Curvy ladies

[sunshine623]

Jayne, how sad about his mom! I know I've been bitching about my SIL, but I really am extremely lucky with my in-laws. My MIL is wonderful and I really get along with her much better than my own mother most of the time. Both my grandmothers died when I was very young, so I know kinda what he's feeling. I know both my parents missed having their mothers to share grandchildren with. And it's hard to grow up without a grandmother, too. I can't wait for Gus to get to enjoy being so loved and cared for the way my parents and in-laws will love him! I pray they'll all be around forever. But at least in your case, the kids didn't know and love her and then lose her. I was only 3 when one grandmother died and I'll never forget it!

 

[pink sparkle]

ahh sunshine thats so sad that you can remember losing your grandmother as such a young age. Trust me i know all about sil's and how much of a pain they can be. My sis is due 4 days before me and she is one of those...its all about her her her...ive got used to ignoring her now though lol she already has more kids than she can cope with and shes doing it all on her own so no doubt it will all be about her and my mum will be with her a lot...although i dont mind as i have a fantastic hubby by my side which she doesnt have.

Is anyone doing anything nice today? I need to get ready and get to the mw at 10.15. My mum watching the kids for me as i have to have bloods done. Cant find my pee bottle so going to have to try and find something else to pee in lol! Or do it when i get there which i hate!

 

[BabyDeacon]

heres my 30 week bump pictures

 

[Cherrybinky]

Morning girls,

Jade, glad your pains are eased a little. Perhaps its just something youve eaten working its way out?

Jayne, its so sad about your OHs Mum. It surprises me how many people moan about their MILs. Mine has her faults but shes lovely and Id never slag her off. My ex husbands Mum was fantastic and I loved her to bits. Ive never not liked any of my partners Mums apart from one when I was 19 and his Mum was a cocky cow but we never clashed at all. Its such a shame when people say the things they do. After all, its someones Mum

Wicked bump BabyD, not long now Ive just realised youre in Croydon, I feel for anyone in the riot areas, its been horrible


I feel so lazy and have no motivation! I did a little washing and cleaning yesterday but kept my feet up as the swelling from the weekend was horrible! The trip home was bad on Monday. BOTH train toilets out of order so I couldnt wee and then the coach toilet smelled gross for 3 1/2 hours and although I could wee, it was broken. I darent drink anything all day and it was too hot. Feet were like big fat sausages.

Im having major aches from my shoulder blade. I damaged it in an accident at work 4 years back and got major compensation. Its never been right and not being active is making it ache and seize up

Im at the job centre tomorrow and they better not say anything about me not applying for so many jobs this last 2 weeks, its crazy that they expect me to at 25 weeks pg!

Mrs B has her scan today WOOOOOP. Cant wait to find out what shes having.

Hugs to all
X

 

[Tizy]

Hello everyone,

I've just come back from my 24 week appointment and everything is great! She checked my BP - all good, Uterus - where is should be! and used the doppler to find baby's heartbeat, she was surprised to find it straightaway, I said "he's a good boy", she said that often little boys are hard to find! She didn't check the fundal height, said that its not accurate at 24 weeks, so they will do that at my next appointment at 28 weeks. I don't have a GTT cos my bmi was under 30 before pregnancy apparently!

I spoke with her about having a possible Home Birth and she was really supportive, answered all my questions about it! Obviously its too early to book one now, so we just wait and see, check my BP doesn't go up, no other growth probs etc. Then they will come and visit me at home at 32 weeks, do an assessment to make sure they're is good access for ambulance (in case its needed), telephone line etc. Then at 36+6 they bring round all the equipment, ready for the birth!

Where I live there is one hospital but its not a big one (Westmorland General), they have a lovely Maternity Unit there, with carpets in the wards, soft furnishings etc, really unlike most Maternity Units! So apparently I can have everything the ladies have at the Unit, Gas and Air and Meptid (not pethidine) but then if there are any complications or you want an epidural you have to get transferred to Lancaster or Barrow (awful!) hospital. So really having a Home Birth here isn't much different to having a birth in the Maternity Unit at Westmorland General. She did say that the baby resusitation equipment is better at the hospital tho.

