ThunderCat
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I just got my BFP today at 9DPO. I'm happy, but not excited yet. Not until I see a heartbeat. This is my first post to any internet site about pregnancy, though I have read SO many stories on this site and others for years while I TTC'd and conceived in the past. This time, I felt I should start sharing.
After an insane journey of loss, this month was the first time I tried supplements beyond the pre-natal. We lost our daughter in January to Trisomy 18, born by my egg and my husband's sperm via a surrogate. She was our first born and 3rd pregnancy loss. I carried the first 2. During the surrogacy, I had a copper paragard put in, so there'd be no chance of overlapping pregnancies. That paragard was extremely painful and a disgusting mess, by the way. I had it taken out in the middle of January and had one cycle between then and now. This has been my first month trying again and it seems that either all these supplements are working, or I just got really lucky my first month after our horrible loss.
I wasn't sure I'd be mentally in any frame of mind to conceive after we lost our DD, but somehow, I've managed. I'm so nervous. It's hard to do this all over again. I told my husband and he answered, "I'll believe it after she's born healthy." I'm sad to say, I completely understand his sentiments. I want to be excited again, but I also don't want to be foolish and have what little is left of our hearts, destroyed. We've had all our genetic testing. We are not carriers for anything and we are from diverse genetic backgrounds. We've just been a unlucky, they say. Ugh... I do know now, the signs to look for in early pregnancy and on ultrasound scans and serum tests. I've done TONS of research about improving egg quality. My dear friend is a genetic scientist and has just had an AMAZING healthy HUGE baby, her first, at 40 and gave me all their secrets. One big thing I was told was to stop wearing perfume. I don't see enough people talking about that. My friend's husband, who researches this VERY subject all day and night, says that it is a HUGE factor for infertility in their clinical studies. I'm shocked there isn't more talk of it.
I'm very excited to already have HCG levels detected at 9DPO! I'm thinking I'm about 15 miu. I tested positive on a 12.5 stick and then BARELY positive on the 20 miu stick. So, I'm somewhere in between. Having a BFP this early is TOTALLY new for me
With our DD born Trisomy 18 via surrogate, her first beta test came back looking like she was triplets, when she turned out to be a singleton. I know now that TOO high of HCG isn't a perfect sign unless there are multiples in there. I assumed that the other eggs we implanted had taken then vanished, causing the high HCG, but now I know that it was our first clue toward T-18. So far, charting everything this month, researching ways to improve egg quality and having an early BFP right on the mark, is so nice. I'm staying as positive as I can.
So, to stay on an optimistic note, this month, I added CoQ10, Melatonin, extra Zinc (to counteract the Copper that may have still been in the uterus from the paragard) and Pre-seed. I did the Melatonin for the 2 weeks prior to ovulation and took CoQ10 and zinc, also extra B complex, CLEAN Fish Oil with DHA, and a little pre-seed internally (not as much as recommended) the whole time leading up to ovulation. I stopped the melatonin a few days before Ovulation, but maintained the rest. I've just added Iodine with Kelp and Dhea, but only just now, so those have nothing to do with my BFP. I also quit caffeine, (SOOOO HARD!) which I usually drink RELIGIOUSLY. I've only been exercising three times a week, walking and with a balance ball. Nothing intense. I also changed my home office lights to full spectrum lights. That was something I read about as well that isn't mentioned enough. You can look up the research regarding fertility in the winter with people in countries where there isn't much sun. There is a undeniable connection. I am also a pescatarian, FYI (A vegetarian who eats fish) which I thought was a problem, but have done extensive studying and found that it isn't as long as your supplements and protein intake are well monitored.
Best of luck and "Baby Dust" as they say here, to you all. I've been soaking up a good amount of info in this process. If anyone has any questions, about anything above, I'm happy to answer. I am NOT a doctor, and I don't intend to play one on the internet. So, I can only give you MY impression and instinct based on MY experiences.
