coping with kno-it-all fob's help

[dawnmichelle]

hello all My son is 5 months old and his dad is quite the kno-it-all, hez not on the bc and nor did he want to be, I have regular visits at the same times every week because i prefer it to be organised, but he thinks he knows EVERYTHING!! and makes me feel quite stupid eventho i have a 9 yr old daughter and he has no other kids (hes 43) im 27, he has threatened me with trying to get custody and its realy horrible, also his mother came to see my son and he started screaming i tried to take him off her and she wouldnt give him to me , i was realy anxiuos i just wanted to calm him down.

how do i manage when this happens? its getting me down xxxx

 

[oaklvr]

I don't have any good advice because I think all of them do this crap! Maybe wear earplugs! He sounds like an asshole Mine thinks he knows everything also, but I'm the one who's taken care of her since day 1, I think I'd know a thing or three about my own kid while he only has visitations.

 

[Rhio92]

Connor's dad is the same... I thinkit's a FOB thing
I'm not really sure what to do, short of slapping his stupid know it all face

 

[dawnmichelle]

hehe yes i really feel like slapping him too what would you do in a situation where lo is screaming because he is getting a bit of stranger anxiouty (sorry for spelling mistake) and fob's mother wouldnt hand him over to me xx

 

[jess_smurf]

i wouldnt let his mother there again if she wouldnt give him back, but dont give her the option just pick him up he will want to go to you anyway. as for FOB dont talk to him, TELL him if he continues to threaten for custody of him then you will stop access and go through court.

Yes he has rights to see his son but give you grief he is not, i would go out the room and leave him to it and dont engage with him at all and he will hate it x

 

[dawnmichelle]

I wish i hadnt now but i agreed before that happened with his mother to take lo to his mums house for an hour on tues morning, because i dont drive fob has to take us, its going to be akward cos i only speak to him cos i have to (it makes me cringe sometimes when he goes on about everything) but i dont want him to take him on his own no way, im a bit worried im going to feel out of place especially if they try to console dylan and not give him to me, i want to do this for lo's sake it is really hard xx

Also she was nice she gave me a lift over the doctors xx

 

[jess_smurf]

there is being nice then there is being controlling, the both sound like they are putting you down to make you feel useless so they make you feel that you need them. Its a shadey form of control. Stand your ground or your life will become a nightmare x

 

[dawnmichelle]

thankyou i will stand my ground, im not gonna be a pushover any more, my solicitor told me as hes not on bc he doesnt have any rights he'll have to go to court if hes not satisfied with seeing lo at my house x

 

[mamashakesit]

FOB has spent about 8 (partial half-assed) days with his 6 month old daughter and he still always to voice his opinions. I wish I had some advice for you, but I'm still learning myself.

 

[AbbynChloe]

Whenever Chloe's dad starts with "wouldn't it be better if you......" I start singing in my head, i see his lips moving.... and nothing else, end with a nod and smile then show him the door!

 

[dawnmichelle]

hehe thanks ill be trying that xx