daisy x

 

[Nimyra]

Oh my goodness Em.... is Maya your special donor bean?

She is just beautiful, what a wonderful gift x

Yes, she's my special donor bean!

 

[kns]

on our first insemination i doubt any got in as she was so tense lol

 

[RubyRainbows]

Wow Kns! That worked fantastic for you!!!!!!!!!! Congrats!

So how about the donor? Do you guys call him to tell him yes/no after pregnancy test? What kind of reactions do you get?

Luna -- how have your donors reacted to the news of your losses?

 

[topazicatzbet]

i text my donor to tell him the good news and he was over the moon for me as i was his first success.

i have a really good relationship with my donor and concider him a friend now, i also refer to him as daddy(im single though) and he has a very basic relationship with callum, but he was happy to go with what ever i want the other 3 girls he has helped dont really have any contact now with him.

 

[kns]

hi rainbow,
thanks, yeah we have a very good professional relationship with donor, he also supplies to a clinic and there is a 2 yr waiting list for him, we are the 7th success of his and we will email when we find out if a boy or girl and after the birth with details, and our agreement with him we will email every birthday with a picture and i will use him as my donor in a couple of years.
x

 

[LunaBean]

Luna -- how have your donors reacted to the news of your losses?

The first donor we had and I got pregnant with, he started getting really too much, ringing and texting me all the time, wanting to come and paint the nursery (I was only 5 weeks when we tod him!!) but then whn I lost the baby at 6 week, he text saying he had got too emotionally involved, and felt he wouldnt be able to help us again. The original plan had been for him not to have any contact etc, but when I actually got pregnant, he wanted to co-parent, which we weren't happy with, so guess it was best for all of us.

The 2nd one was pretty much the same, he gradually stopped contacting us after the 3rd loss, to the point where he didn't show up for an arranged insemination. We havn't heard from him since...

Our current donor, he knows its a hard process, I didnt tell him about the first loss until 2 weeks after it happened and he said he was really sorry and hoped I was ok etc, with last months one he said we should go do a fertility dance on he beach near his house lol. I'm worried he'll say maybe Im just not meant to have kids or something, because why should he continue to help me, if I can't keep hold of the babies? But it's fine up to now.

Roll on my appointment at the miscarriage clinic on 5th october, maybe get some answers, because Im stopping at the end of the year!

 

[snagglepat]

Just to add we ALWAYS got leakage when inserting, no matter how slow. We just figured that as there are millions of little swimmers in there it only takes a tiny drop being where it needs to be to work.

I love the image of you inseminating in your van KNS. We're just down the road from you near Oswestry and our new babies will only be a month apart in age. If you ever fancy getting to know another two mum family locally for your little one to get to hang out with other kids in the same boat then drop us a line.

Gina.

 

[kns]

Just to add we ALWAYS got leakage when inserting, no matter how slow. We just figured that as there are millions of little swimmers in there it only takes a tiny drop being where it needs to be to work.

I love the image of you inseminating in your van KNS. We're just down the road from you near Oswestry and our new babies will only be a month apart in age. If you ever fancy getting to know another two mum family locally for your little one to get to hang out with other kids in the same boat then drop us a line.

Gina.

wow thats really kind hun, will discuss things with partner this week but really busy as moving house on friday!
its not too far i suppose you know any more lesbian parents in the area?
xxx

 

[Sparklypants]

I have done a test this morning and it was a definite neg... at 8 dpo should I be getting a faint positive with an IC if I were pg by now?

 

[kns]

you should do a test you are due your period any earlier you could get a false negative, we did a test 2 days too early and showed negative when we were actually pregnant.
xxx

 

[RubyRainbows]

I have done a test this morning and it was a definite neg... at 8 dpo should I be getting a faint positive with an IC if I were pg by now?

No way! Don't worry about a negative test at 8DPO! Very few people see positive lines that early -- it's possible -- but NOT the norm!!!!!!

When i was pregnant with my son i got a neg test at 11-12DPO & that was with an early detection HPT -- i waited a week -- until AF was a few days late & tested again & then it was a beautiful BFP! (Plus, i was carrying twins!! Yet still didn't show up early! But i lost one of the twinnies at 8 weeks )

You are certainly not out! Think ** positive ** thoughts!!!!!!!

 

[kns]

just wait til your due your period or if you can wait a few days later as the fertilised egg doesnt emplant until around the time of your period and you may spot a little (implantation bleeding) my partner thought she wasnt pregnant this time last year as she bled and it wasnt until the following due period that didnt come we found out she was pregnant but unfortunatly we lost him or her at 9 weeks.
x

 

[snagglepat]

Kns, things are a little busy round here too, it was more of a long term, maybe meet up every now and then when the kids are a bit older to help normalise their families a bit suggestion. I haven't come across that many same sex couples round here. We're friends with one couple in Staffordshire and one in Manchester. There are plenty more out there, it's just you don't always get to hear of each other.

8dpo is definitely too early. I got a negative at 9dpo this time and the very faintest of positives at 10dpo - and that was with an early detection test. Last time our first faint line didn't appear until 12dpo. Good luck!

Gina. x