After an insane journey of loss, this month was the first time I tried supplements beyond the pre-natal. We lost our daughter in January to Trisomy 18, born by my egg and my husband's sperm via a surrogate. She was our first born and 3rd pregnancy loss. I carried the first 2. During the surrogacy, I had a copper paragard put in, so there'd be no chance of overlapping pregnancies. That paragard was extremely painful and a disgusting mess, by the way. I had it taken out in the middle of January and had one cycle between then and now. This has been my first month trying again and it seems that either all these supplements are working, or I just got really lucky my first month after our horrible loss.
I wasn't sure I'd be mentally in any frame of mind to conceive after we lost our DD, but somehow, I've managed. I'm so nervous. It's hard to do this all over again. I told my husband and he answered, "I'll believe it after she's born healthy." I'm sad to say, I completely understand his sentiments. I want to be excited again, but I also don't want to be foolish and have what little is left of our hearts, destroyed. We've had all our genetic testing. We are not carriers for anything and we are from diverse genetic backgrounds. We've just been a unlucky, they say. Ugh... I do know now, the signs to look for in early pregnancy and on ultrasound scans and serum tests. I've done TONS of research about improving egg quality. My dear friend is a genetic scientist and has just had an AMAZING healthy HUGE baby, her first, at 40 and gave me all their secrets. One big thing I was told was to stop wearing perfume. I don't see enough people talking about that. My friend's husband, who researches this VERY subject all day and night, says that it is a HUGE factor for infertility in their clinical studies. I'm shocked there isn't more talk of it.
I'm very excited to already have HCG levels detected at 9DPO! I'm thinking I'm about 15 miu. I tested positive on a 12.5 stick and then BARELY positive on the 20 miu stick. So, I'm somewhere in between. Having a BFP this early is TOTALLY new for me
With our DD born Trisomy 18 via surrogate, her first beta test came back looking like she was triplets, when she turned out to be a singleton. I know now that TOO high of HCG isn't a perfect sign unless there are multiples in there. I assumed that the other eggs we implanted had taken then vanished, causing the high HCG, but now I know that it was our first clue toward T-18. So far, charting everything this month, researching ways to improve egg quality and having an early BFP right on the mark, is so nice. I'm staying as positive as I can. So, to stay on an optimistic note, this month, I added CoQ10, Melatonin, extra Zinc (to counteract the Copper that may have still been in the uterus from the paragard) and Pre-seed. I did the Melatonin for the 2 weeks prior to ovulation and took CoQ10 and zinc, also extra B complex, CLEAN Fish Oil with DHA, and a little pre-seed internally (not as much as recommended) the whole time leading up to ovulation. I stopped the melatonin a few days before Ovulation, but maintained the rest. I've just added Iodine with Kelp and Dhea, but only just now, so those have nothing to do with my BFP. I also quit caffeine, (SOOOO HARD!) which I usually drink RELIGIOUSLY. I've only been exercising three times a week, walking and with a balance ball. Nothing intense. I also changed my home office lights to full spectrum lights. That was something I read about as well that isn't mentioned enough. You can look up the research regarding fertility in the winter with people in countries where there isn't much sun. There is a undeniable connection. I am also a pescatarian, FYI (A vegetarian who eats fish) which I thought was a problem, but have done extensive studying and found that it isn't as long as your supplements and protein intake are well monitored.
Best of luck and "Baby Dust" as they say here, to you all. I've been soaking up a good amount of info in this process. If anyone has any questions, about anything above, I'm happy to answer. I am NOT a doctor, and I don't intend to play one on the internet. So, I can only give you MY impression and instinct based on MY experiences.
and sorry for your losses. A loss is always tragic and three times is a lot to go through 
xx
I think the sleepy part was okay, as it slowed me down and made me rest, rather than run around like a headless chicken. I started taking calcium/mag with Vit D and Boron at night before bed and that helps balance me out. I'm a BIG fan of this new tradition. One tablespoon of Cal/Mag at night before bed. Sleep like a baby and the GI system works like CLOCKWORK now. 
sounds so good, yum. I'm going to have look for some here now!