I'm not making any hard and fast plans, I know labour is unpredictable and at the end of the day if its safer for us to go to hospital then thats what I'll do. Another 8 weeks and I'll have more of an idea about whether we are suitable for a Home Birth or not.

Jayne - Glad your bubs is back on the move, its always a bit of a worry when they go quiet, but it doesn't normally last more than a day or so does it! Let me know how your appointment goes. Sorry to hear about ya hubby's mum, thats really sad

Leigh - Make sure you don't overdo it packing etc! Get ya man to do all the hard work!

Jade - Glad your pains are a little better. I would guess RLP is right, it can be quite painful!

Amy - hello, awww thats really sad about your Grandmother, you're right to treasure the close family you have got. Hugs

Baby D - Wow lovely 30 week bumpy! You're coming along lovely now

Rach - Hello, I'm at a loose end today as well! I wish we lived closer so we could hook up for a coffee! I'll probs try to do some housework. OOOh ya shoulder sounds painful, hope it gets better soon.

Helen - Hope your cold gets better!

Mrs B - Hope the Scan goes well. Can't wait to hear what you're having.

Chris - Good luck in ya GTT.

Han Xxx

 

[Cherrybinky]

Han sounds like it went great. I dont have mine till Tuesday although I could have gone 2 weeks back as midwife not busy and I kept cancelling !
I hope me and baby are ok

I wish we ALL lived closer. Everyone Ive met is miles away and Im lonely and bored.

Just rang up about maternity allowance as Im worried its contribution based and if it is I wont get it as Im on Job Seekers and that runs out in October. She said she doesnt think it is and as long Ive been employed 26 weeks of the 66 test period (which I have), I should be ok so now Im worried sick I wont get it.

x

 

[Tizy]

Rach, you and bubs will be just fine

Re: Maternity Allowance, I looked into this when it looked like I was going to be made redundant, you are right, I'm sure you will get it, don't worry.

I'm bored, sat on lappy listening to my fav DJ - Richie Hawtin and wondering what to do! I might re-write my birth plan, so I've got a Home Birth one too, but then think this might just be a waste of time if I don't end up having a Home Birth. I've already started to put together a 'birthing' play list! Anyone got any other ideas?

I'm not cleaning the bathroom becuase Mark said he'd do that, hoovering erm maybe, might go and clean the window in Roscoe's room, but that will take all of 5 minutes. All I actually want to do is go to the shops and spend lots of money (which i don't have!) or eat loads of nice food, which I'm not going to do just yet, thought I'd save myself for mum and dads this weekend!

Han Xxx

 

[no1seasider]

That sounds like a good positive appointment! I cant recommend home birth enough.....It is lovely!I have had 2 and both were lovely experiences and i am booked in for another one this time,although my new midwife doesnt seem quite as pro home birth as the midwife i have had for years.

Rach,i love your cot...i wish i could set up all our stuff,but we are swapping bedrooms with the two eldest(as they have the massive bedroom) so have to decorate it first as they have tangerine walls!! It has so far taken me 2 weeks to strip 2 walls! i have NO motivation!

I have my 25 wk appointment next thursday,i havent actually seen a midwife since my 16 week check!

Gtt went fine.Was starving and popped in tesco on the way back and ended up with doughnuts and chocolate eclairs!!was lovely to come home and get coffee,and i ate 4(FOUR!) slices of toast too smothered in dairylea! haha!Have to ring tomorrow am to get the results.Im not too worried,had it with my last 3 babies too as i always have sugar in my wee at check ups!Otherwise wouldnt have had to have one either my bmi is 27.

Weighed myself this morning and in total i have gained 8lbs so far. Kids have talked me into making trifle though so i'd put another 2lb on that by this evening!

Hope everyone is well xx

 

[Cherrybinky]

Thanks We still have to do a bit of painting in Isobel and Kittys room but I wanted to get it set up as there were bags and bits everywhere! I cant stand mess.

