could really do with some advise regarding CSA

[sophieee18]

hi girls.

a bit of background.. me and fob broke up when I was 35 weeks pregnant as I found him cheating. we argued throughout the last 6 weeks of my pregnancy over babys name, if he was going to be at the birth etc... I recieved nothing but grief off him!! I gave birth to alfie and rang him up straight after to tell him and I got a load of abuse off him cause I didn't let him know when I was in labour (my mum text him saying I was having problems, things were moving VERY quickly - but he slept through this text). he cane to the hospital straight away to see alfie, he came to my house the following 2 days and then after that he made excuses. the next time we saw him, alfie was 4 weeks old and it was when we got him registered. we haven't seen or heard from him since.

I phoned the CSA yesterday as I think it's every fathers right to financially support their child, but I'm beginning to think it was the wrong thing to do.

I don't want to see fob, and I have spoken to a solicitor when alfie was first born for general advise - she said that if he ever want access to do it through a children center as supervised visits only as he cannot be trusted alone.

also I dont know what he is like financially at the moment!!!

should I carry on with the claim or cancel it. I'm so happy being a single parent, but I don't want alfie to grow up without a dad.

any advise is hugely appreciated. I'm in such a mess at the moment

xxx

 

[gemabee]

carry on with the claim.
dads should provide for their children.
not only is it the law... its morally the right thing to do.

 

[suzanne108]

I would carry on with it

Is there a reason why he can't be trusted & would need supervised access? xx

 

[bloodbinds]

Carry on hun.

He should pay for his child no matter if he is seeing him or not. It's the right thing to do, and every little helps when you're a single mum x

 

[sophieee18]

the reason he can't be trusted is that he has anger problems and has made many threats to me whilst I was pregnant and soon after given birth, one threat said that he was going to take alfie off me as I'm a irresponsible mother... and i have no idea how he thought that one up because alfie is my world and i alway put him before anyone and anything - but my solicitor said to keep things supervised until he has built up the trust.

thank you girls xx

 

[Adela Quested]

You're an irresponsible mother? Um, how does he figure that? He's an irresponsible father, more like!

Sorry for butting in (I'm not a single parent) but I just couldn't believe that one.

Sorry that you're having to go through this, some of the things these men come up with are just amazing!