Dating

[GardenMagee]

So I'm new to this site... this is my first "real" post. I'm a new mom of a 2 month old darling baby girl. So the other day I was asked out to dinner by an old friend who I haven't seen in 9 years. We've kept in touch over the years (texting, facebook...) but whenever one of us was single the other one was seeing someone. So now we're both single and this dinner invite is definitely a date. I feel a little weird going on a date when I have a 2 month old, but I could really use a night out with a nice and normal guy. So I'm excited. But I guess a concern I have is that I'm breast feeding. I don't plan on being intimate with him any time soon (if it even goes in that direction). But I feel like my body is so not my own right now. How would I even explain this to him??? I know this is kind of a weird and random post. But has anyone been in this situation?

 

[sophieee18]

I've never been in your situation and I'll probably not be much help but if he really is that in to you, then surely he'll understand. Just tell him how you feel. You need to be honest with him but you will probably feel loads better once you've told him how you feel. Good luck with the date and welcome to b&b x

 

[GardenMagee]

Thanks! Yeah, it's a strange situation I never imagined I'd be in. He's a pretty understanding guy. And who knows, I might just be jumping the gun. Slow and steady, right?

 

[alysedelovely]

I breastfeed, and I am just really honest about it. It's hard to bring it up, but I just kinda blurted it out to the guy I am seeing and he is completely okay with it. I just tell him that I really don't consider those "mine" right now, so if he could respect that too.. if that makes sense?

 

[Bambers]

I certainly wouldn't say anything on your first date, I would wait and see how things go and if you two eventually decide to takes things further then is the time for the discussion.

Hope you have a fabulous time on your date. x x

 

[GardenMagee]

I breastfeed, and I am just really honest about it. It's hard to bring it up, but I just kinda blurted it out to the guy I am seeing and he is completely okay with it. I just tell him that I really don't consider those "mine" right now, so if he could respect that too.. if that makes sense?

It totally makes sense. It's good to hear from another mom in a similar situation. Thanks!

I certainly wouldn't say anything on your first date, I would wait and see how things go and if you two eventually decide to takes things further then is the time for the discussion.

Hope you have a fabulous time on your date. x x

Thanks! And I defnitely don't plan on having the converstaion on our first date... but I like to plan ahead. If I didn't I'd be all stressed over what I would say if the time ever came to have the "talk".

 

[jen1604]

Youve already had some good advice from the other girls and I dont have much to add just wanted to say good luck for the date xxx

 

[lal]

I am bfeeding, I haven't even thought of that...I do think if someone knows you have a tiny baby they should understand there's going to be some different situations, and this is one of them! Have fun!!!