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Nah, they live like 300 miles away. They did ring me as soon as they got the letter to say they will be down to meet Kacie but I heard nothing more from them, then a couple of months later they emailled to say sorry, and FOB's dad had lost his job thats why they havent been down, didn't mention anything about rearranging. I emailled back and have heard nothing more, and that was just before Easter so I'm done with them now!
Like you say, the balls in there court, leave them to mull it over x
Like you say, the balls in there court, leave them to mull it over x
Hmm, you're right I didn't send it in the end.
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And keep us updated with the grandparents and the letter, hopefully they'll have more sense this time around! x
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Hi, well I don't want to hijack the thread but I thought I'd just update you on my own news.
After I last posted I asked a friend to check fob's Facebook profile and it turned out he'd been on there that day - so obviously he was fine.
Anyway, its a long story but I basically harrassed until he ended up ringing me out of the blue. He claims he didn't get the text telling him I had the baby, and he asked me what I want from him.
I told him I just wanted him to acknowledge the baby and after a little while of talking he said he wanted a dna test and would call me later so we could arrange how to do it.
He didnt call, and in the end we spoke again, argued and he said even if we did a test, it wouldn't change how he felt about the baby. I asked him to stay in touch, and then changed my mind and asked him if he could at least make some effort to see the baby just once.
Surprisingly he did. And it was ok. We were together for about an hour or so. He seemed a bit, kind of freaked out to see him. He did hold him when I went off to do something, and in the end he even took a picture of him (I don't know why though). It was weird because I still feel a bit of a bond, and it was really hard to pretend I didn't care about the situation.
He basically said now he's seen him, thats got to be it. We are going to go ahead with a dna test and he says he will support him financially when we get the results.
So, I guess I kindof got the closure I needed in the end too!
After I last posted I asked a friend to check fob's Facebook profile and it turned out he'd been on there that day - so obviously he was fine.
Anyway, its a long story but I basically harrassed until he ended up ringing me out of the blue. He claims he didn't get the text telling him I had the baby, and he asked me what I want from him.
I told him I just wanted him to acknowledge the baby and after a little while of talking he said he wanted a dna test and would call me later so we could arrange how to do it.
He didnt call, and in the end we spoke again, argued and he said even if we did a test, it wouldn't change how he felt about the baby. I asked him to stay in touch, and then changed my mind and asked him if he could at least make some effort to see the baby just once.
Surprisingly he did. And it was ok. We were together for about an hour or so. He seemed a bit, kind of freaked out to see him. He did hold him when I went off to do something, and in the end he even took a picture of him (I don't know why though). It was weird because I still feel a bit of a bond, and it was really hard to pretend I didn't care about the situation.
He basically said now he's seen him, thats got to be it. We are going to go ahead with a dna test and he says he will support him financially when we get the results.
So, I guess I kindof got the closure I needed in the end too!
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Sounds like youve done everything right! youve tried everything possible and still nothing but csa should sort it all out and he will get the biggest shock of his life! thats horrible how you actually turned up with your daughter and he didnt even care/look at her !! how could he do that but next thing hell proberley say is shes not mine.. so itll be a dna test and then hell have to pay for that so its all going to hit him straight in the face! he should step up to it all specially being 22! men get worse at being immature about serious stuff. And if his parents do throw the photos in the bin thats just wrong they could at least send them back or keep them.. i hope they do get back to you and actually be good about it all if not then there as bad as him! I have a friend whos got a nearly 3 month old and her ex doesnt want anything to do with the baby either and hes denying its even his now but csa are on his back and his parents are being really bad about it all actually having a go at her etc which is wrong as it was equally his fault baby was created.
But anyway i hope it all sorts out someway or another for you
stay strong about it all and remember if you gave him a chance its his loss!
But anyway i hope it all sorts out someway or another for you
stay strong about it all and remember if you gave him a chance its his loss!
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Hiya, I know exactly what your saying. My lil man is wriggling away on my lap at the moment. Don't get much time to myself nowadays!
Well, he meant that if he saw the baby that once - that would be it. I couldn't keep asking him to see him, or contacting him over and over about random things. Basically 'go away' unless its important.
Have you heard anymore from fob or family? Hope you have good news from the CSA soon.
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