Considering at-home insemination with donor sperm...?

[DaisyDoodles]

I only waited about 10 mins, but my donor told us his liquifies quickly... I also only had the one donation the day before ovulation and it worked!! The only thing I can add to what you've already said is to put a pillow under your bum and lie down for at least 30 minutes, in my case I stayed lieing down for a couple of hours then went to bed anyway!!

Lyvian, I'm really pleased that Viv's parents are happy, lets hope you get your BFP nice and quick!!

Ruby when are you testing again??

 

[snagglepat]

Daisy, that's such great news! Huge congrats to you.

Lyvian, great news on the parents front. It must be such a weight off to know that they're happy and on your side on it. I bet they can't wait to be grandparents! My DPs parents took a little while to come round - just like it took them several years to get to grips with her sexuality (before we'd met). Now they couldn't be more devoted to our daughter and I have to say that it's worked wonders for our relationship. They still wibbled a bit when we told them we were expecting again so it's not all roses, but they soon came round. I think it was because we just told them we were pregnant and hadn't warned them we were trying like we did last time - not that we had much chance to given how quickly it happened this time. If Viv's folks are anything like my DPs then prior warning has probably been a very good thing.

We'd only leave it 10-15 mins to liquify too, and we never bothered with a menstrual cup, we just left the syringe in for anything up to an hour and then stayed laying down overnight (we always inseminated in the evening as that's what worked for our donor getting to us). We didn't often make love afterwards either. We conceived our daughter without an orgasm in sight but I did have one this time. We found the key was to do it when I had fertile mucus, even if that seemed out of time with when we thought I'd ovulate. At least that way we knew the sperm would be sustained for a few days and might get there regardless rather than killed off instantly but non-fertile mucus.

No testing yet Ruby?

ETA: I just noticed on my ticker that I'm down to double figures in the days until baby is due. This is all happening rather quickly... But the good news is we might finally have agreed on a boys name which is something we've been struggling with up until now.

Best wishes all round,

Gina. x

 

[DaisyDoodles]

Snagglepat, I'm so excited for you, 98 days... that's going to fly by!

I had my first panic about giving birth last night!! - Only 8 more months to worry about it!
And I pulled a swifty this morning as well, I phoned the doctors and booked an appointment without even mentioning that I'm pregnant so I will be seeing the doctor on Monday morning to get the ball rolling!

 

[kezza78]

So ladies,

I'm currently in the dreaded 2ww although i think we may have inseminated too early!! We inseminated last Friday (8th) and got Peak on Sunday and Monday (donor was meant to come on Monday but got called out on buisness at the last minute). I trying to be positive and really hoping that the little swimmers hung around!!

Hope everyone is well. x

 

[snagglepat]

Hi Kezza,

The baby I'm currently pregnant with was conceived on a cycle where we inseminated a good 3-4 days before ovulation so it definitely can work - especially with fresh sperm. Did you have fertile mucus on the Friday?

Daisy, good luck at the doctors, though they won't really do anything other than refer you to the midwives who will then see you to book you in at around 8-12 weeks (it varies place to place). You are in the UK aren't you?

As for giving birth - it's an amazing experience! I can't wait to do it again. It's b****y hard work but my goodness, the sense of achievement and total emotional (hormone induced) high you get afterwards is incredible. Not to mention the fact that you've got this stunning little person in your lives all of a sudden. By the time you're full term, the size of a small planet and unable to get up off the sofa without a hoist you'll be very much looking forward to it, I promise.

Gina. x

 

[kezza78]

Hi Gina,

i did have ewcm on Friday, but also used concieve plus. Finger's crossed it's worked x

 

[mommies1and2]

I appreciate the info and support from all of you! Gina, I'm glad to hear about your success 3-4 days prior to Ovulation...we want to try for a girl and I recently read that means we need to start about 4 days out.

Since we are lucky enough to have a donor at our beck and call we've decided to do an insemination every 24 hours from Sunday through Wednesday. And since we're doing them all in the evening I'll just go to bed afterwards and skip the Diva cup. I'm not really clear on how to do that part properly anyway. Do you put the sperm in the cup or insert the sperm and then put the cup in??

So pillow under my bottom, a roll in the hay, and nighty night... woo hoo!

 

[topazicatzbet]

i use soft cups which are simular to diva cup, you can do it either way, but the way you have planned sounds good.

 

[RubyRainbows]

We tested today -- and then the arrived a few hours later! Grrrr!

So hard to predict ovulation when trying to work around the work schedule of 3 people... driving 2 hours out of town... booking a hotel, etc. Cycle is usually 33 days but now arrived CD30. Not sure how that will effect ovulation.........

