Considering at-home insemination with donor sperm...?

[day_dreamer]

Glad to hear all is sorted with your donor Lea

We have a couple of potentials we're talking with at the moment...one who was recommended by a lovely lady on here, who appears very professional and is HEFA registered as he used to donate to a clinic - he is very experienced and has emailed us a copy of his contract and said he would be unknown until if\when we decide otherwise...which isn't quite what we originally planned but is definitely somethng we could work with.

The other guy is a complete newby....he is 54, is single and has given up hope of ever having children of his own. He lives about a 3-5 hour drive away from us, but is willing to travel up to us whenever needed as he is retired and has the time/money to do so. He seems like a lovely man also and I have to say my heart strings were pulled ever so slightly when he told us that he has no brothers or sisters, aunts or uncles so it's just him and his mum left now and he says he feels like he's failed his family that there is no-one to carry their genes on.

Not sure where we go from here...I suppose we just keep talking and see who we click with. Meeting them might be a good idea too, but is SO scary! I'm due to O next week anyway so I think we've missed this month, then it's Christmas and people will be all over the place so it looks like we're out until the new year And to say I wanted to start TTC in April! Ha pfft.

Fingers crossed for all you ladies in your 2ww - a bfp for you all for Christmas please Santa!

 

[RubyRainbows]

day_dreamer -- Glad to hear you have two possible donors! Both sound great! Hopefully you'll be able to start trying soon! Are you now going to start ASAP -- or still waiting until April? We had started last Sept (2009) and tried 2X and then had to wait many months before we could afford to try again... bc we were using frozen sperm & it cost over $3000 for those 2 tries. I know how hard waiting can be!!! (Thanks to the great women on here tho -- i am so thrilled to now be using a known donor/fresh sperm). At least now we can try once a month... and it only costs us $100 in travel expenses each time.

Don't be scared about meeting the donors! I know how nerve-racking it can be! Talk with them thru email/over the phone until you feel comfortable meeting face-to-face!

Let us know how things progress!

 

[cranberry]

hi ladies, if all goes well i'll be doing my first home insemination this month. i am on CD 12 and have a meeting with fertility doc tomorrow to learn abt my treatment plan. in the meantime my donor will be donating every other day for 7 days (since friday) which the clinic will use for iui.

i am planning to increase my chances since time isn't exactly on my side and i have never done iui before and am not sure what to expect.

this is my first month trying and i've been temping and charting. got faint opk line since yesterday but negative on the digital. i am hoping i don't ovulate before the weekend since my donor needs to store the supply for the clinic. he should have a good supply by sunday.

so for now i am obsessively temping, charting, opking and sticking my finger up my lady parts checking mucus.

this is new territory and despite all your stories i feel like reality will not hit until the speculum is inserted the first time

 

[LunaBean]

Im having cramps today and peeing loads, thats bout it!

 

[mommies1and2]

Good news on the donor front Lea!

Cranberry, welcome to the boards! This is a great place to make new friends and get/give support. I am pretty new here as well and this is our first month TTC but we are doing home inseminations. Good luck with your IUI!

Your post made me chuckle because I was just telling my OH today that I spend half my day at work in the bathroom feeling myself up! Seems like I was either checking my CM, peeing on a stick or checking my boobs to see if they are still tender. People are probably beginning to wonder what I'm doing in the ladies all the time!

 

[LunaBean]

The thingswe'll do for a baby eh? lol

 

[RubyRainbows]

Welcome cranberry! :wave:

Luna -- Glad to hear your symptoms are starting! Yaayy!

 

[EpdTTC]

Ruby-When I got pregnant this time, about 4-5 days after ovulation I was shopping with my mom and I had this bout of horrendous cramping and back pain like nothing I had experienced before after doing an insemination. I hoped it was a good sign and it was-I hope it is for you and OH too.

Lea-I hope things go well for your OH tomorrow. I had a lap about 4 years ago. It wasn't too bad, a little rough sitting up or rolling over in bed for about two weeks, but other than that, not so bad. They have made a lot of improvements in anesthesia these days-they usually give you something to make you a little out of it, then knock you out, and they also give something so you don't wake up nauseated from the anesthesia so hopefully OH will do just fine.

