Could really do with a break.

[hypnorm]

Hopefully some people might relate to this.
I have breast fed Robyn from the start and she is approaching her 6th month , i see my hubby going out with his mate, out on the motor bike, to the gym, arranging to go to the motorbike show..

Since November i gave up everything that i enjoyed going to band and dog agility training (running with a bump not fun!) I'm sure Ewan was taking a bottle from about 5 months, but Robyn will not take one at all she did once but never since, i have changed teats, bottles milk. i cant express enough to make anything of use.
I just really feel like i could to with a break just a couple of hours a week where OH will have the kids for an evening but i can't if she wont take a bottle have tried sippy cups too.
I know it is totally selfish, i love breastfeeding don't get me wrong, I just feel like i have lost me and permanently become mummy! Oh will say 'well you wanted 2 kids' my mum has COPD and cant really cope with the two kids.

Anyway thought i would have a rant in the bf section as i thought you guys might relate.
I dont want to stop breastfeeding btw just one bottle a day would be a god send!

 

[jms895]

Oh hun I do know what you mean, but luckily Caine does like the bottle....

I know this sounds harsh but can you wait until Robyn is really hungry then she will defo take the bottle? Or what about a sippie cup?

When my friend weaned off BF her baby cried and cried but eventually she was hungry and took the bottle....

Even if you can express 1oz a day for a week, that will give you 4 hours off one day and let someone else feed her?

Its up to you hun, just to give you a break?

 

[Blah11]

i defo can relate. I have no social life that doesn't involve Amelie. I'll go out with friends but obviously it has to be shopping or somewhere baby friendly lol. I do nothing by myself anymore and my OH just can't understand why I get angry that he doesn't take her for a few hours even though hes been working all day
Amelie wont take a bottle either, even if she's really wanting milk.. and even if its EBM. I'm just gonna wait it out. They won't be depending on us like this forever, so instead of getting down about it I'm just enjoying spending lots of time with my baby.

 

[Serene123]

First, I can't believe she's 6 months already!!!

Secondly, I know how you feel 150%

Even now I feel selfish for stopping but I need some space. Going to the cinema for a few hours when Harry Potter came out was the first real break I'd had since she was born.

You've done so well to come this far, so many women don't. You have to do what's best for you. Have you tried feeding her with an actual cup? I had to do this with Caitlyn when she was 6 months incase I ever needed to leave her (even if it was to go to the shop)

 

[hypnorm]

No not tried the cup, would probably end up wearing it with her arms flying around lol!!
Guess i'll just keep on trying every couple of days.

OH said yeh but you go to your mums once a week... yeh i do but i still have the kids 24/7 - he was going to sit and read with Ewan last night but didnt - went out on the bike instead grrrrrrrr

 

[FsMummy]

i just wanted to say well done for getting this far and its great you want to carry on even longer! its understandable that u need a break hun and dont think for a minute that you are being selfish at all! you need time for you too hun, of course you do. it can only do you good to have some time to yourself, its better to give the odd bottle and be calm and relaxed than carry on exclusively bf and get stressed and miseable!

 

[marley2580]

Tbh hun, I think your OH needs to buck up and give you a wee break. If she's almost 6 months, she can go 3-4 hours between feeds, why can't he take them both for a couple of hours out to the park or something?

 

[jms895]

I agree with Marley! Give her a good old big feed, hand her to OH and go and have a nice relaxing bath, or whatever you want for some me time for 3 hours!! Sod the housework etc xx

 

[ryder]

Your definately NOT selfish for needing a little time to yourself hun. Being a mom is hard enough without being attached constantly without breaks...

I dont have anything to suggest... But you shouldnt feel guilty or upset.

I dont know what Id do without a couple hours to myself now and then.

 

[hypnorm]

I had 30 mins whilst i walked the dog the other day and was worying that she would wake up for food, shes ok during the day but evenings tends to feed more and sometimes will only have an hour between feeds. the goodnight milk looks interesting but i wont buy any untill i can get her to take a bottle.

 

[jms895]

Good luck hun and I hope you get a break soon