Curvy ladies

[Tizy]

Hello everyone.

Oh I'm having such a rubbish day today, my dad had his op this afternoon, to try to remove the cancer from his bowel and I'm still waiting to hear, its driving me nuts not knowing how he's got on. Hopefully I will get a phone call from my mum soon.

I've been trying to keep myself busy all day, Ive had a day off, cleaned the house, been to Asda and fallen out with my OH. He seems to find it difficult when I'm having a bad time, sometimes I feel like I have to be 100% all the time or we end up falling out. Funny becuase I'm always there to support him when he has a bad day. He just says he finds it hard and doesn't know what to say or do! He feels like nothing he says will cheer me up, which it won't right now but that doesn't mean he should stop trying!! Arghhhhhh men drive me crazy.

Also posted in second tri about my dilemma this weekend, its OH's birthday and we bought tickets to a small local festival in Jan, obviously I wasn't pregnant then and wasn't expecting it to happen so quick. So I've decided that after the wedding last weekend I'm gonna find it incredibly hard and annoying that everyone else is enjoying themselves getting drunk and I'm not, so I'm gonna stay at the festival the minimal ammount of time, a few hours here and there when ferrying my OH up there (1 hour 20min round trip). He is going to try to come home with me on the friday night (yeh - we'll see) and then I'm gonna take him back on the Saturday so he can camp over with our mates, enjoy the music and dance the night away! The compromise is that apparently we'll do something together on the Sunday (he'll be hungover!). I just feel pee'ed off that I can't join in, I know its selfish but a good blow out would do me the world of good right now! I know I shouldn't be moaning cos lots of peeps would give so much to be pregnant right now.

Anyway Mark did offer not to go but I knew I'd feel so guilty if he didn't, its his birthday and everyone was looking forward to us going. They don't know that I'm not going yet. Its a no win situation - i'd feel guilty if he didn't go and I feel pissed off that I'll be left out when he does go! Poor guy having me to contend with...

Anyway, i'm gonna go to my mum and dad's on Saturday to see them instead, hopefully dad will be out of the hospital and ok....cross your fingers for me peeps.

Sad girl...Han Xxx

 

[xheartsx]

Hey Han, sorry to hear about your horrible day =( I'm sure your dad will be fine. Your mum will be phoning with good news

You'll have a lovely day on saturday with your mum & dad. And you'll wake up tomorrow in a much better mood! Just one of those days. xx

 

[cranberry987]

Maybe see how you feel about the weekend, you might actually find that you enjoy it if you go into it with an open mind. You can always leave as planned if you do find that its too much. Also, I think its gonna be horrible weather so you might not mind leaving

Going to a mega big NCT sale in a football stadium on Sunday, gonna take the chq book and lots of £1 coins! Hoping that I can find loads of unisex stuff. Annoyingly friend whos coming with is team yellow (they couldnt tell at 20w! argh) and further along so anything we both want I have to let her have rly as shes got less time to prepare. Im def finding out the sex anyway so can always buy sex specific stuff later on.

Hope your dads op went well.

x

 

[pink sparkle]

Han - thinking of you hun and sending you big , i really hope that your dads op goes well, i cant imagine what you must be going through, everything is crossed for good news xxx

Sorry about your plans for the weekend going out the window are you defo 100% sure about not going with them? Mind you if the weather is that bad you prob wont want to stay anyway but like it says above maybe go with an open mind and see what happens? I think i would be put off by needing the toilet every five minutes and they arent always the nicest lol! xxx

Ive not long got back from going out for dinner with dh and the kids..what a bloody nightmare...went for a carvery ...had to wait for turkey, no stuffing, no cauliflower cheese, and ds was a complete bloody nightmare ...dont think i will be attempting a meal out again for a long time. We ended up eating separately as ds was like a bull in a china shop charging around in the pub! What id give for a cold bottle of wine now! mouths watering just thinking of it...will have to go to asda tomorrow and get the alcohol free one, i will just pretend to get drunk lol x

 

[pink sparkle]

ooh cranberry defo dont spend too much on unisex as when you find out babys sex you will buy loads and then probably wont use the unisex stuff as much (well that happened with me and dd) i didnt buy a thing with ds before i knew the sex x

 

[cranberry987]

Im buying stuff which Id like a boy or girl in tbh, dont fancy them wearing all powder blue or pink. not getting anything beige etd, its all purple and pink stripes, or blue and yellow dots so far. have a hot pink pramsuit with brown stars on but Im fine with putting a boy in pink - looks quite funky tbh

will be quite choosy as i dont reckon you need as much stuff as we think tbh.

