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[xoash729xxo]

My boyfriend and I haven't really gone out since we heard the news that I was pregnant. So today we decided we would go out, and of course we got the looks from the people around us because they see a girl who isn't old enough pregnant. I was getting really annoyed and I kept talking about how rude it was of the people to just stare at us, and my boyfriend snapped.

He looked at me and raised his voice and said what do you expect when your sixteen and you become pregnant people are going to look at you different. It was your decision to have the baby so you should get over the stares, and if you are having problems with it already than maybe you should have listened to your mother. I got upset because he never talks to me like this. I've known his since I was like five and he never once raised his voice with me. It really upset me, and my emotions are all messed up, and I began to cry, and instead of comforting me like he usually does when I cry he just looked at me, and rolled his eyes.

I don't understand why he would start acting like this now when I really need him. I mean we both have been on the edge lately. I've been sick, and he is nervous about becoming a dad. We haven't talked since we got home because he went with his dad on some trip and wont be home by Monday morning. I talked to his mom, and she said that he was going through a hard time. I mean he has work, school, basketball, and a baby on the way. Its a lot he has to deal with so I understand him getting a little cranky, but he pretty much ignored me for the rest of the day. He didn't even say bye to me.

I've been thinking about trying to talk to my mom, and moving out because I think us living together won't help our situation we are in. I love him, and I appreciate his mom for letting me live there, but I feel like it is at the cost of our relationship. Sometimes I got to realize we are only teenagers, and even if we are facing adult problems at the end of the day we are still teenagers. If you can please write back and give me advice because I need help. Thank you so much. And sorry about it being kind of long, but I tend to write all my feelings when I talk. Sorry.

 

[moomin_troll]

awww im sorry ur not feeling great n ur oh shouted at u! theres no need for him to do that to u.

at any age pregnancy wille effect ur relationship in many different ways and sorry but yeah its scary bein a parent but he didnt put anything on the end of it so he needs to understand its both of u who decided to have a baby not just u and he needs to realise that n fast.

tell him how u feel n if he doesnt get it then spend some time apart n see how u then feel.

good luck

oh n im 20 n get weird looks off ppl wen they see me with my baby

 

[elly460]

aww

You seem like a very level-headed young lady. I will never understand why men act the way they do, but hopefully he'll come around and be more supportive. Good luck to ya hun.

 

[sweetnSimple]

Sorry to hear that he yelled at you but i know sometimes when ppl are stressed they do all the wrong times and not on purpose. im sure he is also on an emotional roller coaster just as you are...

I had my first at 24 and I had many ppl stare and make comments..my babsitter had her son at 15 and she is an amazing mother i can say she is better than some moms i know as she is committed to her son and does everything for him..

You sound very strong and mature and im sure you will find a way to work this out..maybe letting him know how you feel and letting him tell you how hefeels so that you both can get things off your chest will give you guys a better understanding of each others feelings..Being a teenager is hard enough let alone being pregnant and a teenager..I think you are very wise and you will do whats right for you..

Take care and good luck!!

 

[nikky0907]

Pregnancy does put a strain on the most solid of relationships.

It's a huge thing you both have to deal with and each of you is dealing in their own way.I think it's good that you want to talk to your mom about moving back.Some space can do you good and as you said you two are still very young.
See how everything goes with the two of after the baby is born for a while and then if you manage to get through it (which I truly hope you will) you can start thinking about moving in together in your own place as a family.

 

[meztisa]

I'm sorry he lost his temper like that. But understand, guys aren't emotional like us girls (especially with our hormones raging now!). Guys do NOT like to see us cry. It confuses them, and they don't know how to react (maybe by not yelling at us? but remember, guys are idiots). Pregnancy is a difficult situation to deal with, especially emotionally. Understand that you are very fragile, but so is your OH. He just handles it differently.

 

[xoash729xxo]

Thank you everyone four your advice. I haven't talked to my mom yet, but I'm going to wait till Chad (my bf) is home first. So thank you for the advice. I think we are too young to be living together. So talking to my mom would be best.

 

[moomin_troll]

u may feel ur too yougn to live together but u r havin his baby so things will be hard wen lo is born u will need his support all the time

 

[Always&4ever]

Sorry your OH shouted at you hon *hugs*