Blondemommy
Mom to 1, expecting 2nd
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Ok so I'm 6 weeks pregnant with my second child and the topic of the delivery room has already been brought up by my MIL. With my first son my mother and hubby were with me, the hospital only let's two be in there when its time to push. When my MIL found out she cried, bugged the nurses by begging to be in there, and had the nerve to TELL my mom that with the next baby she will be in there while my mom waits outside. Basically was making this whole deal about her.
Now since I'm pregnant again she automatically assumes my mom will wait outside while she goes in. I personally don't want her in there. She's one of the types that will get in the way of the nurses so she can see what's going on, I'm very modest and feel uncomfortable just getting a pap done, I do not want my MILs head all in my personal area while I'm pushing out a baby. Plus me and my mom have a very special bond. I want her with me again. Of course the hubby will be with me too. My hubby has a younger sis who's married. I've tried explaining to my MIL that she will be in there when my SIL gives birth and I've even said she can watch my son the night I give birth (I've never spent a night away from him so its a huge deal for me) but she still gets huffy puffy and gets an attitude. Now my hubby is starting to argue with me about it saying that its his baby too so he has a choice who's in the room. I try explaining to him that at that moment it is really about me, I'm the one in pain and pushing out a baby. If he wants to switch places and have this baby then his mom can be there.
Anyways how do I make my hubby understand and what can I do about my MIL. My mom WILL be in the room with me, i don't care what it takes. During something like that I really want my mother there with me. I really need help on this. I don't like hurting my MILs feelings, but she's the type that if I try and take care of my own son when she's around then she gets pissed. I can't even feed my own son if she's around, it's like she expects me to stop being his mom when she's around. Shes very controlling and wears her emotions on her sleeves. When my first son was born I could barely breast feed without her crying because I allowed my mom and hubby to be in the same room as me, while she had to wait outside, like I said I'm modest so I would breast feed somewhere private. Just please give me some advice to make her and the hubby understand. And maybe some advice to help me deal with how crazy controlling she is.
Now since I'm pregnant again she automatically assumes my mom will wait outside while she goes in. I personally don't want her in there. She's one of the types that will get in the way of the nurses so she can see what's going on, I'm very modest and feel uncomfortable just getting a pap done, I do not want my MILs head all in my personal area while I'm pushing out a baby. Plus me and my mom have a very special bond. I want her with me again. Of course the hubby will be with me too. My hubby has a younger sis who's married. I've tried explaining to my MIL that she will be in there when my SIL gives birth and I've even said she can watch my son the night I give birth (I've never spent a night away from him so its a huge deal for me) but she still gets huffy puffy and gets an attitude. Now my hubby is starting to argue with me about it saying that its his baby too so he has a choice who's in the room. I try explaining to him that at that moment it is really about me, I'm the one in pain and pushing out a baby. If he wants to switch places and have this baby then his mom can be there.
Anyways how do I make my hubby understand and what can I do about my MIL. My mom WILL be in the room with me, i don't care what it takes. During something like that I really want my mother there with me. I really need help on this. I don't like hurting my MILs feelings, but she's the type that if I try and take care of my own son when she's around then she gets pissed. I can't even feed my own son if she's around, it's like she expects me to stop being his mom when she's around. Shes very controlling and wears her emotions on her sleeves. When my first son was born I could barely breast feed without her crying because I allowed my mom and hubby to be in the same room as me, while she had to wait outside, like I said I'm modest so I would breast feed somewhere private. Just please give me some advice to make her and the hubby understand. And maybe some advice to help me deal with how crazy controlling she is.