Dad Laws?

[bloodbinds]

Can't seem to find the information i need.

FOB lives in Surrey, i live in Birmingham - when baby arrives i have told him that he is more than welcome to see his baby at any point, but he has to travel to me to see her or pick her up, and i don't see why i should have to travel 3 hours to get him to see his baby.

Now he's told me that legally because i concieved the baby in Surrey while living with him, i am legally oblidged to travel half way to surrey for him to see baby.

Is this correct? I've never heard of it before, and i would have thought, perhaps if i was still with him and living with him in surrey when baby was born that may be right, but because im giving birth in birmingham and we're not together, that the law would be different?

I'm not sure, anyone know the law on this or where i could find out?

 

[woadie]

That has got to be bull! How does he propose to prove that it was concieved in Surrey... get the police to track your whereabouts, call witnesses, and question the baby as to the exact point in time it started to grow lol... and I suppose it will be born with a 'made in Surrey' tag round the ankle!

If you could even prove such things, I couldn't see them passing such a lunatic law. He's just trying it on to save travelling all the way to you.

And that has truly just made my blood boil that he could insult your intelligence with such lies.

Go get him! LOL

 

[bloodbinds]

Lol! cheers, i think he is just making it up - but he told me that his solicitor who specialises in family law told him that and i kept telling him it's bull but he seemed so adament that it was right that i started to get a little worried that it is right! :-/


I suppose really i could travel half way though, or if i do travel down to surrey (which i might do sometimes as i have friends there) then i could get him to pay half of travel costs?

 

[xJG30]

If a family law solicitor has told him that, i'd call his bluff and actually speak to a solicitor.

 

[smartiepants]

Sounds like utter crap to me!

If you go to court over access arrangements I guess it's possible that they could rule that you have to meet in a mutually convenient place, i.e. halfway but I think that would be the worst case scenario.

 

[suzanne108]

I'm worrying about a similar thing so keep us updated!!

I'm sure what your FOB is saying is a load of crap. As someone else said, it can't be proved?

And what if the baby was concieved whilst on holiday in Australia...does that mean you gotta meet up there???!!! Stupid!

Get him sorted xx

 

[purpledahlia]

that rule sounds like bullcrap!

I live in central scotland, not even a city with an airport, and the FOB lives in north london.. am i then expected to travel to york (or wtv) to meet him!?!? RIDIC. and not going to happen.

I would say its fair to agree on something tho, for me id be happy to go to edin and he can get the train or fly there, my house is a hassle to get to from edin if you dont have a car. If i were you id see a solicitor myself and then maybe come up with an agreement in writing with him..

 

[Perdita]

I'm sorry but WHAT????? I can understand why you started to doubt your own knowledge but look at it as a bald statement and it's pretty stupid - he was inventive I'll give him that!!! If he wants to see the baby he will have to make the effort and you can help on that point but you're not obliged to facilitate it especially when it costs a lot of money!
Besides - you may have had sex in Surrey but when the fertilisation took place up to I think three or four days later you could have been in Timbuktoo!
I'd give him half a point for trying but I agree that you should call his bluff and talk to a solicitor, you can get the first 30 minutes free with some solicitors or ask at citizens advice.
Though if baby is born with a 'made in Surrey' tag I think you could earn quite a bit in media fees!

 

[bloodbinds]

You are all right - cant believe for a moment i thought it might be true! Concieved in surrey... ack, ridiculous. He's just trying to get out of having to do any work for this baby, the cheeky sod. Well if he wants to see her then he will have to get off his backside and come to us!

 

[DizzyMoo]

pmsl thats the funniest thing ive heard in ages hun , really whats he thinking !
And no you wouldn't be made to meet half way either, If he wants to see the baby then he travels to you end of . So dont you dare go thinking of meeting half way!!
Why on earth should you pay travel expenses for him to see his baby..nonono hun get him told lol

 

[purpledahlia]

If he is so insistent on you going there he has to fund it, I would expect My babys dad to fund me a week to and in london if HE wanted US to traipse all the way down there. It would cost about 3-4 hundred quid with trains and hotel. HE can pay. Im happy to go if its free! But no way will i pay to go there, you shouldnt either!

 

[ladyjayne]

what he's saying is utter crap. i've done family law at uni and theres nothing about that at all. One thing you might want to be aware of though is that if you go through CSA for maintenence then they will take into account his travel costs to get to you. But deffinately you dont have to travel to him because thats where the baby was concieved.