Han, I keep having the urge to pain the kitchen cupboards as they SO need doing but I just cant motivate myself to do jack shit lol. Ive done the cleaning for today and sorted some more baby things but thats it. Were having new carpets fitted next Thursday through the whole house so I dont really feel the need to get on my hands and knees and hoover like I normally do lol

Just had a salad sarnie with choritzo and cheese again, I could eat 10 one after the other!

I shall now sit and watch Dragons Den from Sunday then Hells Kitchen!

X

 

[sunshine623]

Morning ladies!

MrsB, great pics!

Rachel, hope your shoulder feels better.

Han, wow you don't have to have a GTT! I think they do it on everyone here regardless. I thought it was one of those things where you're more likely to have it if you're heavier, but really anyone could get it. Hope you're able to do the homebirth like you're wanting! I'd be scared to death to try it on my own at home. You're so brave!

Chris, glad your test went ok. And LOL for doughnuts after! Sounds like something I'd do, too. I just can't keep myself away from sweets lately!

Today is Nick's 29th birthday, so I've got to get off my butt and go get him a card. We're going to The Melting Pot (fondue) restaurant tomorrow night to celebrate. It's my absolute favorite!!! We usually go for my birthday, but didn't get to in June, so Nick's being sweet and asked to go for his birthday. Then we'll do something with his parents on Saturday night, after the birthing class. It's gonna be an exciting weekend!

 

[Cherrybinky]

They only do a GTT if you have a BMI over 30 or have diabetes in the direct family here Amy. Mine was 32 when I went for my 4 week check and my Nan and Uncle have db so they thought it was best for me to be checked. Han doesnt need to as her BMI was under the threshold. X

Mrs B has pics? Where? Whats she having? lol
X

 

[Tizy]

Where are these piccys, I can't see them! Xxx

 

[cranberry987]

hi

gonna try and catch up a bit. have the afternoon off so just watching ER and vegging on the sofa. found some lemsip from boots which just has paracetamol in so thats made me feel a bit better even if its just the same as pills.

good point about moses baskets. Ive got one from ebay and will get a carry cot, but they do tend to grow out of em fast. might look at bedside cots. was quite keen on cosleeping but rich thinks ill squash the baby so maybe thats a good compromise.

jade - hope youre feeling better

With the SIL thing, mine is 3w more preg than me. They waited til 12w to tell ppl so everyone knew about us loads earlier. my MIL who is the worlds least tactful woman has already said well ofc yours will be my 6th grandchild... (ie not v special and exciting) she wont come round anyway and i wont be encouraging it. rich isnt bothered and im hardly going to make an effort as its not even my family, its his. I understand about the whole 'you should be lucky to have a mil', but in our situation shes not really a very positive influence on rich at all, shes not negative, shes just nothing. he has no dad which is sad but he says he doesnt really miss it so some people just feel things more than others i guess. doesnt mean we wish them dead but i just spose its not something which people think oh i feel so lucky to have a mil, it just is or isnt. I think youre welcome to say how you feel on here, doesnt have to be a row. i hope i dont ever say anything which is unfair, things she says are hurtful, not like i slag off her dress sense or something subjective.

han - glad you had a good mw appt. I think a lot of things on your birth plan can apply wherever you birth so a seperate plan is a good idea but a lot can probably be cut and pasted ie, do you want to be directed to push or be left to do it yourself, do you want the placenta jab thingy, do you want vaginal exams etc. things might not go to plan ofc but you cant plan for the unplanned so no point putting them on your birth plan

rach - afaik maternity allowance is based on NI contributions. When youre on JSA or similar you get your stamps paid so will be fine.

I just found out my nhs antenatal classes are 2pm on a monday afternoon for a HOUR. Why cant they just do a 4 hr session and get it over with. useless. not taking time off for them, if im off then fine ill go.

I only read back a few pages so sorry if i missed news. going away camping tmw so ill be off again. camping in the rain with a cold, yey...

 

[Mrs B mum2b]

Hi all - just a quickie as got to work soooo late! Thanks for your messages and no I haven't put any pics up as I didn't get any!

