Decision making

[tigra85]

Well me and fob have split up and I'm almost 14 weeks pregnant, even though the split was bad (see my other posts) I have told me as long as he wants to be I will not deny him involvement in our child's life and want him to be a part of it. We were talking today when I mentioned that I am going to plan the baby's christening while I am in the uk when the baby is around 2 months and he completely flipped out satin when did he say he wanted his child baptized and it's something we have to discuss together before I decided anything. Is there any other single mothers who allow the father to be involved can give me some advice? In my eyes I am a single parent and major decisions lie with me....is that way of thinking incorrect? When I told him he can be involved I was meaning I would not deny him seein the child when he wanted or turn the child against him. I didn't expect him to want to be involved as in decision making and telling me where the best place to live etc is.... What is the right thing in this situation???

 

[ellebelle]

I remember your other post, and judging the guy's character, I wouldn't really be listening to his opinion. You'll be the custodial parent and sole caregiver, right? Make your own decisions and screw that sketchy, lying idiot.

 

[tigra85]

Thanks honey. It's just so confusing as I want to do the right thing by my baby and I think if I am the main parent then I should be able to make major decisions alone. I mean at the end of the day I made the decision to carry on with the pregnancy and have my baby whereas in his eyes for the first 3 months the baby didn't even exist so it completely threw me when he suddenly decided that he has to be considered in decision making!

 

[ellebelle]

It's hard not to feel territorial when you are the one that decides to have a baby and you carry it for 9 months.
That's how I feel. My ex loves our babies and wants to be a part of their lives but he does not parent well and I feel like they are MINE.