Dear judgemental bad-words...

[..katie..]

There's lots of things I could do much worse for my daughter than not have her in wedlock.
For example: Have her in wedlock.

Please don't judge me. Also, please leave me alone if you can't say anything nice.

Thank you!

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

oh dear whats this about? Hope you're okay x

 

[jambermush]

There's lots of things I could do much worse for my daughter than not have her in wedlock.
For example: Have her in wedlock.

Please don't judge me. Also, please leave me alone if you can't say anything nice.

Thank you!

Oh my God you sound just like me! I was supposed to be marrying the FOB in 3 weeks time, and when I was 14 weeks pregnant I finally realised I couldn't bring my baby into this world in the relationship I was in. It just wasn't healthy.

My baby will be much better for it, and to my surprise, all of my friends and relatives (even the older generation that are firmly FOR wedlock) have been incredibly supportive.

We instinctively know what is best for our children - don't let anyone judge you for doing what is right!

 

[teal]

xx

 

[BadassMom]

The only person I've received this type of response from is my Dad (which is odd because he's on his third marriage). I'm 20 weeks pregnant and he's just now starting to tell family members. At first it hurt my feelings but then I realized I know I'm doing the right thing, and I'm not ashamed at all!!!

 

[jambermush]

The only person I've received this type of response from is my Dad (which is odd because he's on his third marriage). I'm 20 weeks pregnant and he's just now starting to tell family members. At first it hurt my feelings but then I realized I know I'm doing the right thing, and I'm not ashamed at all!!!

Good because you have NOTHING to be ashamed of!
Just think of all the women that aren't as strong as you, going through bad marriages and relationships because they are afraid to be on their own.

You have done what is best for you and your baby, and you should be very, very proud of yourself! xx

 

[..katie..]

Thank you guys =)

I wish people thought for a second before they spoke, and realized they don't know the whole story...

My friend's older sister and mother (38 and 58) are both super religious and super nosey. and of course, I get asked frequently "So are you going to get married?" "when's the wedding?" etc. I even got asked once "Are you going to get married for the sake of your little one?"

I wanted to slay a sheep, and dance naked while chanting, at that moment. =) And, of course, what I wanted to say would not be polite at all...

 

[BadassMom]

The only person I've received this type of response from is my Dad (which is odd because he's on his third marriage). I'm 20 weeks pregnant and he's just now starting to tell family members. At first it hurt my feelings but then I realized I know I'm doing the right thing, and I'm not ashamed at all!!!

Good because you have NOTHING to be ashamed of!
Just think of all the women that aren't as strong as you, going through bad marriages and relationships because they are afraid to be on their own.

You have done what is best for you and your baby, and you should be very, very proud of yourself! xx

Thank you! That was even before I broke up with FOB, my Dad disapproved simply because we weren't married.

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

why would anyone get married just for the sake of a baby? I can understand if people are religious, but they surely know you're not so why try & push it on you? I'd love to know what difference a ring & a piece of paper makes to raising a baby x

 

[..katie..]

I live in a fairly rural community where the majority of people are either very catholic or very mormon. And while I see nothing wrong with either religion, necessarily, i do get questioned a lot about my hethen ways or whatever.
Mainly it's from die-hard people who aren't fans of me being friends with their son...oops.

It just really makes me mad. I actually did say once "You're right. I should totally get married. That way the little one can grow up knowing that daddy likes drugs more than us, and constantly sees us fighting! Maybe child services might even come and take her away because of him! How wonderful would that be...At least we'd know she isn't going to hell based upon my mistakes!"

i'm not good at being nice.

 

[BadassMom]

I live in a fairly rural community where the majority of people are either very catholic or very mormon. And while I see nothing wrong with either religion, necessarily, i do get questioned a lot about my hethen ways or whatever.
Mainly it's from die-hard people who aren't fans of me being friends with their son...oops.

It just really makes me mad. I actually did say once "You're right. I should totally get married. That way the little one can grow up knowing that daddy likes drugs more than us, and constantly sees us fighting! Maybe child services might even come and take her away because of him! How wonderful would that be...At least we'd know she isn't going to hell based upon my mistakes!"

i'm not good at being nice.

Hahaha good for you!!!! I hate when people think they have the right to question your life. And I looooooove how religious people are so judgemental (the ones I know anyway), seems to be totally the opposite of what jesus taught.