lmp1505768
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I'm sure some of it is just me being pregnant. But I feel like we end up in a fight nearly every night!
The worst part is , its really stupid things.
Like two nights ago, we fought because I asked him to kill a spider.
I'm TERRIFIED of spiders. Anyone who has known me for more than a month could tell you that. They are just so creepy, and I have TONS of hair and I'm scared they will fall on my head and get all tangled and gah! Not to mention, when I get bit , the bites reach the size of a baseball, and HURT.
So naturally, I hate needing to get close enough to kill them.
So he tells me that he is sick of me asking him to do stuff all the time, so I asked , "like what?" And he seriously mentioned the 100lb box I needed him to move from our bed(that he placed there)! I was like "I'm sorry, but I'm 35 weeks pregnant and there are some things that need done I just can't do!" And we basically get down to the fact that he cant come up with any examples of unreasonable things id asked for that day, or the day before, but I still do it. So then why are we fighting about it today!? All over a spider. Which he doesn't understand how I can kill them when he isn't home, but not when he is. And truth be told, I CAN. It just scares me. And I don't really think its a big deal as he isn't scared of them. So then he goes on about how he doesn't understand why I'm scared of them. But it doesn't matter! I don't need him to understand it, I just need him to accept that its a fact! We have been together for nearly seven years now, so you think he'd get it :/
Then last night, we got into yet another fight because I asked if he was ready to go turn out our DD's light and kiss her goodnight and go to bed. He says yes. Then I go to get up and he is back to reading something else, so I said" you're reading another one?" And he FLIPPED out saying that what he is doing doesn't affect or matter to me and basically to mind my own bussiness! But we go to bed together EVERY night, and we always kiss DD goodnight together. So if I'm standing around waiting for him, it does matter.
Went to bed angry, again.
I was so frustrated!
Then that night he "needed" to stop by his moms to pick up boxes o ours she never told us she had,until last night. He works about 45 minutes away from home,and didn't even get off until 5, so we were waiting on him for dinner, DD saying she was hungry every I've mi utes. So I asked him to hurry and not sit around chatting, so we could eat and get DD ready for bed and he would still be abke to see her. He spent 40 minutes there. Loading ten small boxes. And apparently needed to help them(she lives with his cousin) with wifi and chat upstairs! He didn't get home until 7pm. I just feel like he should be prioritizing. It was a social visit. It was moving boxes from one car,to the other. Should have taken ten minutes.
I think he is having some sort of "I'm the man of the house" phase where he needs to exert his authority or something, but instead of just pointing out the unreasonable things(which do exist. I don't NEED a back rub, and I can probably make dinner and clean it up) but suddenly EVERYTHING becomes an issue.
I just don't feel like I ask a lot. He takes out the trash. He puts the dogs in the kennel at night(they are both over 90lbs) and then helps with DD a bit while he is home. Which is about 3 hours of the time she spends awake. Then I just ask that if he makes plans or is gonna be late coming home, he let me know!
I just feel like ill be giving birth to our first son soon and we are supposed to be close right now, and half the time I can't stand to be around him!
The worst part is , its really stupid things.
Like two nights ago, we fought because I asked him to kill a spider.
I'm TERRIFIED of spiders. Anyone who has known me for more than a month could tell you that. They are just so creepy, and I have TONS of hair and I'm scared they will fall on my head and get all tangled and gah! Not to mention, when I get bit , the bites reach the size of a baseball, and HURT.
So naturally, I hate needing to get close enough to kill them.
So he tells me that he is sick of me asking him to do stuff all the time, so I asked , "like what?" And he seriously mentioned the 100lb box I needed him to move from our bed(that he placed there)! I was like "I'm sorry, but I'm 35 weeks pregnant and there are some things that need done I just can't do!" And we basically get down to the fact that he cant come up with any examples of unreasonable things id asked for that day, or the day before, but I still do it. So then why are we fighting about it today!? All over a spider. Which he doesn't understand how I can kill them when he isn't home, but not when he is. And truth be told, I CAN. It just scares me. And I don't really think its a big deal as he isn't scared of them. So then he goes on about how he doesn't understand why I'm scared of them. But it doesn't matter! I don't need him to understand it, I just need him to accept that its a fact! We have been together for nearly seven years now, so you think he'd get it :/
Then last night, we got into yet another fight because I asked if he was ready to go turn out our DD's light and kiss her goodnight and go to bed. He says yes. Then I go to get up and he is back to reading something else, so I said" you're reading another one?" And he FLIPPED out saying that what he is doing doesn't affect or matter to me and basically to mind my own bussiness! But we go to bed together EVERY night, and we always kiss DD goodnight together. So if I'm standing around waiting for him, it does matter.
Went to bed angry, again.
I was so frustrated!
Then that night he "needed" to stop by his moms to pick up boxes o ours she never told us she had,until last night. He works about 45 minutes away from home,and didn't even get off until 5, so we were waiting on him for dinner, DD saying she was hungry every I've mi utes. So I asked him to hurry and not sit around chatting, so we could eat and get DD ready for bed and he would still be abke to see her. He spent 40 minutes there. Loading ten small boxes. And apparently needed to help them(she lives with his cousin) with wifi and chat upstairs! He didn't get home until 7pm. I just feel like he should be prioritizing. It was a social visit. It was moving boxes from one car,to the other. Should have taken ten minutes.
I think he is having some sort of "I'm the man of the house" phase where he needs to exert his authority or something, but instead of just pointing out the unreasonable things(which do exist. I don't NEED a back rub, and I can probably make dinner and clean it up) but suddenly EVERYTHING becomes an issue.
I just don't feel like I ask a lot. He takes out the trash. He puts the dogs in the kennel at night(they are both over 90lbs) and then helps with DD a bit while he is home. Which is about 3 hours of the time she spends awake. Then I just ask that if he makes plans or is gonna be late coming home, he let me know!
I just feel like ill be giving birth to our first son soon and we are supposed to be close right now, and half the time I can't stand to be around him!
. And then gets pissed when I tense up and try to push him out of my personal space. And he's aware of my "no touchy" mood, yet continues to try!
