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Love, what a gorgeous picture. I still have another 6 weeks before my next scan. Boo!
 
I'm really struggling at the moment and don't have anyone to talk to. I miss my lost angel and it's destroying me inside knowing that she is still inside me. I'm scared to death it's going to start early labour and I'll lose the other one too.

I've been signed off work because I'm struggling to cope with what life is throwing at me and I know I should be grateful for the remaining twin but my heart breaks for my lost twin and my angel Hugo who I lost last year. I can't seem to be happy.

My husband just doesn't seem to get that I need support at the moment. I know it sounds selfish but I just wish he would fuss over me, ask me what I'd like to do, what would make me happy, can he get me anything. He seemed to treat me better when I wasn't pregnant, it hurts. I really feel alone right now. Thought men went into overdrive when you're carrying a baby for him? Mine hasn't. I just need someone to hug me and tell me I will be ok.

Sorry to be miserable, just dont have anyone to talk to in the real world xxx
 
Sending you a big hug Donna, I can't imagine what your going through right now:( But we are all here for you :hugs: Men are programmed so differently from us. I know with my OH, when we had the MC he didnt want to talk about it at all and he kept all his feelings inside. But maybe you should tell him how you feel. Men are rubbish at reading us women! Use this time off work to look after you, maybe buy youself a few treats and do things that you really enjoy. It will get easier hun, you just need to give yourself time to heal and if you ever feel sad we are all here :hugs:
 
I'm so sorry Donna. Like Kate said, men are programmed differently. I realized that after my MC. My OH is usually really supportive, but it just wasn't the same for him after MC. He was sad at first and then it was over, while I had to deal with that grief for months.

Maybe talk to him? He might not really understand why you are feeling this way.

We are all here for you. I wish you get all the support you need in real life too. :hugs:
 
The loss of a child is always hard Donna, no matter what you have already been through. Thinking of you lots...We are all here for you if you need anything! But I think the girls are right, tell your DH what you need. When our RJ passed I would wake up every morning sobbing with the realization that he was gone and my DH would just lie there and not do anything. Finally I asked him why he wouldn't hold me or touch me when that happened and he honestly thought that I would rather be alone, which was the opposite of what I needed. After that whenever I cried he was there to hold me...sometimes we just need to say out loud everything we need. Hugs.
 
May I please join you ladies? I am due on December 3rd :) I lost my first baby two days before Christmas in December 2011 and I am thrilled to be expecting again. Every day I'm still pregnant gives me hope and strength that this one is going to make it. It's lovely to meet you all and I shall go back now and look at some of your stories xxx
 
Thank you girls. You was right, I just had to speak to him. He said he didn't realise I was struggling and thought I was dealing ok (I cry in private you see so he wouldn't know). Anyway he was back to being amazing yesterday, realised I needed that extra support, took me out for lunch, fussed over me. I shouldn't expect him just to "know" what to do, men can be dense!! He thoughts was dealing ok and didn't want to upset me by bringing it up or treating me different, I should just tell him how I feel more often

Thanks again xxx
 
Hi Donna,

Just wanted to say that I hadn't read your post when I posted. Sorry if it came over a bit insensitive. I am sending lots of love, I cannot imagine how difficult this is for you. My DH didn't know what to do with himself when I lost my first baby in December, he held me but I wanted to talk about it and he just didn't know what to say. I think it is difficult for them sometimes as they are not the one carrying the child. The bond is there but it isn't the same as feeling the baby inside. Just want you to know I am thinking of you xxxx
 
Dont be daft!! Welcome!! Thank you for your thoughts.

Do you know what flavour you have yet??

Xx
 
Donna, I have just caught up with your weekend posts. I am really glad that you managed to speak to your OH and that he is now being more supportive. Mine was the same after my losses - he just wanted to sweep things under the carpet and go on as usual without realising how upset I was. Big hugs from up here in Scotland for both of you.
Leliana - welcome!!
 
Welcome Leliana!

Donna, I am so glad you are getting the support you need from your husband. It always helps to talk :) Hope it makes you feel better. :hugs:
 
Donna - I am so pleased hun that things are better with your OH, sometimes being honest with you feelings is the way forward and like you said Men are super dense at times and wouldnt know how we were feeling unless we told them! Hope you enjoyed your lunch and enjoy being fussed over!

Leliana - Welcome and sorry for your loss sweetie but congrats on your pregnancy!!! Glad you joined us, these ladies are the best!

AM SO EXCITED FOR 2MORROW, MY 20 WEEK SCAN, YIPPEEEEEEEEEE :happydance::happydance::happydance:

Cant belive its finally here, so excited to see the little one again and find out what team we are on. Its at 2:50pm, just hope the morning at work doesnt drag too much!

Grenouille - Whens you scan, your not too far behind me? Are you finding out the flavour?
Kate xxxxxx
 
My scan is on July 9th, in a week :happydance: and YES I need to know the flavour!!! I think the baby will feel more real once I know. Sometimes I still forget I am pregnant.

Let us know how your scan goes Kate, very excited for you!
 
Thanks for the lovely welcome ladies, it's nice to be somewhere more intimate on this board, sometimes I get lost amongst the sea of posts! My 20 week scan is on the 17th of July and we will be finding out the gender then. I can't wait!! I have suspected boy since the beginning of my pregnancy so will be interested to see if I'm right!

Kate, how exciting - your scan is today!! Do let us know how it goes :D xxx
 
Thanks Leilana! Im the same, I'm convinced it's a boy as well! My scan is at 2:50pm, not long now! X x x
 
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