Considering at-home insemination with donor sperm...?

[Nimyra]

wow, Erin, a lemon! Looking good!

 

[RubyRainbows]

By the way, Luna -- Damhan is such a little cutie! Glad to see he is doing well!

 

[Sparklypants]

Honestly if you are laying flat and know exactly what your lady garden's entrance is you'll be fine!

I made the mistake of trying to put it in when I was already elevated and yes it hurt, so I removed the huge cushion and lay flat and it was fine

Do some dummy runs, as lon as you rinse them with hot water afterwards and make sure they are completely dry you'll be fine x

 

[kns]

As for the whole TAB thing, I really dont care anymore. I just wana say be careful ladies, and anyone who wants my facebook can PM me for it, as Id rather talk on there than here for abit, what with all the 'new people' from other sites joining to defend donors.

i defended our donor as i don't think its right to tar them all with the same brush, i am not new and all i have said is when we were searching for an AI donor we had plenty offer NI and a few suspicious one's but you just go with your gut feeling.
i haven't slandered any donor other than the one's who i have dealt with like John Murphy.

 

[Sparklypants]

As for the whole TAB thing, I really dont care anymore. I just wana say be careful ladies, and anyone who wants my facebook can PM me for it, as Id rather talk on there than here for abit, what with all the 'new people' from other sites joining to defend donors.

i defended our donor as i don't think its right to tar them all with the same brush, i am not new and all i have said is when we were searching for an AI donor we had plenty offer NI and a few suspicious one's but you just go with your gut feeling.
i haven't slandered any donor other than the one's who i have dealt with like John Murphy.

Luna didn't mean you hun....

 

[kns]

i know but maybe she should rephrase people defending donors.
why shouldnt people defende donors, they make it possible for the like of me and my partner to have children.
x

 

[rosie5637]

thanks for all the tips ladies, i'll give my syringes a try tonight!

just hope my donation can go ahead on sunday. the friend who was gonna be with me might have to work now and there is no way i can do it on my own (safety n all that). my donor is coming quite late at night so it's gonna be tricky finding someone else.

i still haven't managed to tell my brothers yet cause they have been too busy to meet up for lunch and i don't really want to announce what i'm doing to the world in my search for a friend to help.

 

[kezza78]

Rosie - i really hope you can work things out, is there no one else you trust enough to be there? x

 

[LunaBean]

i know but maybe she should rephrase people defending donors.
why shouldnt people defende donors, they make it possible for the like of me and my partner to have children.
x

I didn't mean you, I mean the people who have joined in the past 2 days only to defend the donors in that article in TAB. They aren't on here to look for advice on donors, they joined soley to keep the argument going, and we were only having a general discussion and giving our own points of view.

And I'm using donors too, hence me being in this thread.


Anyways... only 12 days till my appointment at hospitasl, eek!!

Thanks Ruby, he's getting so chubby!!

 

[Tegans Mama]

I have a question.. This only really applies to ladies who conceived their baby at home via AI who are in a civil partnership (if there is anyone!!)

How did you stand with the non-birth Mum and the birth certificate? We only found out tonight about needing to be in a CP before conception - and then saw that you *may* need paperwork signed by the donor saying the baby was conceived through AI.

If you were/are in this situation did you do the paperwork? Did you have a lawyer sign it? Was it a proper legal document or did you draw it up yourselves? Thankyou

 

[RubyRainbows]

Rosie -- i think i read (in your journal maybe?) that your ex-husband offered to be there if you needed someone for safety purposes -- maybe you can take him up on the offer?

So i looked at one pharmacy so far -- the only "10 ml syringe" i found is actually a medicine dispenser?? The same thing i give my son medicine with?? Is that what you girls are using? My only concern is that there is always a bit of medicine left in the tip when i use it for my son......... I hate to waste some precious spermies!!

Do you clean it after taking it out of the package, before using it?? And if so -- how do you clean it/sterilize it?

Sorry for the dumb questions!

 

[LunaBean]

Nope, its sterile when you open it! If you get some saline from the chemist, you can suck a tinyyyy bit into the syringe and insert it again, but it make the spermies already up there abit watery, so they tend to run out, so you kinda lose more than would be in the tiny bit left in the syringe, so not really worth it IYKWIM?

Try ebay for your syringes, thats where I get mine, if you want smaller ones! I use 5ml, and they're fine!!

 

[LunaBean]

Girls, I just PMed Stircrazy (admin) to ask if we could have a sub-section, as there's so many of us on here now that questions are getting lost in the threads etc, 'Rainbow Parents' maybe, as we have different questions etc to general TTCers. That way, everyone can post in here, not just same-sex couples TTCing using a donor, but we'd also have our own section, for questions about civil partnerships/LGBT groups etc

 

[Tegans Mama]

Girls, I just PMed Stircrazy (admin) to ask if we could have a sub-section, as there's so many of us on here now that questions are getting lost in the threads etc, 'Rainbow Parents' maybe, as we have different questions etc to general TTCers. That way, everyone can post in here, not just same-sex couples TTCing using a donor, but we'd also have our own section, for questions about civil partnerships/LGBT groups etc

That would be great, I think we are at a point now as a 'group' where we actually need it!

 

[Tegans Mama]

Oh and Hayley says she's gonna join..

 

[LunaBean]

yayyyeee! I wont let Dee join, cus this is my thing, and she has her dance website, thats just like this one! (cept for dance, not babies obv lol) Plus I always complain about her in my journal

Maybe some other people should PM stircrazy too and ask for a section? I dont mean bombard him, lolol. I dont wana hafta make a petition tho, Ive been asking for our own section for about 6 months now!!

 

[Tegans Mama]

I'll PM him soon. I asked when they were asking for suggestions for new sections and I was totally blanked. I understand they're busy etc, I just think they feel there may be a few issues with people's attitude towards same sex couples raising kids etc - but I do think the section would be very busy because there is no where else that is dedicated to us!!

 

[Tegans Mama]

I PM'ed him...

 

[snagglepat]

Tegan's Mama, we do have a contract with our known donor but it's one he'd used with a previous recipient. Our solicitor did look it over when we were going through getting PR for DP and she said it was fine. I haven't heard of needing any paperwork to prove conception was through AI for the new birth certificates. Our understanding is that just rocking up to the registry office with your CP certificate and both your sets of ID will be enough. I think that's all our friends who've done that this year have had to do.

If you did want to have a contract with your donor here are some links to things that might help:

https://www.spermdonors.org.uk/sperm-donation-agreement-deed-KD.pdf

https://www.knowndonor.com/contract.php

It won't have a lot of legal weight but it can be helpful to go through with your donor to make sure you've discussed everything and are really on the same page.

One of the other forums I use regularly has a dedicated LGBT section and it's very active. I definitely think one would be worthwhile here. It would be much easier than having to scroll through hundreds of posts in one thread to find a reference/link that someone mentioned a while ago like we have to now.

Best wishes to all,

Gina. x

 

[Sparklypants]

if anyone wants them I have a couple of 10ml sterile syringes? I know someone that works for the NHS so didn't have to pay for mine