Daydreamer-excellent news on the donor front. I say talk to them both a little longer and then arrange to meet both. I think you will get a vibe that helps you decide what to do.

Good luck with your IUIs Cranberry. I had a couple of IUIs-they were easy, not painful or anything. They were also very successful for me, I got pregnant both times. Unfortunately, I miscarried both of those pregnancies but I don't think that had anything to do with the IUIs. This time we got pregnant with home insemination so I think both methods work well.

Mommies-it doesn't get much better after pregnancy. As my gal pals across the pond say-I feel like I am constantly knicker checking

Luna-Can't wait to see your BFP!

 

[mommies1and2]

I know we aren't suppposed to post it here but WE'RE PREGNANT! We just did our test this morning, two of them, and both confirmed !!! We are over the moon! Fingers crossed there are more to come shortly and I will have lots of bump buddies!

 

[topazicatzbet]

thats great news. congrats.

i ve not got any symptoms really, think im gonna be out this month AGAIN.
fed up with ttc im having next month off cos if i got a bfp, edd would be right on my best friends wedding, where im a bridesmaid.

 

[RubyRainbows]

mommies 1&2 congrats!!!!!!!! BFP announcements are always welcome here (in my opionion anyhow)!! That's why we are here & supporting each other! So happy for you! Yippee!

Ps. Now you need a pregnancy ticker!

 

[RubyRainbows]

i ve not got any symptoms really, think im gonna be out this month AGAIN.

Topaz -- you're not out until that ugly witch arrives! Not everyone gets symptoms this early! I didn't have any symptoms last time until around the time AF was due... & that was just a sensitivity to smells... no other symptoms for a few weeks (and i was carrying twins!)! Sending you some PMA &

 

[topazicatzbet]

thanks hun, just feeling down cos got a cold, also so frustrated cos it only took 3 tries with callum.

 

[RubyRainbows]

thanks hun, just feeling down cos got a cold, also so frustrated cos it only took 3 tries with callum.

Understandable! Catching a cold/cold symptoms can be a pregnancy sign tho! I hear alot of women say that! I had a terrible cold during the 2ww with my son -- that's the only reason i tested (bc i was afraid to take the cold medicine)... at the time i was NTNP. Hope you feel better!

 

[Nimyra]

Congrats, Mommies1&2! BFP announcements are always welcome on this thread. And don't feel like you have to run off, stick around if you want to!

 

[snagglepat]

Mommies 1&2 that's fantastic news! I knew the signs were good! I'm so pleased for you. And yes, please do stick around. I haven't been able to prise myself away from here yet...

I'm on the edge of my seat today. My last doula client is ready to pop and was up half the night niggling away. I saw her for an hour this morning and am just hoping she manages to get some rest in today as I wouldn't be surprised if things kick off for her tonight once her son goes to bed. We shall see. This will be my last birth before my own and these are special clients - I was with them for the birth of their son as well - so it will be an extra special one for me. If anyone has any spare positive energy to share around send it to the little green boat on a canal in Shropshire. It will be appreciated.

Best wishes all round,

Gina. x

 

[EpdTTC]

Congrats Mommies1and2! Excellent news! I think we appreciate hearing about BFP on this thread because it is very encouraging and let's us all know this really works! I hope you will stick around and give us updates.

Gina-I am sending positive energy to the little green boat Hope things go well for you and your client in the next couple of days.

Topaz-hang in there hon. TTC can be a frustrating and heart wrenching journey. Here's to hoping that Callum's sibling comes along soon.

 

[LunaBean]

yayeeeeee for your bfp!!! !!! I want a complete symptoms list please, starting at 1dpo..oh, and a pic of the tests..and a pregnancy ticker in your sig lolol

I WILL be next dammit! *shakes fist*

 

[Nimyra]

love your userpic, Luna!

 

[LunaBean]

Thanks! I heart ladybugs and Hello Kitty, so a perfect match! lol