Dating and living alone

[dudettex]

I have a couple questions. I've been living with my parents since feb, But I've been thinking of trying to move out with LO for a little bit and see how I like it. Because I don't feel completely like an adult living under their roof. I noticed that when they're gone for weekends I feel more motivated and more happy, but sometimes when they're around I just feel lazy and aggravated. I never have friends over mainly because we live 25 min from town and they're always up on my case with friends, they're always wanting to know what I'm doing or tell me what to do, and I'm always wanting to go out. I'm a single full time 19 year old mom and going to be starting school. I would be on income assistance.. I was looking at apartments and the bills I would have, and all of that would be taken care of. I would even have an extra 300$ spending money every month. Anyone else is/was in the same boat and ended up living alone and what was your experience?

Also.. Dating. I havn't dated since FOB. Which has been about 5-6 months. I wouldn't bring guys in and out of her life. She has only met friends who have been in my life for atleast 2 years and always helped me with everything and are still around today. I know that if I were to move out and started dating someone I met not long ago, I would just invite him over when she goes to sleep or when I get a babysitter. But there is this guy I've known longer then FOB, and he was always there and even during my pregnancy and all. We've been getting a lot closer and he wants to start dating. I've been thinking about it but he already met my LO. He wants to take us to the beach or something because I can't get a babysitter much during the day. but I don't know ..If we were to start dating should I wait a while to bring her around him again? I have known him for a very long time and he's always been a real great friend. But I'm not sure what to think about it.. ?

 

[moomin_troll]

I've not lived at my mums since I was 16, but I couldn't live there while I had children, I need my own space.

If he's been ur friend for so long, I'd go for a day out and take lo. But if u don't feel comfortable then don't and do it when it feels right for u.
I introduced my oh to my boys fairly quickly.

My eldest is 4, almost 5 so I needed to know if he would like Pete before I let him in my life.
But I can only get a babysitter who stays at mine for afew hours. My mum never has both boys at hers.
Not the easiest for a dating single mum lol

 

[Dream.dream]

I have rule that I have to date someone for 6 months before they are introduced to my son, an then it's still not a regular thing for a bit after they meet . Personally I wouldn't invite someone over after they were sleeping as they could always wake up . I've always gotten a baby sitter to go on dates I usually had maybe one night a week to go out and Saturday mornings every other week.

Hard as it is I wouldn't date anyone who wasnt okay with my "rules" as if they thought I was worth it they would stick it out .