Beanie was being very uncooperative and lying face down. No matter how much prodding, pushing, walking around etc, wouldn't move!! They measured head, spine, legs, brain etc and said all perfectly normal but couldn't get to the heart (although could see it beating!). Then when I asked the sex.... she said "it's a girl-ish"!!!!!! I said does that mean you just can't see a willie and she laughed and said basically yes! She said not to buy anything pink yet but she thinks it's a girl - Of course would love either flavour but am delighted we're (possibly) team pink!
Hope you are all good - sorry dashing off, will come back later!
Tanya x

 

[cranberry987]

hmm. thats not v definitive is it. are you having any more scans?

(tentative) congrats on team pink!

 

[Mrs B mum2b]

oh should have said - I have to go back in 3 weeks to finish the heart scan and confirm sex!!

 

[cranberry987]

aha, excellent

 

[sunshine623]

Tanya, glad everything they could see was good! I wish if they couldn't tell they wouldn't even say one way or the other on boy/girl though. They told us "90% it's a girl, but she's really active and hard to see". Then when we found out he's definitely a boy, it wasn't a let down but it was just hard to get used to the idea for a few days. I had to go back at 24 weeks as well, though so they could see the heart better. So we've had 2 "definite boy" ultrasounds. Hope baby will cooperate better next time!

 

[cranberry987]

found this guide on how to attach a cot to the side of your bed https://www.freewebs.com/sidecarcrib/

looks like a nice compromise for those who dont want to fully cosleep, i reckon i can get dh to do it. might need to get a smaller cot tho as the cotbed is probably a bit too big for our room. will do some measuring.

 

[pink sparkle]

Hi ladies, hope youve all had a good day.

Han so glad your app went well, your mw sounds lovely and hb plans sound great and also very good that they are so supportive.

When ds was younger i just took one side of his cot and pushed the double bed right up to it and it worked well for us so kinda co-sleeping. On no Helen i wasnt referring to anyone on this thread and like i said i can sympathise as some ppls parents are a nightmare just seems to be constant anti mil threads on the boards lol!

Mrs B great news that your scan was well and congrats on the possible team pink...even better that you get another scan to confirm.

I was wondering about home births...what mw do you have if you have a hb? is it your community midwife? Just wondering?

Well i had my 28 week appointment. I was booked in for the second appointment available first at 10 second at 10.15. I arrive on time and there is one other pregnant lady in the waiting room with green notes. at 10.40 the other lady goes up and queries when she will be called in...your next shes told. As she walked past i asked her when her app was for ...10am! The very first appointment but the mw hasnt called anyone in! grrrr! She goes in at about 10.50. Out at 11.10 and then im called in.

She apologises for keeping me waiting...well i say 'my blood pressure is probably through the roof as i was getting really stressed sitting there for ages!' she then tells me sorry shes had a nightmare morning with taking bloods and then had trouble finding a baby's heartbeat. I felt like saying you f'in liar...youve only seen one other lady and she was only in here for 20 minutes! She does my bloods checks my urine and bp...all fine...so good. Theres another lady in the room ...im not asked if i mind her being there or introduced to her at all. She then examines my tummy and tells me i measure 31cm so three weeks ahead (ok)! Then feels for baby and asks if i mind the other lady having a feel....she was actually very nice and i didnt mind so i let her. She told her that my baby was difficult to feel i bluntly ask why because im overweight? no response!? This lady says oh no i can feel baby well enough! Finds hb fine. We sit back down and she plots measurements on my chart. Oh baby has jumped massively since last time i saw you. I had to explain that the other cross on the chart is from only last week when i had a growth scan....oh for big babies....errr no for small babies ...well this baby will be a whopper. Sorry for going on but this woman was clearly chatting out of her backside. My growth scan and weight estimate from last week is more or less perfect for my chart just slightly under the predicted line. Her plot on the graph made my baby double its weight in a week and then she tells me that its hard to feel ...well im not that fat if my baby was so massive you would feel it. OMG she does my head in i wish i could show you all the growth chart its ridiculous thank god im getting another scan!

Sorry for going on hope my long story makes sense x