Crying it out....

[jaybee]

Ohhh, also, I was talking to a HV at my BF cafe this morning and she said that some babies just have to have a cry before going to sleep. Its their way of winding down and releasing before going to sleep. Her daughter was like that for about 6 months and then just stopped needing it.
Its just like some babies needing a dummy or their fingers.

 

[Seity]

No advice, just Good luck. I still feed/rock my boy to sleep because I'm happy to do it and I'd never be able to let him cry.
I hope it works out for you.

 

[cupcake23]

I'm so lucky, my lo falls asleep so easily.... I think I've only ever had to rock her twice to go back to sleep and that's because she was over tired.

I can imagine how frustrating it can be though, I have a friend who was in the same situation, baby never went to sleep for more than 30 mins (taking hours to get her to nap in the first place), with the help of her mum they did the same as you and is now sleeping a lot better during the day and night.

You know your baby is safe so good luck with it.x.

 

[fluffpuffin]

I think if you read up on it you'll find Ruby is too young for CIO.

I have read up on it thankyou and that's why i'd never dream of letting her cry it out properly... i am literally doing everything i used to do when i rocked her like shushing and patting except she's now lying in her cot when i'm doing this and she doesn't like it! But she has to get used to the fact that i can't rock her for every nap she has and every night for bed, it's exhausting annd the longer i do it the more used to it she will get.

I totally agree with you. I do the same because otherwise my arms will just fall off because she just fell asleep in my arms then I'd put her down and she'd wake up and cry - I think they say that the baby gets scared if they wake up in a different place to wher they fell asleep.

 

[jaybee]

I think if you read up on it you'll find Ruby is too young for CIO.

I have read up on it thankyou and that's why i'd never dream of letting her cry it out properly... i am literally doing everything i used to do when i rocked her like shushing and patting except she's now lying in her cot when i'm doing this and she doesn't like it! But she has to get used to the fact that i can't rock her for every nap she has and every night for bed, it's exhausting annd the longer i do it the more used to it she will get.

I totally agree with you. I do the same because otherwise my arms will just fall off because she just fell asleep in my arms then I'd put her down and she'd wake up and cry - I think they say that the baby gets scared if they wake up in a different place to wher they fell asleep.

I have heard the same thing about the baby getting scared.

 

[jaybee]

I think if you read up on it you'll find Ruby is too young for CIO.

I have read up on it thankyou and that's why i'd never dream of letting her cry it out properly... i am literally doing everything i used to do when i rocked her like shushing and patting except she's now lying in her cot when i'm doing this and she doesn't like it! But she has to get used to the fact that i can't rock her for every nap she has and every night for bed, it's exhausting annd the longer i do it the more used to it she will get.

Totally with you Terrilea, the only difference is being in the cot rather than arms! Lo's are just fine.

 

[Lu28]

I'm just a bit confused now! On the one hand you say you go in and shush and pat her but on the other you say you pop your head around the door so she can't see you? I did something similar to the first but tried to stay in the room as much as possible but to me if LO is aware of you going in to her, then it's CIO?

 

[Terrilea]

I'm not following any method strictly i was just playing it by ear i sat in the room with her and patted her and let her know i was there and after an hour that didn't seem to be working so i sat by door and evrytime she got worked up i'd shush her til she calmed abit and then watched her by the door again x

 

[Lu28]

That's pretty much what I used to do too. Hope it gets better for you both xx

 

[Terrilea]

Thankyou chick xxx

 

[bump_wanted]

id do what you are trying out if i was in your position my back couldnt take walking about with Ollie trying to get him to sleep but then he's a really good sleeper (well usually just now he seems to be regressing slightly) and usually just falls asleep as soon as i cuddle him in xx

 

[lou_w34]

Im glad its worked for you!

I wish i could do it, ive tried controlled crying but i only managed it for 30 mins, and my LO is almost 9 months, never slept through and never settled herself to sleep without being fed! I wish i started trying to encourage her to self settle earlier!

xx

 

[Seraphim]

I think if you read up on it you'll find Ruby is too young for CIO.

I'm not strictly letting her 'cry it out' as i titled this thread, i'm just not rocking her to sleep anymore! And by doing that it means she cries so i have been in and out the room like a yoyo shushing her and patting her and holding her hand etc i would never just leave her to it.

Sorry, I took the title of the thread and your description of a stool outside the door to mean you left Ruby on her own, crying for a good part of that 2 hours.

I agree with Jaybee that some babies do yell and complain before settling themselves, but it's not the kind of complaining that goes on for 2 hours.

 

[SAmummy]

Well done and keep at it. I did the same as you with Jed and it has worked really well. Now he takes about 5 min to fall asleep with a dummy in his cot. A good tip for me was not to wait till he was over tired to put him down because then they freak out even more because of overstimulation. He has even started to have a 2 hour nap in the morning and at least 45min in the afternoon whereas before he would only nap for half an hour. Hopefully your LO will also nap longer as he gets used to self settling.

 

[Buffy71]

Ohhh, also, I was talking to a HV at my BF cafe this morning and she said that some babies just have to have a cry before going to sleep. Its their way of winding down and releasing before going to sleep. Her daughter was like that for about 6 months and then just stopped needing it.
Its just like some babies needing a dummy or their fingers.

I can't imagine being able to do this, but I'm extremely lucky with H at night and she self settles most nights, although sometimes I still need to pick her up and cuddle and sing to her - sometimes that doesn't work so I have to stroke her face or back and she sleeps really well. Naps are a different issue - sometimes I give up and just get her up again! Lol. I feel for any mummy who has to resort to this as it must be so difficult and out of pure desperation for the need of sleep! Mmmmm sleep. Lol.

Your hv saying her baby needed to do this for SIX months though! WTF! Surely letting a baby CIO for six months (she needed to unwind .... Really... So working herself up would relax her? Hmm...) would twig something in me that that wasn't working and to try something else!!!!!

To the OP - hope this works for you and you get some rest. It can't be easy to sit and listen to. I can't bear to hear her cry for a moment - it must be awful.

X

 

[Sam9kids]

You are doing great hun, just keep going. Jenson sleeps on his side too!

I feed him and then let him fall asleep in his chair. When hes properly out, i take him up!

Hope it works out well (((hugs)))

 

[firegirlv]

I'm sorry if this goes against what you are trying to do...but as xbabybumpx said,why the rush to self settle.I know there are soooooo many opinions out there,but your little girl is still quite young to not want any comfort.
Alot of people told me(including my mum !) that i was making a rod for own back when i refused to let my little man cry when it was sleep time.I would rock him,push him in his pram or do whatever it took to make him more comfortable/secure when it was time for sleep.I've spent a few hours holding him before if that's what it takes.
He's now 7 months and will go down his cot when he's tired and wants to sleep,there are the odd times when i will hold him till he's asleep or feels more secure.But my point is.....in my opnion,if your baby feels they need you,it's for a reason !!!
Good luck. x

 

[firegirlv]

Sorry,haven't got the hang of this site yet !!!! .... Didn't see the 3 pages after the first one....oops !!!!