Days out (just a moan haha)

[Kayley]

I've been a single mum for just over a year and a half now and so I've gotten used to doing things with my 2 girls alone.

However, this week I've got a week off work and am planning activities with my girls every day - I was really looking forward to it until I woke up this morning. The rain has meant we have to change our plans which is fine so I'm going to take them to a big indoor play centre, however I know it's going to be busy and there will be so many families there - mum, dad, kids.

Although we will have a good time, I feel so sad and jealous that I can't give my children that. It's just not fair. Plus the last time I went to this centre we were a proper family, in fact most places hold different memories for me.

Meh

Sorry for the moan x

 

[Boomerslady]

Oh hunni it's never as fun doing stuff alone is it. Although Ben sees FOB a lot all activities are just me and him, I don't have any mummy friends! Simple things like needing the loo etc aren't simple because you have to take them with you etc. do you have any friends you can go with?

 

[daneuse27]

My ex-boyfriend was raised by only his mom (his dad died when he was 6) and she was very big on vacations and activities. The two of them travelled all over the world together and made a lot of amazing memories with just the two of them. I don't think they felt any less like a family than 2 parent homes.

You never know what all of those 2 parent couples you see are going through too. Things are not always as they seem. They could be divorced but still doing stuff with the kids, they could be unhappy together or maybe they aren't a couple at all. I often do things with my best male friend, and people assume that he's my daughter's dad and we're a family - but we're not really.

I'm a single mom as well, so I can relate to feeling lonely when it seems like everyone else is there with 2 parents. Just remember that you ARE still a family and can still have great fun together. They'll look back and remember how much fun you gave them

 

[Marianne_Jame]

Hi Meh! We cannot understand the reasons but things are always the way they are meant to be...Comparing is the fastest way to feeling unhappy!

 

[Kayley]

Aww thanks for your replies to my moan ladies.

Feeling a little lonely sometimes doesn't stop me from doing anything, my girls always come first and I want them to grow up with happy childhood memories. We did a lot last week, even when we stayed in we cooked together and made dens in the front room. As I said I am getting used to it, its just often a scary thought.

Next year I am taking the plunge and taking them abroad for the first time by myself. eeee

 

[daneuse27]

One of my favourite childhood memories was my mom driving me and my two brothers down to Florida. We live in Canada, so it was a 24 hour drive. We made lots of stops, saw a lot of the beautiful Eastern states, and our time in Florida was amazing. Her and my dad were going through a divorce at the time, and he was supposed to be moving out of the house while we were down there. Looking back, I can't imagine how lonely it must have been for my mom. But the four of us still had a great time. I have no doubt your daughters will look back fondly on memories that you've created for them too