Decorating a nursery while LTTTC- Therapeutic?

[emilyjean]

I've seen some people talking about this, and I've been considering it myself. We're buying a house, and I REALLY want to decorate the nursery as I would want it for a yellow bump. I probably wouldn't do much more than paint, maybe put a few cute things on the walls, etc.

Then I don't want anyone to go in that room until we're pregnant.

Is this a good idea? Is it going to do more harm then good? Anyone done this?

 

[fairy_gem]

Hey,

When we finally conceive we won't find out the gender and have already decided the theme for the nursery, there will be a teddy bears picnic mural on the main wall and a chocolate brown, cream and teddy theme. We have purchased some bits and put them in the room and refer to it as the nursery . The mural has not been painted, but there is the chocolate brown and cream theme going on already. I think its therapeutic as long as like you say its just painting and a few cute bits. I have brought a few clothes, just odd bits, not things that you come accross everyday and they are in a teddy basket we brought. But i wouldn't buy big things like cradles and things.

x

 

[Leila Fae]

I think it's entirely personal choice. It's not something I would do (even if I didn't need our second bedroom to store our washing and loads of other stuff!). I would rather have the excitement of decorating a nursery when I'm pregnant. I would worry that it could end up just being a horrible reminder - or I could totally change my mind and want a different colour scheme!

Each to their own I guess.

 

[emilyjean]

I would worry that it could end up just being a horrible reminder -

That's what I'm worried about as well. What if it never happens, etc. I'm just tired of waiting, lol. I'm impatient.

Fairy Gem- That's exactly what I mean. I even have a few decorative pictures and artwork that I have for the room. No clothes or anything yet for me, I'm trying to stay away from it, because I know I'd go crazy if I started buying even a few things!

 

[fairy_gem]

Hehe! yeah i have to stop myself otherwise i could quite easily go silly on clothes, so far i've managed to curb it.

x

 

[lynne192]

i done this before i get pregnant with my son was awful hard on me going near the room then when son was born i changed it anyways, personally cause we've been TTC 3years now wouldn't even consider it these days and would just depress me even more than i already am but if you think it will help go for it

 

[CareBear]

Personally I wouldn't do this especially after TTCing for 3 years now as if it didn't happen I wouldn't be able to go in the room or look at any of the things I brought as it would hurt too much. However me and my DH do talk about things we will do and buy when I'm pregnant and plan things out but don't take any physical steps to carry any of this out. Its nice to talk about though and helps keep the dream alive.

 

[emilyjean]

Before when I didn't know what was wrong and why I wasn't getting pregnant, I wouldn't have done this, because I thought I would never get pregnant. But now that we're on to IVF/ICSI, and everything with me looks fine and dandy, I'm confident that I'll be pregnant after a few attempts. So maybe it's the lack of wonder that's got me confident enough to decorate a nursery. But there's still the 'what if it doesn't happen' in the back of my mind.

I just feel like maybe it'll show/improve my PMA. More of a tangible thing that says 'I'm GOING to get pregnant'. I'm silly.

 

[TrixieLox]

I think this is good for positive visualisation and wish i were brave enough but I personally couldn't - like others have said, a constant reminder of what's not there.

 

[sheilarae07]

I already have everything picked out for when we get pregnant. We are about to start remodeling our house and I will be painting it the color I want (Yellow and accessorize with blue or pink). Then when we get pregnant, we will add decorations. The only thing will be if people ask about it. Maybe let them see it before you decorate, it's just a yellow room.
But oh I can't wait to do this myself.
But this is not a crazy thing to do... Crazy is buying maternity clothing before you are pregnant... which I did... 3 YEARS AGO!!! ha

I would say that if you want to do it, go ahead.

 

[sheilarae07]

Oh.. and I have a friend that has been trying for about 2 years and she has 2 huge boxes of girls clothes and boys clothes. Yet, she still has a PMA.

 

[ermm23a]

I don't think I could do it. I think my DH and my friends would think I had lost it. It would also make me sad to see it and not be preg. It would be a painful reminder of the "empty crib".

But, if it would make you feel better and it wouldn't bother your DH, then go for it.

 

[emilyjean]

I think this idea is out, my husband and my mom both said to just leave the room unpainted until I'm actually pregnant. I don't know, I still like the idea....

 

[Oneday]

Hi I'd paint the room in the right colour ready and maybe get a new carpet or flooring but don't make it look like a nursery. When we moved to our new house my son was still in his cot so we put it in the nursery whilst we decorated his room he then went to a toddler bed. I left the cot in the nursery whilst we ttc no 2 after 1 mc and a ruptured ectopic that left me infertile. I gave up and took the cot down as it was too upseting. This one us now due on my sons 6th birthday thanks to ivf but it's been along time even with us being sucessful on our first try. I've got a new cot and have started decorating. Wishing you all the luck in the world x

 

[caline]

Is buying a people carrier before getting pregnant mad?!?? I have, and I hate the sight of the thing! I had thought of decorating the nursery room before hand, but went off the idea after the people carrier experience.

 

[purechaos109]

I personally wouldn't do anything to the room other than paint it white (or leave it white) and maybe change the carpet (if its ugly or bad)! When Dh and I bought our current house a year ago (well over we moved in the day we started ttc) and I had picked out 1 room for the nursery (it has 4 bedrooms 1 is DS's 1 is Dh's office 1 is our BR) and a few months ago DH decided that I should have a craft room (my craft crap is always strung out all over the house all the time) so he took the room and made it into a craft room for me and I cried! And that was just because something that I had planned that room for hasn't happened! Can you imagine if you actually go through the steps to paint it how much harder it would be! I'm sure your right and you will get your BFP soon with IVF but I'd still wait! Nesting is always more fun (last trimester of pregnancy) when you have somewhere to nest at!