Just emailed donor about meeting on Nov. 1st, which is CD 18 -- wondering if that is too late tho -- if the cycle length is now shorter??

Gina -- getting close! Congrats on deciding names! Are you sharing them, or keeping the names a secret/surprise??

 

[topazicatzbet]

sorry hun, its a real pain timing it well. when i was trying for callum i was really regular 32 day cycle with ovulation on cd 16 so i could plan well ahead but since callum my cycle has varied which has made it a real pain so i feel for you.

 

[LunaBean]

Aw I'm sorry Ruby, that sucks! It's hard trying to sort everyone out a such short notice!!

I made us Rainbow Mummies a website awhile ago, but there werent many of us then, so here's the link again, maybe we can use that as well as here, until we get our own section! Anyone else feel free to join too tho, it's not just for Rainbow Mummies!

Rainbow Mummies

 

[EpdTTC]

Sorry about the witch Ruby! Any chance that on the next cycle you guys can go up in the evening and do an insemination in the evening and then maybe another the next morning or afternoon? Two inseminations per cycle really increases the chances I think. Remind me again how you gals are tracking ovulaiton? CBFM? OPKs? I can't remember! I really like the Clear Blue OPKs with the smiley face. Those worked great for me. When I would get a smiley face I would inseminate that day, the next day, and the next if possible, although the cycle I got pregnant I just did it that night and the next afternoon. Is your donor flexible or do things need to be planned well in advance? I remember when I first started trying with my donor. The first month, the first insemination was like 4 days too early! I wouldn't get a positive OPK until CD 17 and would usually ovulate the next day. I'm wondering if day 18 if too late now that cycles are a couple of days shorter. Earlier might be better because the spermies can always hang around for a few days but if you do it too late, no luck! Keep me posted! Good luck this cycle!

 

[EpdTTC]

Oh...and I was supposed to find out the baby's sex today but baby would not cooperate. Those legs were crossed tightly! So I go back on Monday to try again!

 

[RubyRainbows]

Thanks girls! I don't think the donor can do two days in a row. He also lives 2 hours away from the location we will meet at again. Plus he is married, has step-children, & works for the government (travels alot). Last time i called off work... but can't keep doing that once a month! Hoping to drive out... insem... and then drive back home. I will feel so sketchy checking back out of the hotel room a few hours later... lol. I'm sure hotel front desk clerks have seen far worse tho, lol.

The last few cycles we used opks... OH always got good obvious positive lines on CDs 18/19------ so we just based it off of that this last time------ and went with CM, too! We didn't test at all since everything had to be arranged in advance. Figured we were in the fertile period... and had good fertile CM.

Erin, how did baby bean look?? That is great news that they will scan again!!!!!! I know alot of people that didn't find out for several weeks/months after the scan if baby didn't cooperate! Better luck on Monday! So exciting! When i went for my private scan, they told me to drink a capri sun juice pouch right before the appointment....... It worked! Jayden was on a sugar high in there -- moving all around like crazy! He was sucking his toes & waving at us. I even got an ultrasound pic where it looks like he is signing "i love you" with his fingers!

 

[LunaBean]

Erin, I wana see a bump pic!

 

[EpdTTC]

Baby bean looked good! Was a bit lazy but then I drank some orange juice and walked around a bit-then moved a bit more but no matter what position baby was in-legs were crossed or hands were in the crotch area! I am thrilled that I get to see baby again-although it would be nice to know what I am having...I won't complain come Monday and getting to see baby again.

As far as your donor-it's a tough call on the timing since you are both traveling and you have to plan it around work schedules. I say do it when you can this cycle but I'd still test with OPKs just to get an idea if the timing is accurate or not so if it isn't you can plan better for the next cycle. It's hard because cycles can vary by a day or two! My cycles were pretty consistent for the most part. Most of the times I got a positive OPK on CD 17 and ov'd on CD 18. The cycle I got pregnant I might have gotten a positive OPK on CD 16 and ov'd on CD 17.

Luna-I will work on the bump pic. I am such a cow right now, I hate to take pics of myself....but I need to do it for my own record anyway.

 

[mommies1and2]

I've been reading the past posts and there is alot of great info here! I almost feel like I know you all now! I just have to ask....why is getting a LGBT forum going such an issue? I would think they'd be happy to offer us a place to discuss the issues that are really only relevant to same sex couples.

Just wondering...

Andrea

 

[Nimyra]

aw, Erin, I'm sure your bump is lovely! Can't wait to see a pic!

 

[LunaBean]

Mommies1and2..I duno..it's 'on the cards' but they dont know in what format it will take yet. I made us one in the mean time tho! https://www.Rainbow-Mummies.tk

 

[RubyRainbows]

Emily -- i love the new pic of Maya -- she is soo cute!