 

[pink sparkle]

oh no i agree about not having them all in baby pink or blue, but im not a cream/beige fan either. Although i have got pretty much all girly colours so far I have got bright colours not just pale pink. Ive sorted through ds's stuff too and have a lot of sleepsuits in primary colours which are good for both x

 

[sunshine623]

Han- I hope you've heard good news about your dad by now! Keep us posted! And sorry to hear about the weekend being messed up. I know what you mean about being jealous when everyone else is drinking and you can't. We always go to a big 4th of July (Independence Day) party and drink the night away, so I probably won't go to it this year either. EVERYONE is drunk, and I'm sure I'll be hot and miserable anyway. Nick usually doesn't mind to stay with me, but I'd hate for him to miss the party. Think I'll probably be in your same boat in a few weeks!

So I think I'm going to do the free scan on Saturday to find out the sex!!! Nick is actually off work, thank God, for once, so I'm going to call the girl tomorrow. My sister said she had an early scan at 15 weeks with her DD and it was right, so I think it'll probably be correct at close to 17 weeks! I cannot wait!

 

[pink sparkle]

Sunshine - how lovely i bet your so excited, i had my sexing scan at 16+6 got my 20 week tomorrow so will be double checking but im sure it was right (fingers crossed) x

 

[Tizy]

Morning girls, just updating from my phone so haven't had chance to read all ya posts yet. Thanks for the kind words. Got news from my mum late last night that dad is ok, the operation went according to plan and he'll be in hospital for 5-7 days. I feel so relieved! Still feeling fairly rubbish, me and OH fell out again last night, apparently I've been really unfair on him, which maybe I have, he feels he can't do anything right and that of course all he wants is to look after and support me. That his family (us) have always come first and he can't understand what's wrong. Now I don't know what to do, my feelings are hurt that I've been such a horror to live with! Really not enjoying being pregnant at the mo, feel fat and horrid!

Anyway great news about dad, will check in properly later. X x

 

[cranberry987]

Good news

I just had a brain wave and called the spire hospital to ask about testing dh for rhesus + or - costs £60 but will be done in a day so if nhs won't do it there's another option. His mums -ve and dad is dead so I dunno what he is obv but it's 50/50 that baby will be -ve atm. 0/100 would be much better tho!

Lie in this morning but rich let the bloody cats upstairs so they woke me up early sitting on my pillow purring. Might use the time well and have a swim. Or I might sit around on my ass

 

[Tizy]

Hello again,

Really wanted to just say thanks again for all your kind words and support girls, its surprising how a little message from a relative stranger can make you feel less lonely.

Cranberry - The NCT sale sounds ace!! My advice, hang out together for a bit but then split up for a little while (and grab as many bargains as you can!) Wish we could all go, but its a long way away.

Pink Sparkle - Your meal out sounds like a bit of a nightmare, funny that eating out is meant to be a treat and easier for us but often its not!!!

Sunshine - I'm so excited for you and the scan, your so lucky!! Me and Cherry got another 25 days to wait!!! But we're all due same time, so thats very exciting!!

Think being at work is doing me some good and kinda keeping my mind off things....just now to work out how to deal with my OH, I suspect that I should really write him a note confessing to my bad behaviour and wishing him a great weekend. Blahhhhhh, feel mean cos he keeps sending me nice messages: Hey Han. A beautiful girlfriend, a gorgeous step-daughter and a bouncing baby on the way. Love you, Lets look forward xxx
I've not responded, not in the mood too, just feel lonely bout everything, think the weekend apart will help, he's gonna be partying away while I visit my dad. Bitch aren't I!

Sorry I've been so down, hope I'm not bringing everyone else down too. Speak soon. Xxx

 

[Cherrybinky]

Hi girls

Han, Im convinced my baby will be born on December 4th, its a tradition on our family and 2 of my Nans Great Grandchildren were born on that day and its her birthday! Petes even taken from the 5th Dec off for 2 weeks too.
Im so sorry about your Dad Han, its good to hear hes ok though and I hope he recovers well.
Id let Pete go to a festival without me but Id moan about it and be paranoid all weekend while he was there lol. Pete doesnt seem to 'get' me at the moment either and some days I could explode at him but then I think he works full time on shifts and I just look after the house and do nothing else and I do get at him a lot and hes so laid back he just puts up with me Then he will do something nice and I just ignore it.

Thanks PinkSparkle Im glad youve won a baby swing on Ebay, I love Ebay and have had some bargains from it. Your meal out sounds a bit disappointing I hate it when things are short or theyve run out.

Sunshine, TAKE THE FREEBIE lol. To be honest we could actually afford the £50 from our savings for the sexing scan but Pete just wont budge, he said 4 weeks isnt that long to wait

Ive had a shit day today, feeling similar to Hannah. Petes got on my nerves, hes addicted to facebook, didnt help me at all while hes had his day off and didnt get it when I was sobbing this morning. He gave me a hug but has hardly spoken to me all day. The kids asked why I had wet eyes and I just said I was a little sad. Isobel said "but you have lots of friends, dont be sad" How wrong she is Sometimes I feel lost here, I have no friends around me and my family live miles away. Pete works full time and has taken extra shifts to help out and I shouldnt complain about being at home as thats my 'job' now but things are getting to me. How will I cope with a new born baby etc etc. Too late to think now eh.

