FJL
Heartbroken after m/c
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Today one of my best friends emailed me to tell me that she misscarried for the 2nd time at 11 weeks. Last time was 5 months ago at 13 weeks. She had the D&C yesterday.
I emailed her my condolenses and regrets but just felt the need to ring her and tell her how very sorry I am and that i'm always here for her.
The phone rung for ages and when she answered she was crying. She thought I may have been the Dr and was the only reason she answered - she wasn't taking calls from anyone. I asked if she wanted me to call back another time but she said no.
Now, I have never been through a MC, so I don't know exactly how she feels, I can only imagine.
I just told her how unfair it was, how sorry I was and that I will do anything for her if she needs me to. She started talking about it all and I just listened. I feel it is wrong at such a time to try and pump her up with positive comments because I don't think its possible to be pumped up when you're that depressed, lost and sad.
We ended up speaking for over 2hrs. She just kept talking and talking about it all and we both had a big bitch about how unfair everything is, and the type of insensitive people out there. She emailed another good friend and told her and her friends reply was 'I guess this isn't the best time to tell you that i'm 6 weeks pregnant' what a BITCH!
I've ALWAYS been able to make my friends laugh and I was thrilled that I was able to make her laugh several times!
She thanked me for calling at the end saying that I made her feel much better.
So is there anything else I can do for her? Send flowers, call her in a few days??? We only live an hour away from each other and we're meeting half way next week. She said that all she wants to do is drown her sorrrows in McDonalds, so I told her when we meet, it will be at MD, we'll grab all we want, go to a park, sit down and eat and talk with no time limits!
If there are any suggestions from those of you who have had the horrible experience of MC, please let me know. I hate to see a good friend in so much pain....I just wish I could take it all away.
She is undergoing tests next month.
I emailed her my condolenses and regrets but just felt the need to ring her and tell her how very sorry I am and that i'm always here for her.
The phone rung for ages and when she answered she was crying. She thought I may have been the Dr and was the only reason she answered - she wasn't taking calls from anyone. I asked if she wanted me to call back another time but she said no.
Now, I have never been through a MC, so I don't know exactly how she feels, I can only imagine.
I just told her how unfair it was, how sorry I was and that I will do anything for her if she needs me to. She started talking about it all and I just listened. I feel it is wrong at such a time to try and pump her up with positive comments because I don't think its possible to be pumped up when you're that depressed, lost and sad.
We ended up speaking for over 2hrs. She just kept talking and talking about it all and we both had a big bitch about how unfair everything is, and the type of insensitive people out there. She emailed another good friend and told her and her friends reply was 'I guess this isn't the best time to tell you that i'm 6 weeks pregnant' what a BITCH!
I've ALWAYS been able to make my friends laugh and I was thrilled that I was able to make her laugh several times!
She thanked me for calling at the end saying that I made her feel much better.
So is there anything else I can do for her? Send flowers, call her in a few days??? We only live an hour away from each other and we're meeting half way next week. She said that all she wants to do is drown her sorrrows in McDonalds, so I told her when we meet, it will be at MD, we'll grab all we want, go to a park, sit down and eat and talk with no time limits!
If there are any suggestions from those of you who have had the horrible experience of MC, please let me know. I hate to see a good friend in so much pain....I just wish I could take it all away.
She is undergoing tests next month.