Depression(warning this may be long and rambling)

[Angel022605]

Hey ladies I need words of encouragement. Just recently DH and I talled and he's deeply depressed to the point where he doesn't enjoy hardly anything. I've tried all kinds of sexy talk and nothing I know AF is around the corner so that means my next fertile period is coming up soon. I'm so worried he won't be interested in much BD during the critical time. He doesn't wanna be reminded too much. I'm too much of a worry wart and afraid he'll forget. My next fertile period is the week of may 8-13 approximately after I temp and OPK to determine exact time frame. How do I gently get him in the mood without upsetting his depression or make him mad by reminding him too much. Help ladies. What do I do? What can I say? How do I turn on the charm? Please any advise will be greatly appreciated.
Thanks for reading my long rambly cry for help.

 

[abennion]

I just wouldn't remind him. He's depressed. Try to either seek help, or get to the root of the problem and see how you can help to fix things. If he gets in the mood, great. Don't pester him to BD just because of your fertile window.

You could just dress up in something nice, light some candles and set a mood rather than telling him you guys need to BD because you're in the fertile window. But honestly at the end of the day, is BDing more important than your DH?

 

[2ducks]

Hello, my partner struggles with seasonal depression and general anxiety disorder. Every winter he becomes depressed. What I have learned over the years is that there is nothing I can do to prevent this, stop it, or make it better. He has a chemical imbalance in his brain. He went on anti anxiety meds last fall and started seeing a counselor for the first time. What a difference it made for him. He deals with stress much better and did not get as deeply depressed as he usually does in the winter.

I think you are putting too much pressure on yourself to fix this. Certainly try not to add pressure on your husband at this time but you can help if he isn't willing to accept it.

Good luck and I hope things turn around for you and your husband.

 

[Angel022605]

I just wouldn't remind him. He's depressed. Try to either seek help, or get to the root of the problem and see how you can help to fix things. If he gets in the mood, great. Don't pester him to BD just because of your fertile window.

You could just dress up in something nice, light some candles and set a mood rather than telling him you guys need to BD because you're in the fertile window. But honestly at the end of the day, is BDing more important than your DH?

You hit the nail on the head. Yes my DH is more important than BD. In general I just want him to be happy and I feel helpless trying to help him. He just started back on his meds about 5 days ago so his body is still adjusting. We did BD this morning because the mood struck perfectly. He wanted to BD without me even mentioning a thing. All I know is prayers are working.