Hope youre all having a better day than me
XXX

 

[xheartsx]

Hey Cherry, i know what you mean about being lonely. I moved up to scotland to be with my OH, and while him & his family are great, i really really miss my family and friends. Well, i say friends, tbh not a lot of them really keep in touch! I don't get to go down to see my family as much as i'd like because of money, and it does suck, i know how you feel!

I hope everybody starts to feel a bit better soon. I've had a rubbish day at work, feeling sick allll day! It's coming & going again, totally rubbish.

Anyway, off to OH's mum's for dinner, so at least i don't have to cook. And then by the way i feel i think i am going to be in my bed for a nice early night. Xx

 

[cranberry987]

Theres NCT sales all over,not just Bristol. have a look at the website and itll show you your nearest one. Ive found that theyre quiet over the summer which is why im going to this one mainly as the next one isnt til september

 

[sunshine623]

Han, so glad to hear your dad is doing well!! About your OH, I think we're all pretty emotional and get a little crazy at times. Unfortunately our OHs seem to get the brunt of our bitchiness! lol Nick has been pretty good about it, because he usually figures out that I'm pissed so he just needs to let me rant and get it out of my system. Although he does complain sometimes about my sudden lack of desire for DTD. I used to be the one to want it every day, and now we've probably done it 5 times since I found out I was pregnant! My usual self would be climbing the walls! lol But I'm sure they'll be able to deal with it for a little while longer. We can't help it that we're all drugged up on these crazy hormones!

Rachel, Sorry you're having a bad day! I get really stressed thinking about bringing home a new baby, too, especially since I usually do EVERYTHING around here. Told Nick he's going to HAVE to help out some more around here or I'll end up going nuts.

Hearts, it's so nice to have someone else actually fix dinner for a change! lol Enjoy it!

Cranberry, glad you got good news! I have to admit, I'm not really sure what you're talking about, but sounds good so that's all that matters!

I hope everyone is having a good day! I've decided I'm going to call tomorrow to set up my free gender scan for Saturday. I can't wait to find out! (Even though having any ultrasound scares me to death thinking I'll get bad news.) I'm really trying to stay positive here though!

 

[Cherrybinky]

Thanks Sunshine, fingers crossed for your sexing scan. Im still gutted Pete wont let me have one I still have 3 weeks 3 days left till mine. To be honest, once Id had my 12 week scan and then got my doppler, I havent worried once about baby or anything being wrong. 4-12 weeks, I was a nervous wreck, even when I had a private scan at 8 weeks I was still in bits panicking.

Im bored out of my head not working. Theres just nothing to do round here, if I go to the shops, I spend money I havent got and apart from that a trip to the park is a bit boring without a child or dog . Ive cleaned the house again this morning which is now a daily ritual and we have someone coming to measure for new carpets today (woohoo, human contact! lol)
We have a busy weekend ahead with the kids so thats something I suppose. I hate not having a defined bump, its just wobble and my normal jeans cripple me but my maternity jeans are too big so I cant win.
Id like to go into the woods and scream a bit to get my frustration out!

Han, hows your Dad doing?
X

 

[pink sparkle]

Oh what a shame you cant twist his arm Rachel! I know how you feel with the loneliness, i moved to area dh was from and hardley know anyone, hardly anyone comes to visit me and i get fed up always being the one to make effort to visit ppl.

I had my scan today. I would totally recommend a private scan to everyone, my nhs scan was pants very to the point (i understand that they are busy etc but they can be so cold and official). Im sure that not all sonographers are like it i guess ppl can get a lovely sonographer ours was just stiff and official. Great news that baby is growing and looking fit and healthy which is the main thing. Picture is rubbish too and cost a fiver! They double checked for me and she said she thought it was a girl. Got another scan at 28 weeks to check growth so will try and have a peek again to triple check lol.

Rachel im exactly the same when it comes to shopping and spending money i havent got i try not to go now without dh as i spend much less x

 

[cranberry987]

My 8w scan was rubbish but the NT was done by a Dr who was rly good. Dunno if the 20w is done by a Dr or a nurse.

Im starting to feel v bumpy - feel like Ive exploded this week. Had a day in London and feel so uncomfortable now, no more of that nonsense again I think.

Having a bit of a crap food craving lol. Was going to be findus crispy pancakes, but had to settle on Dinosaur shaped turkey bits. Will have some veg with them to even it out!

 

[Cherrybinky]

Our NHS experience at 12 weeks was horrendous. We went private at 8 weeks and was far superior! The sonographer at the NHS was about 20 years old in a grubby off white uniform with messy hair and she said "there's babys hb, its facing downwards, that's it off you go now, all done". No photo no showing us baby properly on screen nothing. I burst into tears and complained. They sent us in with another sonographer and he was great, got a good look at baby and 4 photos and he was chatty but admitted he didn't know how to use the machine properly and was just helping out as they were busy!! I then waited 2 hours to see a Dr who saw me for 2 mins about my GTT and then another half hour to have my bloods done! NIGHTMARE