Diagnostic laparoscopies are you glad you had it?

[BettyBoopster]

I have a huge dilemma and can't sleep so I thought I'd ask you lovely ladies for some advice.

A bit of background; we are on our 20th cycle TTC, 30 years old, healthy but we've never had even a hint of a BFP. So far all tests, internal, hormones, semen have come back okay. I've been stressing over it as I'm sure everyone on this board has especially with every Tom/Dick & Harry even those that don't want children seem to be pregnant or already have their little bundles of joy. The only thing wrong is a have mid cycle bleeding usually from 7dpo but not every month and occasional stabbing pains.

Anyway I saw a consultant and he wants to go ahead with a laparoscopy & dye... for the bleeding as well as infertility. I've never had surgery before and it scares the hell out of me. My question is "Are we being impatient?" Should we wait longer and see if it happens naturally, or go ahead to check if its all okay? Then we really are just 'unexplained' but know. I know it took my mother a long time to TTC but I don't feel I can talk to her. I also keep thinking that if I have the surgery its a month we don't have a chance of catching an egg... I kind of hoped for a good Christmas present but I'd be having it done a week before.

For those of you who have had diagnostic laparoscopies are you glad you did, or would you rather you had waited?

Thank you so much

 

[Lizzy444]

Good question! I'm curious too, as I'm scheduled to have a lap two weeks from today (my pre-op is today). For me, I want to know what is going on (so far, pretty much unexplained, like you, despite lots of tests). However, I would also love to put it off as it scares me quite a bit. Hoping someone who has had one will provide answers.

 

[scerena]

Hi girls I've got my lap on 13th December and I am soooo scared! Also I'm annoyed I miss a month of cracking the eggy BUT I'm trying to think positive and at least I will know if anything is wrong and they can try fix things at the same time- I'm having ovarian drilling (because of my pcos), dye through my tubes and a look at my womb... So scary! X

 

[Helen76]

I had a lap and dye in April and it showed I have endo and my insides are mangled. I have no real chance of conceiving naturally and I had no idea, I only insisted on a lap and dye because they had spotted a hydrosalpinx (fluid in the tube) during my second IVF.

I'm sure you guys won't be as unlucky as me but as to whether I regret the op, not at all - I wish I'd done it sooner. I spent two years temping, using a CBFM etc etc and all the time I had no idea what I was dealing with.

Knowledge is power I reckon and if it shows nothing well I've read that even flushing the tube can help and the best chance of conceiving is in the first 9 months after the lap.

Best of luck ladies.

H xx

 

[sns]

I too started off TTC for several years. I finally went to a specialist and did every test in the book. I had an HSG last year and my tubes were clear. DH was fine I was fine so what was going on??? Unexplained fertility! Really so depressing.

I gave it a few months on my own with clomid but no luck. Finally my RE suggested IUI and sometime after my third IUI I started experiencing cramping most of the month. I told my RE that I wanted to have the laparoscopic procedure to look for endometriosis. I am glad I did because she found mild endo. The surgery was not bad at all. It was my first surgery ever. DH and I tried on our own for another cycle on our own with no luck. Our next option was IVF. We did the IVF and found out that I have a condition called polyspermy (more than one sperm enters the egg). It was bitter sweet. I knew now what was wrong but something was still wrong. Now my DH and I are about to start our second IVF cycle but this time with ICIS and some supplements that are supposed to help with egg quality.

It is good to go through all the steps don't worry about the pain. If you have a blocked tube that is a very quick and painless process to clear up what could be causing you not to get pregnant.

Good luck!

 

[tripletsOMG]

I had a lap done and it is an easy painless procedure. At least it ruled out endometriosis for me and somehow even though nothing was found made me fertile. LTTC with my first born, and got pregnant with shots and IUI after lap 4th and final try with iui. Pregnant naturally with baby 2 (4wks post partum) then #3 naturally 1.5yrs later 2trys:0) and crazy enough almost 4 yrs later with an IUD in place naturally became pregnant with twin boys.

So keep the faith hun dont worry and stress IT IS POSSIBLE that it can be unexplained fertility and miraculously fix itself. (my lap found that i was born with 1 tube and ovary thats all) Good luck!

 

[cooch]

Absolutely go for the lap. I had suspected endo- I was right. If I'd just had the HSG it wouldn't have shown it.I also asked for endo to be cleared if they found it- they did. Turned out I also have a blocked tube- wish I'd asked in advance - if they could try and unblock it with a catheter - but really didn't expect it!!Plus there are so many women who conceive naturally within the months after their lap.

 

[BettyBoopster]

Thank you all so much for replying, its amazing how everyone's experiences are slightly different but you've helped me decide that getting checked out is the better option. I just hope I recover quickly so I can enjoy Christmas!

scerena - best of luck with the lap, I hope it goes well.
Lizzy444 - I hope your pre-op went okay and they answered all your questions.