Decided on donor egg but afraid of actual pregnancy

[hopie2015]

Hi All - after 2 miscarriages and being 43, we have decided that a donor egg will be the safest way to go. Dr. says could be up to a 75% success rate using donor. I want a baby badly but I am so afraid of something going wrong during pregnancy. Surrogacy is so incredibly expensive. My doctor assures me that I would be able to carry a baby fine, but I think due to being hospitalized for the first miscarriage (second had a D&C), I am just petrified of health complications for both me and baby. I talked with a therapist about my fears and she said my fear has gotten too powerful, but yet I can't lessen it.
I am told adoption in the US could take up to 5 years.. I would be almost 50!!
I guess I am asking if anyone else here has had such strong fears and has been able to work it out?
Thank you and best of luck to all!

 

[Coolstar]

Hopie, with DE chances of miscarriage decreases since donor eggs are usually healthy. I am pregnant with DE. There is a thread Inconceivable and beyond where there are many ladies trying or pregnant with donor egg. Just be strong and don't let your fear overpower you.

 

[Conceptual]

So many women have that same fear so you are not alone. I know it's hard to do but the best thing is to not let the fears overwhelm you. If your doctor feels that you can carry a baby then he is probably right. Have faith and when you start thinking about the negatives make a point to turn those thoughts into positives. The power of the mind is strong and those positive thoughts really can make a difference. Stay strong and have faith in what your doctor is telling you.