Cripple with worry, struggling to cope

[purplehoops]

I lost my last pregnancy at 14 weeks, I am now nearly 19 weeks and have had some complications already but have now been given the all clear

But I can't stop worrying and stressing that something is going to go wrong. The baby is kicking nicely and has a good strong heartbeat, but I am just totally paranoid, it's all I can think about. I try giving myself a pep talk and using the good old PMA but it's not working

Do I just have to keep taking one day at a time, how will I know if things are starting to go wrong? Will I just know or is there something I should be looking out for?

 

[hb1]

It is so hard to stay positive.

I think all you can do is keep an eye on movement - they will keep an eye on growth by measuring your fundal height.

If you feel ill get checked with the MW, if you feel reduced movement check with the MW - I'm not sure there is much else you can do. Try and remember that at this stage the chances of something going wrong are very slim - I know it doesn't feel like it after going through a loss

hx

 

[marnie79]

sorry hun, pal can be very hard, all u can do is just take it day by day week by week and make sure that u get ur ur appts and scans, and if u need extra reasurrance then go for it, call up the mw or hosp and ask to be seen, its better to have ur mind put at rest then be stressed out as thats not good for baby either xx

 

[sierra19]

I am right there with you purplehoops.

 

[herewego]

Same here hun I'm still having to take thigns one day at a time, can't go any further than that. Someone suggested I try and turn the stats round, so if I'm freaking out about something happening that has a 1 in 100 chance for example I need ot remember that that also means theres a 99 in 100 chance that it won't... takes some working on if you're anything like me but it does help sometimes x