Bride2b
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I know how you feel about "the last time I did this I was pregnant," I cried when we ordered chinese for the first time after my loss as I had a chinese the night I found out I was pregnant as I really fancied. To an outsider that would probably class me as bordering on psychotic! But it really hurts. The jeans I wore the day I lost Bertie have been hung over my wardrobe door since I took them off before my waters broke. I think I might have leaked amniotic fluid (didnt realise this at the time) when I was wearing them. I havent brought myself to wash them. I dont think I can wear them again as they remind me of the moments running up to when I lost him. There are constant reminders!
I'd like to say it gets better, it does with time. I have more good days now than when it first happened, but everyday my heart aches for him. Yesterday was 8 weeks & 1 day since I lost him & I literally spent the whole day in tears. Mostly thinking that I have to go collect his ashes & am now having to decide what to do with them. I also want to make/buy a memory box to put the scan pictures in, his footprints etc. So this is playing on my mind.
As to trying again, I think your OH is terrified for have this happen again. They dont have the same instinct to desperately want to be pregnant again. I think about being pregnant & getting pregnant every minute of everyday & am doing everything I can to make sure that when I try next month I have the best chance ever to be successful.
Your ten year old sounds adorable
I'd like to say it gets better, it does with time. I have more good days now than when it first happened, but everyday my heart aches for him. Yesterday was 8 weeks & 1 day since I lost him & I literally spent the whole day in tears. Mostly thinking that I have to go collect his ashes & am now having to decide what to do with them. I also want to make/buy a memory box to put the scan pictures in, his footprints etc. So this is playing on my mind.
As to trying again, I think your OH is terrified for have this happen again. They dont have the same instinct to desperately want to be pregnant again. I think about being pregnant & getting pregnant every minute of everyday & am doing everything I can to make sure that when I try next month I have the best chance ever to be successful.
Your ten year old sounds adorable