I don't know guys, I think sperm donors reading and even contributing to this thread
is relevant. The title of this thread is 'considering home insemination with donor sperm' and, well, donors have things to consider too. Some of us even use our donor's home to inseminate in.
If the thread was entitled 'users of donor sperm' then it would be fair enough that we wouldn't want donors posting to it, but they might still have an interest in reading about it. After all, if there was a thread for sperm donors I might be quite interested to have a read to learn more about what they go through, what motivates them, and how they reach the decisions they do about whether to donate and in what ways.
And as for a man reading about how we inseminate - what about those people in heterosexual partnerships who use donor sperm, where the man inseminates his partner? He needs to know the details, and is intimately involved in the process. We actually got some good tips on the insemination process from our sperm donor when we first started out as he'd done it before and we hadn't, so again, I wouldn't want to exclude a donor from a generic thread such as this one for that reason.
We have to remember that this forum is a public space and protect ourselves and each other accordingly. I wouldn't be opposed to an exclusive membership-only space for users of donor sperm at all - I think a private space would really have its merits. This just isn't it.
I love this thread. I check it almost daily and feel a real sense of community here, but I stumbled across it accidentally because the content is searchable. That's one of the things that is special about it, that it is open to everyone.
I hope I haven't offended anyone with what I've written...
Best wishes to all,
Gina.