court

[lizardbreath]

I'm new here my ex of 5 years broke up with me on Christmas and is now wants to go to court. Here's what I posted on teen parenting I'm hoping someone has advice please .
Mommys that have done the court thing before. How can I prepare and what exactly happens. My now ex Ass hole has just informed me that what we agreed upon isn't good enough says his mommy and his Ass hole friend who's currently in court with his physico ex. I want to scream he's the one who broke our family now he's being a huge prick he also informed me he will not bepaying me support unless court grants it. I just want to scream.

Thank you.

 

[special_kala]

What are you offering him? I know in the UK what the courts offer isnt much, maybe every other weekend and one day in week. Generally no overnights until they are older.

Im fairly sure he has to pay you support if you go to the right agencys about it.

 

[lizardbreath]

I offered Friday morning - Sunday night return them Monday morning and he would get them to him Friday morning again. I also offered if he's off and I'm working during the week instead of paying a sitter he could watch them. I live in Canada so I'm not sure how things work here plus my parents have been married 25years so they don't know how anything works yet his parents do. I thought I was being fair.

 

[Lemonflower]

I'll be dragged through court soon and still learning about the process though I'm from the UK.
I think what you're offering is very generous - I think a court would offer him less than that!!
Please don't worry, I know it's heartbreaking and seems unfair!!
Keep researching and asking around!!

xxxx

 

[special_kala]

that more then generous. what more does he want?

 

[lizardbreath]

I'm not sure what he wants his friend is telling him to go to court. I don't know what I did to deserve this. I don't think its right. I was trying to stay out of court because my kids did nothing wrong and I maybe mad at him but hes still their father and i dont want to take that away from him. Hes saying that those days will cut into his social life and that im being unreasonable when I say I want to meet any woman before she meets my kids . I will be letting him meet any man I bring into their lives as its only fair

 

[BrandiCanucks]

Find out what he wants first, and then try to come to a mutual agreement. You'll need to have it on paper too, signed by the both of you, for yours and your children's protection. Also, call your local Legal Aid clinic and ask to speak with a family law lawyer.

When my husband and I split last October, our arrangement was that I had the kids while he was at work, he had them while I was at school, and then we alternated weekends, Friday to Sunday. We ended up getting back together, but we're splitting again, and unless he gets psychiatric help, it'll be permanently this time.

 

[Crumbsx]

Your being more than generous! Courts wouldn't even order that much. They'll probably just laugh in his face. It sounds to me that he doesn't know his own mind, and is being led by his friends.

Hopefully it's just empty threats