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Hi All,
I've been having a very hard time recently dealing with overwhelming baby fever and I've been scouring the Internet for some way of alleviating this feeling but I haven't really had much luck yet. I'm 28, recently engaged (how exciting!) and I'm not taking any birth control and haven't for quite a while. My fiance and I tend to play with fire by using the pull out method, which we have been doing for several months, and essentially have an "if it happens, it happens" mentality.
I've known for a while that I want to have kids eventually once I was married and financially stable. It was a conscious decision that I was capable of managing with logic and it never became an issue. However, the last few months - and the last couple of weeks in particular - I have had this unbelievably overwhelming emotional feeling and primal urge to reproduce. It seems to get worse after I ovulate and I am about 13 DPO and it just seems to be getting worse every day.
The emotions I feel are difficult to pinpoint as I seem to go all over the map with them. Every time I see a baby, a pregnant woman or a family with children, I feel both this unbelievable longing, almost empty feeling as well as also awe and admiration. The other day I was waiting for the elevator in my office when there was a pregnant woman discussing her baby to be with a colleague and I nearly broke down in tears - and did later when telling my fiance what happened. TV shows, commercials, etc. - it all seems like this massive coincidence that every episode playing lately of the shows I watch happen to feature episodes with pregnant women, newborns, or the desire to procreate even though there are thousands of other re-runs they could be playing instead!
I've been trying to tell my fiance what I have been dealing with because I have also been kind of taking this out on him. I have been experiencing such dramatic mood swings over this and I feel like I have absolutely no control over them at all. One minute I am happy, feeling so much in love and the next I am depressed and feel this longing to have a swollen belly and to bring another life into the world. Then I will start crying... or crying while I'm laughing with joy.... I have never been so emotional as I have been the last week.
For a few months, also, my dreams have been about 75% baby/pregnancy related. I can't count how many times I've had a dream where I have been pregnant. My subconscious is driving me absolutely crazy over this!
I have read about doing a Baby Not On Board list, trying to focus on the fact that it will happen eventually when the timing is right, trying to avoid baby-related things to stop triggering my mood swings, etc. but it seems like nothing helps. This primal urge is just burning inside of me and it won't let go. I lived a very exciting life for several years and short of things that I won't be able to afford to do until I'm old and grey anyway, there's not much on my bucket list of things I want to do before I have a baby. What does exist on this list, I can still accomplish them after a baby so I've been struggling with justifying the logic that has existed until now. Other things like finances, a house, etc. are all things that I think about and a big part of me says "you'll be able to make it work and those things will still come in time."
I met the love of my life and am very happy and fortunate to have him in my life and it's as though the more I love him, the stronger my urge is to make his babies!
Does anyone have any advice on how to cope with this? The emotions and mood swings are driving me crazy, not to mention my poor fiance!!
I've been having a very hard time recently dealing with overwhelming baby fever and I've been scouring the Internet for some way of alleviating this feeling but I haven't really had much luck yet. I'm 28, recently engaged (how exciting!) and I'm not taking any birth control and haven't for quite a while. My fiance and I tend to play with fire by using the pull out method, which we have been doing for several months, and essentially have an "if it happens, it happens" mentality.
I've known for a while that I want to have kids eventually once I was married and financially stable. It was a conscious decision that I was capable of managing with logic and it never became an issue. However, the last few months - and the last couple of weeks in particular - I have had this unbelievably overwhelming emotional feeling and primal urge to reproduce. It seems to get worse after I ovulate and I am about 13 DPO and it just seems to be getting worse every day.
The emotions I feel are difficult to pinpoint as I seem to go all over the map with them. Every time I see a baby, a pregnant woman or a family with children, I feel both this unbelievable longing, almost empty feeling as well as also awe and admiration. The other day I was waiting for the elevator in my office when there was a pregnant woman discussing her baby to be with a colleague and I nearly broke down in tears - and did later when telling my fiance what happened. TV shows, commercials, etc. - it all seems like this massive coincidence that every episode playing lately of the shows I watch happen to feature episodes with pregnant women, newborns, or the desire to procreate even though there are thousands of other re-runs they could be playing instead!
I've been trying to tell my fiance what I have been dealing with because I have also been kind of taking this out on him. I have been experiencing such dramatic mood swings over this and I feel like I have absolutely no control over them at all. One minute I am happy, feeling so much in love and the next I am depressed and feel this longing to have a swollen belly and to bring another life into the world. Then I will start crying... or crying while I'm laughing with joy.... I have never been so emotional as I have been the last week.
For a few months, also, my dreams have been about 75% baby/pregnancy related. I can't count how many times I've had a dream where I have been pregnant. My subconscious is driving me absolutely crazy over this!
I have read about doing a Baby Not On Board list, trying to focus on the fact that it will happen eventually when the timing is right, trying to avoid baby-related things to stop triggering my mood swings, etc. but it seems like nothing helps. This primal urge is just burning inside of me and it won't let go. I lived a very exciting life for several years and short of things that I won't be able to afford to do until I'm old and grey anyway, there's not much on my bucket list of things I want to do before I have a baby. What does exist on this list, I can still accomplish them after a baby so I've been struggling with justifying the logic that has existed until now. Other things like finances, a house, etc. are all things that I think about and a big part of me says "you'll be able to make it work and those things will still come in time."
I met the love of my life and am very happy and fortunate to have him in my life and it's as though the more I love him, the stronger my urge is to make his babies!
Does anyone have any advice on how to cope with this? The emotions and mood swings are driving me crazy, not to mention my poor fiance!!