Desperate sleep issues

[history_girls]

Help us please.

Since Friday I've had about 6 hours sleep over the whole 4 days. Since the 4 month sleep regression hit sleep has been awful. Dd2 would wake every couple of hours an take at least an hour to go back. I'd feed her about 3 times in the night. I could just about cope with this.

However the last week has been awful. The wakings became every 30 mins. On Thursday she got a temperature and if has been absolute hell since. We've seen the doctor twice because she went blue from cold on Friday and again today as last night she kept stopping breathing for 5 seconds. Dr says she is fine just snotty. Gave us saline drops.

But sleep last night was the worst ever. She wasn't happy in her cot, on us, anywhere. She has had three 20 min sleeps today - not for the want of trying to get longer ones. I tried in her cot, on me and walking in the pram.

We have a fab bedtime routine. She goes down very dosey but awake and most nights goes off. Last night and tonight she woke after 30 mins and screamed for an hour last night and we are 45 mins in now. I try to comfort her in her cot but oh is working late and I couldn't bear it so picked her up, just for the screaming to continue.

I've tried leaving the room after resettling her and popping back in to resettle but still screaming.

How do I get her to sleep? We used sleep sense with dd1 but with dd2 we are in a cycle of 20 mins sleep 90 minutes resettle - repeat! Until about 4 am where I give up and let her sleep on me as she is finally exhausted.

I am open to almost any suggestions - not sure I can leave her to cry it out with me not with her - but she's screaming now on me so..... OH going to try and do all night with her except feeds but he is exhausted to.

Please any thoughts to help us as all I can do is cry.

 

[HKateH]

I don't have any advice, sorry, but it sounds like this could be more than just a sleep issue. The only time my LO has been inconsolable like this is when he had an ear/eye infection. Have you tried giving calpol/nurofen?

 

[history_girls]

Did neurofen four times a day over the weekend but stopped now the temp has gone.

I know we have so much going on with her at once. Never rains but pours....

 

[Leeloo]

So sorry! My LO is going through something similar and she is teething. She would wake up screaming and be inconsolable. I freaked out! I almost took her to the ER. She wakes up every hour at night and will hardly take naps so she's exhausted, i'm exhausted. I had a really rough week last week; was just really depressed from the exhaustion.

Hang in there! Maybe you can call a babysitter for a little help? One week I was having an awful time I hired a nanny just for a week. It was amazing. We hired her from a website; Just a college kid looking for some extra money. I was always home so I felt OK with it.

It does get better! And remember, LO won't remember the details of all this; just if they felt loved so don't be too hard on yourself. Just love her and remind yourself that everything's going to be OK.

 

[clever_blond]

I agree sounds like more then a sleep issue and personally I would be taking her to the hospital (either a+e or call and get her seen by a paed) as she has stopped breathing and going blue. Both my girls have had bronciolitis and my eldest has had bronchitis both of which made her sleep terrible (waking every 30mins) but once was treated and she was much better within 24 hrs.

She might be waking as she ia struggling to breathe as when they sleep their body relaxes making it harder for their chest muscles to work so their oxygen drops and they wake up screaming/crying (this is from personal experience and being in hospital). This is not meant to scare you in the slightest, I am just trying to point out that she may well have something else which is making her wake so frequently and the hospital or a walkin centre where they can monitor oxygen is the best place to have her assessed. She may be completely fine but from what you described does sounds like she doesn't feel great.

I really hope she feels better soon and you get some sleep. Xx

 

[history_girls]

The dr listened to her chest and said all was clear and it wasn't long enough without a breath to be apnea.

Thanks ladies. She's been screaming over an hour now.

I will just try to keep hoping it will pass.

 

[lanaross]

did your doctor look into her ears?? that sounds like an ear infection.

If it's not that, have you tried camillia for teething -- https://www.amazon.com/Boiron-Camil...e=UTF8&qid=1396310078&sr=8-1&keywords=camilia
this calms them down really quick.

definitely not a sleep issue hun, there is something medical. She'd at least complete a sleep cycle.

 

[heres2hoping]

My baby went through a phase around 6.5 months where he only slept 30-45 mins at a time through the night and only had 25 min naps. It was terrible!!! There were nights I didn't get to sleep at all. It lasted a couple of weeks and then he went back to doing a few hours at a time. My first did a similar thing twice before he was a year old. I had my MIL stay with me to help. I have terrible baby sleepers I have no advice, but you are definitely not alone

 

[history_girls]

I think I have bad sleepers as well. The worst thing is that I sometimes think it is my fault they don't. The worst thing is when others comment on it and say 'oh I couldn't cope with that mine all slept' - like I chose to have it this way!

Last night was slightly better - off to hv in a minute to see if they can help.

 

[heres2hoping]

Yes, I hate it when ppl say that too! It definitely is not a choice. My little guy has finally went down to one feed at 1am and is in bed from 7:30-7 without needing me any other time. This has been the last 3-4 days, but one week ago he was up every 2 hours. They change on a dime and there is no reason for it that I can figure out. Just need time. Thankfully, if we can keep our sanity, we all have that. I am hoping now that he is almost 9 months old, he will keep up these good nights. But I am definitely not expecting it